In this episode, we sit down with the vibrant and inspiring Wendy Valentine, host of The Midlife Makeover Show and author of Women Waking Up: The Midlife Manifesto for Passion, Purpose, and Play. Join us as we talk about how midlife doesn't have to mean crisis—it can mean awakening. Wendy shares her deeply personal story of rebuilding her life from the ground up, and the radical self-love and resilience that fueled her transformation. We dive into the emotional truths of midlife, from grief and divorce to rediscovering joy and authenticity. Wendy doesn't just inspire, she equips you with tangible tools, mindset shifts, and her powerful FREEDOM framework to help you move from stuck to empowered.  Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Welcoming Wendy Valentine and introducing her book, Women Waking Up [2:32] - Wendy shares her rock-bottom moment and the events that triggered her transformation [6:24] - Reframing "crashing out" as a path to growth and renewal [8:25] - The lotus metaphor: finding beauty and strength in the mud of midlife [13:09] - You don’t need a crisis to change: How midlife malaise can be a call to action [14:51] - The most common limiting beliefs Wendy hears from women in midlife [17:37] - Stepping into the light: responsibility, courage, and becoming your own best friend [22:27] - Introducing the FREEDOM framework: 7 steps to rebuild and reclaim your life [27:27] - From "acting" like your future self to becoming her [29:44] - Small changes with big ripple effects [32:49] - Leaping into the unknown: Wendy’s journey into RV life and podcasting [36:22] - Meditation, journaling, and daily habits that shift your brain and your life [40:16] - Rewiring your beliefs through neuroplasticity and self-awareness [43:25] - Trusting yourself and embracing midlife as your time  Links and Resources:Pre-order Wendy’s book Women Waking Up: https://www.wendyvalentine.com ·         Wendy Valentine on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy_valentine_/ Wendy's Substack: https://wendyvalentine.substack.com  If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Come hang out with us in The Chat, our free community for midlife women, where we keep theconversation going at insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat. And don’t forget todownload our free guide 7 Skills to Master Midlife so you can stop living small, start taking action, andlive the life you really want at insightsfromthecouch.org/midlife-roadmap.

We're thrilled to bring you this powerful and myth-busting conversation with Dr. Kelly Casperson, a board-certified urologist, author of You Are Not Broken, and host of the top-rated podcast of the same name. If you’ve ever felt confused, dismissed, or flat-out frustrated by the information (or lack thereof) around perimenopause and menopause, this episode is for you. Dr. Casperson breaks down the science with clarity and humor, helping us all better understand what’s really going on with our hormones—and why we don’t have to just "tough it out." We cover everything from early symptoms like brain fog and poor sleep to the misunderstood role of hormones like estrogen and testosterone. We also talk about how we as women can become better advocates for our health in a system that often leaves us behind.  Episode Highlights:  [4:38] - Debunking the myth that menopause only happens in your 50s—and how "average" doesn't mean "too young." [7:16] - Brain fog, sleep issues, and the importance of estrogen and testosterone for your mental clarity. [16:50] - The real story behind testosterone—what it does, why it's not “just for libido,” and how women actually produce more of it than estrogen. [21:33] - Pros, cons, and controversies of pellets vs. transdermal testosterone and how to advocate for safe, effective treatment. [29:00] - Why age-based hormone treatment guidelines are outdated and how to start thinking preventively about your health. [34:30] - Breast cancer survivors and hormones: navigating a complex and often misinformed landscape. [38:59] - Common myths around risk and how to challenge medical gatekeeping with knowledge and confidence. [42:44] - The fallout from the 2002 Women’s Health Initiative study and how misinformation persists decades later. [44:08] - Where to actually find a menopause-savvy provider who knows the full menu of treatment options. Links & Resources:Dr. Kelly Casperson's Website: https://kellycaspersonmd.com/ Book: You Are Not Broken: https://kellycaspersonmd.com/you-are-not-broken-book/ Upcoming Book: Menopause Moment (September 2025): Pre-Order Now: preorder Kelly's new book about Perimenopause: https://kellycaspersonmd.com/the-menopause-moment-book/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kellycaspersonmd Podcast: You Are Not Broken: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329 Menopause Society Directory: https://menopause.org/  If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Come hang out with us in The Chat, our free community for midlife women, where we keep theconversation going at insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat. And don’t forget todownload our free guide 7 Skills to Master Midlife so you can stop living small, start taking action, andlive the life you really want at insightsfromthecouch.org/midlife-roadmap.

In this episode, we’re discussing the real, raw, and essential skills that every woman needs to navigate midlife with grace, grit, and a whole lot of self-compassion. We’ve been through the highs, the lows, the chutes and ladders of this season, and today we’re pulling back the curtain to share the seven foundational skills we believe every woman should know to not just survive, but thrive. These are the skills we teach in our Midlife Master Class, and the ones that have held us up through the toughest times. From boundary-setting and assertive communication to frustration tolerance, inner parts work, and energy protection—this conversation is packed with insights we’ve lived, taught, and continue to practice ourselves.  Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Why midlife is so hard—and why these 7 skills matter [2:46] - The highlight reel isn’t the whole story (and why we cry behind the scenes) [6:12] - Boundaries: not just with others, but with yourself [9:03] - When your kid is in a toxic relationship (and you want to break up with them yourself) [13:44] - Self-care as a boundary: what it really looks like [14:00] - Assertive communication: the misunderstood superpower [21:10] - Frustration tolerance: why it belongs in your skillset [22:10] - What self-connected communication actually looks like [29:43] - Understanding and befriending your inner critic [31:10] - Why self-compassion isn’t fluffy—it’s essential [33:08] - Protecting your energy: from giving tree to grounded goddess [39:39] - The dance between being needed and being free [41:31] - Redefining resilience as a learned, practiced skill [46:02] - How changing your self-talk becomes your superpower [47:39] - Why doing this work in a group is so powerful (and how you can join us) If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Come hang out with us in The Chat, our free community for midlife women, where we keep theconversation going at insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat. And don’t forget todownload our free guide 7 Skills to Master Midlife so you can stop living small, start taking action, andlive the life you really want at insightsfromthecouch.org/midlife-roadmap.

Hey friends! In this episode, we're thrilled to welcome the incredible Christina Woods—a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Rapid Transformational Therapist, Empowerment Coach, and Reiki Master. Christina brings a wealth of knowledge and a deeply personal story of transformation after decades in corporate leadership. Together, we explore how childhood beliefs, people-pleasing patterns, and midlife awakenings can shape—and reshape—our lives.Christina gets real about her journey from high-achieving executive to empowered healer, sharing how modalities like hypnotherapy, EMDR, and energy work helped her (and now help others) move from burnout to balance. We dig into subconscious beliefs, emotional healing, intuition, and how to rewire the mind for worthiness and self-compassion. You’ll hear both the science and the soul of healing, with laughs, deep truths, and maybe a few thigh stories along the way. Episode Highlights:[0:01] - Laura introduces Christina Woods and her background in therapy and corporate leadership.[1:19] - Christina shares her unraveling: career burnout, divorce, and rediscovering herself.[5:53] - The “garden moment” that sparked Christina’s personal transformation.[7:35] - How hypnotherapy and EMDR opened the door to healing deep trauma. [10:48] - Laura and Christina discuss the power of embodied therapeutic modalities.[14:34] - Colette joins and dives into the hypnotherapy process and how it really works.[20:19] - Can anyone be hypnotized? Busting myths and sharing real client experiences.[24:27] - Custom hypnotherapy audios: why language, music, and intention matter.[27:55] - Common client themes: high achievers, perfectionism, and “not enoughness”.[29:16] - Healing principles from the documentary “HEAL” and why intuition matters.[32:40] - Fear, intuition, and learning to trust your internal compass.[35:58] - Hypnotherapy reveals unconscious beliefs—sometimes from early childhood.[37:39] - Laura and Colette share personal “aha” moments and therapy curiosities.[40:54] - Matching your energy with your mindset to truly hold what you believe you deserve. [41:37] - Where to find Christina online and how to work with her. Resources:Christina Woods’ website: www.christinalwoods.comChristina on Instagram: @christina.lwoodsIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Come hang out with us in The Chat, our free community for midlife women, where we keep theconversation going at insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat. And don’t forget todownload our free guide 7 Skills to Master Midlife so you can stop living small, start taking action, andlive the life you really want at insightsfromthecouch.org/midlife-roadmap.

Ready to reclaim your energy, sanity, and self-worth? In this episode, we’re diving into the unapologetic, liberating mindset of giving zero fucks—specifically, the 10 things we’ve learned to stop caring about at midlife. From good girl conditioning to comparison culture, we unpack the beliefs and behaviors that no longer serve us and explore what it means to live more freely, authentically, and powerfully in this season of life. Episode Highlights:[0:03] – Reclaiming your time and energy with a zero-fucks midlife mindset [0:40] – Why being nice instead of honest keeps us stuck [4:25] – Letting go of comparison and honoring your own path [7:04] – Releasing outdated visions of what life "should" look like [11:52] – Caring less about what others think—spotlight effect and all [16:40] – Ditching the scale: body image, aging, and radical acceptance [21:55] – No more default caretaker role—how to share the labor [26:04] – Redefining beauty: aging with grace, or not [30:49] – Hustling for approval: letting go of external validation [36:23] – Playing small to keep others comfortable? Not anymore [41:16] – Letting go of expectations for other people’s lives If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

This episode we’re joined by the incredible Maryon Stewart, a global pioneer in natural hormone rebalancing and women's health advocate. Maryon drops serious wisdom about how women can navigate perimenopause, menopause, and beyond—without relying on HRT. We talk all about phytoestrogens, nutritional deficiencies, and how small, science-backed changes in diet and lifestyle can lead to huge shifts in how we feel.Whether you're just starting to notice changes or deep in the menopause journey, Maryon’s natural hormone rebalancing protocol (NHRP) offers a roadmap to feeling vibrant again. We go deep into what’s actually happening in our bodies, what the research shows, and why the medical community still isn’t fully caught up. This is the conversation we wish we’d had years ago—so don’t miss it! Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Intro to Maryon Stewart and her revolutionary work on menopause [4:50] - What the FEMMAR community offers and why real-time research updates matter [9:13] - How the NHRP was born and what makes it unique [14:26] - Breaking down the Natural Hormone Rebalancing Protocol (NHRP) [17:21] - Understanding phytoestrogens and how they mimic estrogen naturally [21:07] - Can you really go through menopause without HRT? [24:52] - What phytoestrogens actually are and how they work [28:22] - A look at the diet: what to eat, how to eat, and making it easy [32:27] - Belly fat at midlife: why it happens and what to do about it [34:14] - Post-menopausal zest, community support, and long-term vitality [41:30] - How the medical world is responding and FEMMAR’s growing impact [45:32] - Where to find Maryon, her community, and free resources Links and Resources:Femmar - website and community sign-up https:femmar.com Free Phytoestrogens Food Guide - download from Femmar.com (https://www.femmar.com/newsletter-downloads) Femmar.Hormonal.Health on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/femmar.hormonal.health/?hl=enMaryon Stewart BEM on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maryon-stewart-bem-b806634/ If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! 

Hey friends! In today’s episode of Insights from the Couch, we’re exploring one of our favorite (and most handed-out!) psychological models—the Drama Triangle. If you've ever felt stuck in dysfunctional relationship dynamics, unsure why you're constantly the “rescuer,” “victim,” or “persecutor,” this one's for you. We break down how these roles silently fuel relational chaos and emotional suppression—and most importantly, how to get out.We also introduce the Empowerment Triangle, the powerful antidote that helps you reclaim your agency and transform your relationships. We’re not here for surface-level chatter—we’re all about taking personal responsibility, getting real about what’s not working, and building healthier, more honest connections. So grab your coffee and settle in—we’re getting real about emotional growth, boundary-setting, and stepping into your truth. Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Welcome to Insights from the Couch and intro to "The Chat" community [1:47] - Why we love teaching the Drama Triangle model [3:24] - Defining the three core roles: victim, rescuer, and persecutor [5:34] - The puppet-master energy of the victim role [7:50] - The shift from victimhood to Creator mindset [10:57] - Personal stories on family dynamics and feeling disempowered [13:19] - How rescuers unknowingly uphold dysfunctional systems [16:33] - Gender, parenting, and the over-functioning rescuer [18:26] - Emotional discomfort and the fear that fuels rescuing [22:46] - The persecutor: the role no one wants but everyone needs [25:07] - Why breaking the triangle means risking being “the bad guy” [27:56] - How emotional suppression drives the Drama Triangle [32:54] - Shifting to the Empowerment Triangle: Creator, Coach, and Challenger [35:51] - Taking personal accountability and validating our feelings [38:24] - The difference between rescuing and coaching with compassion [41:05] - How to offer support without enabling [42:06] - Embracing the Challenger role to live in truth [44:33] - Join our new community space “The Chat” at insightsfromthecouch.org Links & Resources:·         Join the conversation and community at: https://www.insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat ·         Learn more about the Drama Triangle and Empowerment Triangle: The Power of TED* by David Emerald·         Recommended reading: The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Midlife weight gain feels like it sneaks up on us—and suddenly what used to work, doesn’t. In this episode, we sit down with our brilliant friend and fitness expert, Dena Pistor, for a no-BS conversation about what it actually takes to manage weight and feel better in perimenopause and beyond. Whether you're frustrated by belly fat that seems to appear overnight, curious about the truth behind diet shots, or just feeling stuck with your health goals, this is the conversation you need.We talk openly (and laugh a lot) about shifting hormones, genetic set points, unrealistic fitness expectations, and why those "quick fix" diets rarely work long term. Dena brings not only her expertise, but her realness—and reminds us what sustainable, holistic health looks like at this stage of life. Spoiler alert: it’s not about being perfect, it’s about finding what’s possible for you. Episode Highlights: [0:02] - Welcoming Dena Pistor and kicking off our midlife weight loss deep dive [1:51] - The “middle” shows up—belly fat, shifting hormones, and midlife body changes [4:35] - Dena explains the science of menopause weight gain and the high-estrogen effect [5:28] - Why slow weight loss might be more sustainable—and when it isn’t [9:34] - The critical role of sleep, stress, and daily activity in weight management [13:27] - “Fit and healthy is a third job”—real talk about time, priorities, and working out [17:33] - Hydration hacks and why water matters more than you think [18:28] - Letting go of the scale obsession and learning to trust your clothes [23:39] - Skipping meals and skimping on protein? Why that’s sabotaging your success [27:09] - “Stop eating selfishly”—rethinking food as fuel, not just pleasure [30:26] - Mediterranean diet love and the power of eating real, satisfying food [33:33] - European food habits vs. U.S. food culture—what we’re up against [36:56] - Gut health, sugar cravings, and stress eating cycles [37:59] - Diet shots like Zepbound—Dena’s evolving perspective and what to watch for [43:40] - Holistic health is the real goal—not shortcuts, but a sustainable lifestyle [44:50] - Final reflections on grace, effort, and why this journey is worth it If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

What happens when the reflection staring back at you no longer matches the youthful image in your mind? In this episode, we peel back the layers of the “midlife mirror” to explore how aging intersects with body image, vanity, and the deep-seated need for validation. We get raw and real about the emotional shifts that come when our appearance begins to change—and how those shifts impact everything from self-esteem to social dynamics.Join us as we unpack the roots of toxic vanity, explain what dysmorphia really looks like (clinically and subclinically), and reflect on our own personal journeys through beauty, invisibility, and evolving self-worth. If you've ever stood in front of the mirror and thought, “Wait, when did I become her?”—this conversation is for you. Let’s talk about what it means to feel alive, radiant, and beautiful from the inside out. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Kicking off with real talk: what “midlife mirror” means and why it hits hard. [2:06] - Defining dysmorphia and the subtle ways it shows up in everyday life. [4:28] - Feeling invisible: grappling with the shift in public attention as we age. [7:39] - The paradox of pretty: how beauty can become both power and prison. [9:56] - Midlife body changes and the identity crisis that follows. [12:15] - Our personal glow-up stories—and what we learned from them. [16:15] - From Botox to body neutrality: what beauty means to us now. [18:04] - Drawing the line between healthy vanity and toxic preoccupation. [22:32] - The ultimate glow-up? Owning your life force and inner radiance. [24:17] - How early messages about looks shape our adult self-worth. [27:09] - Social media’s role in distorting beauty standards—at every age. [28:49] - Tips for cultivating body neutrality, mindfulness, and self-connection. [30:56] - A final reflection: life force > wrinkle-free face, every time. Resources:Join the Chat: https://www.insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat – our free online community where the conversation continues.Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward. 

This week on Insights From the Couch, we sit down with the powerhouse attorney, author, and survivor, Alreen Haeggquist. From her deeply personal story of growing up in an abusive household to becoming a leading legal advocate for survivors of sexual harassment and assault, Alreen’s journey is a testament to the strength of the human spirit—and the power of owning your story.We explore the long path from trauma to triumph, what it really takes to heal, and how acknowledging the past is the first step toward freedom. Alreen shares how inner child work, therapy, and using her voice not only helped her reclaim her own life but gave her the fuel to fight for others. This conversation is vulnerable, honest, and full of insight for anyone on a healing path—or supporting someone who is. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Welcoming Alreen and an intro to her mission and groundbreaking legal work. [2:04] - Alreen’s early life: arranged marriage, family dynamics, and migration. [5:08] - The many forms of survival: escaping abuse through education and independence. [6:26] - Why bullying at school was more bearable than life at home. [8:29] - The breaking point: rage, motherhood, and the moment of awakening. [11:17] - Alreen’s first steps into therapy and realizing healing takes more than four sessions. [12:45] - A pivotal psychodrama experience: naming the abuse for the first time. [16:08] - The power of vulnerability and why speaking out matters. [18:30] - Connecting trauma to physical health and emotional wellbeing. [21:13] - Learning to feel again: inner child work and the journey back to the heart. [25:18] - Bringing personal experience into the courtroom to empower survivors. [26:33] - Breaking down sexual assault civil cases and how justice is pursued. [28:39] - Advocacy in action: educating teens and holding institutions accountable. [31:37] - Teaching kids to trust their gut and speak up. [34:28] - The first step to healing: acknowledge it happened and write it down. [35:58] - The complex family fallout of telling the truth. [39:45] - Secrets and silence vs. truth and generational healing. [42:58] - Why acknowledging abuse isn’t rare—it’s revolutionary. Resources:📚 Fired Up: Fueling Triumph From Trauma by Alreen Haeggquist — available on Amazon 🌐 Learn more about Alreen’s work and book at www.alreen.comMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

Hey everyone—We’re diving into a topic that gets tossed around a lot but rarely unpacked in a way that actually matters: self-care. If you’ve ever felt confused or overwhelmed by what self-care really is (and isn’t), this is for you. In this episode, we unpack the myths, call out the cultural noise, and get real about what it truly means to care for yourself, especially during midlife.We talk about the difference between real self-care and the performative kind, and how embodying your values, setting boundaries, and nurturing self-compassion can actually refill your tank. We’re sharing personal practices, therapeutic insights, and a whole lot of laughter as we redefine what it means to be replenished. It’s not spa days and wine nights (though, we won’t judge if you enjoy those too!). Get ready to reframe self-care in a way that truly supports the life you’re trying to build. Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Welcome back + intro to real self-care vs. cultural hype. [1:13] - Why “self-care” can feel like a loaded or empty word. [2:06] - Breaking down faux self-care and the influence of marketing. [4:28] - The truth about performing femininity and hustle culture. [7:45] - Defining escapism vs. true replenishment. [10:40] - Tuning into your inner needs and building self-awareness. [12:44] - Real self-care is simple: boundaries, balance, connection. [14:59] - The power of self-compassion and Kristen Neff’s work. [18:41] - Our own self-care routines and mindsets. [24:17] - The role of creativity and play in replenishment. [29:22] - Why unstructured time is essential. [30:27] - Struggles with attention and learning to do one thing at a time. [31:06] - Rediscovering the joy and nourishment of reading. [32:24] - Final reflections + practical takeaways. Resources:Midlife Master Class Waitlist: insightsfromthecouch.orgKristen Neff’s Self-Compassion Work: self-compassion.org Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward. 

In this episode, we're taking a closer look at the science (and soul) of happiness—not that shiny, fake, “good vibes only” stuff, but the real-deal, research-backed version. After attending a powerful talk by Harvard professor and happiness expert Arthur C. Brooks, we came back buzzing with insights, and we couldn’t wait to break it all down for you.We’re exploring what happiness actually means—spoiler: it’s not just about smiling all the time—and how much of it is actually within our control. From the surprising role of genetics to the transformational power of habits, transcendence, relationships, and creative work, we’re sharing key takeaways and offering practical, therapist-approved strategies to help you create a more meaningful, joyful, and resilient life. Episode Highlights:[0:47] - Our field trip to see Arthur C. Brooks live and why he's the happiness guy. [1:37] - The surprising science: 50% of happiness is genetic—wait, what?! [4:44] - Redefining happiness: Enjoyment, satisfaction, and meaning. [6:11] - The real meaning of pleasure (hint: not just wine and cheese nights). [9:10] - What satisfaction really means and why feeling effective is everything. [11:12] - Meaning-making as a mental health superpower. [13:06] - Resilience and post-traumatic growth: Turning lemons into lemonade. [16:46] - Grappling with life’s big questions: “Why are you here?” and “What would you die for?” [19:20] - Transcendence: Spirituality beyond religion and finding awe in everyday moments. [22:27] - Flow state magic: What gets us into it (spoiler: puzzles and cleaning included!). [27:51] - The #1 predictor of happiness: Relationships and why they matter so much. [30:17] - The power of community and intentional connection. [31:25] - Finding purpose in your work—however you define it. [33:41] - The art of the “active dabble” and why it’s okay to not know what lights you up (yet). [35:49] - Wrapping with wisdom: Radical responsibility and the risks of autonomy. Resources:Arthur C. BrooksDownload the “Risks of Autonomy” worksheet and other episode resources at insightsfromthecouch.orgMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

How do we create deep, secure, and lasting relationships—not just in romance, but in parenting, friendships, and even with ourselves? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Tara Boothby, psychologist, author of Love and Love’s Energy, and expert in attachment science. She takes us on a journey into the heart of connection, breaking down the complexities of attachment styles, emotional safety, and the power of co-regulation.We explore the difference between being loved and lovable, how attachment wounds impact our relationships, and why true security is something we earn over time. Plus, Tara shares her own evolution from skepticism about attachment theory to fully embracing what she calls “love science.” Dr. Tara Boothby, Registered Psychologist, and Author of "Love and Love's Energy: How Attachment Science Proves That Love Nurtures Our Biological Nature, Impacts Our Positive View of Ourselves, of Others, and of God, and Teaches Us All How to Love." Episode Highlights:[00:03] - Welcome! Introducing Dr. Tara Boothby & the power of attachment science.[02:23] - How Tara went from doubting attachment theory to embracing “love science”.[04:26] - The truth about attachment styles: It’s not as simple as you think. [06:36] - What it really means to be securely attached (hint: it’s a process, not a label). [09:20] - The hidden fears behind our relationship struggles. [14:02] - Co-regulation vs. self-regulation: Why we heal faster in relationships. [19:25] - The importance of repair in relationships & why small moments matter most. [32:02] - “Earning” security: Can we heal from past attachment wounds? [40:26] - Knowing when to press pause (or end) on unhealthy relationships. [50:11] - Loving yourself: The foundation of all secure relationships. Resources:"Love and Love’s Energy" can be found on Amazon worldwide, Kindle, and Barnes and Noble.Instagram:Tara Boothby: https://www.instagram.com/tara_boothby/profilecard/?igsh=anpwbGs1eXMwaHVl Sojourn Psychology: https://www.instagram.com/sojournpsychology/profilecard/?igsh=MTZ5azlsYjJjZG9sbg%3D%3D               Website: https://sojo.ca/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SojournPsychology ?Get Clear on What You Want in Your Sex Life: Free Download! For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Hey friends! We cannot believe we’re saying this—but it's officially been ONE YEAR since we launched Insights from the Couch! Not only are we celebrating our podcast anniversary, but this is also our 50th episode, and we're taking a moment to reflect on the wild, messy, beautiful journey that brought us here. Spoiler alert: we had no idea what we were doing when we started, but we’re proof that big things can happen when you leap before you feel "ready."In this episode, we open up about the highs, the facepalms, and everything in between—from our tech-challenged beginnings to what we’ve learned about confidence, commitment, distress tolerance, and doing the damn thing scared. Whether you're dreaming of launching your own podcast, writing a book, or finally going after that idea you've been sitting on, we promise this episode will light a fire under you. And yes, we get vulnerable about our own fears and insecurities—because that’s just how we roll. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Celebrating our one-year podcast anniversary and our 50th episode.[1:28] - The unexpected start and original podcast name that didn’t make the cut.[3:06] - Why we felt called to fill a gap for midlife women’s voices.[4:39] - Our “just go for it” launch story—no formal course, all in on action.[6:07] - Why starting before you’re ready is the key to unlocking clarity.[7:50] - A powerful discussion on perfectionism and how it holds women back.[9:35] - The underrated magic of willingness and how it drives everything.[13:55] - Colette’s wild Cornell summer and learning through discomfort.[16:00] - What distress tolerance really looks like in everyday life. [18:44] - Building confidence through action, not waiting to “feel ready”. [24:43] - Laura’s real talk on growing your work capacity and attention. [26:58] - Colette’s TEDx talk moment and learning to survive embarrassment. [31:48] - Riding the cringe: how to show up, even when it’s uncomfortable. [33:07] - Behind the scenes of our partnership and working styles. [34:35] - Announcing our new Midlife Master Class group (coming soon!). [36:45] - The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and why we’re not waiting anymore. [38:00] - A call for listener questions—let us know how we can support YOU. Resources:Visit our website: https://www.insightsfromthecouch.orgSubmit your questions or topics for future episodes: info@insightsfromthecouch.orgWe’re beyond grateful to each of you who has listened, shared, or supported Insights from the Couch over this past year. You’ve helped us build something truly special, and we can’t wait to grow even more together. If you loved this episode, please take a moment to rate, follow, share, and review—it means the world to us.See you next week! 

What actually works for healthy, vibrant skin—and what’s just hype? In this episode, we sit down with the brilliant and refreshingly honest Dr. Mary Alice Mina, Harvard-trained dermatologist and host of The Skin Real podcast. We dive deep into what midlife skin really needs, what treatments are worth the money, and how hormonal changes can shake up everything we thought we knew about our skincare routines.Together, we unpack skin minimalism, sunscreen truths (spoiler: it really matters), and the difference between aging gracefully and chasing the next trending procedure. We also get personal—sharing our own frustrations about neck bands, droopy brows, and that “face falling” feeling—and ask Dr. Mina everything from estrogen creams to slugging and Botox.  Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Welcoming Dr. Mary Alice Mina and diving into hormonal changes and midlife skin shifts.[3:38] - Our own candid stories about "face falling" and dry, aging skin.[5:00] - The psychological toll of aging and the importance of internal confidence.[8:10] - What “skin minimalism” actually means—and why less really can be more.[11:37] - Estrogen’s role in skin hydration and how perimenopause changes everything.[13:53] - Sunscreen strategy: how often to reapply, the importance of hats, and Dr. Mina’s favorite brands. [19:07] - Retinoids 101: how and when to use them for best results. [20:26] - All about neck bands: what works (and what doesn’t). [26:09] - Estrogen creams for the face: what Dr. Mina prescribes and how it works. [28:58] - Why sleep is skin care and how sleep deprivation shows up on your face. [30:58] - Sunscreen myths, TikTok fads, and Dr. Mina’s biggest dermatology pet peeves.[33:59] - Genetics vs. skincare habits—what really makes the difference.[40:16] - Starting or restarting retinoids without overwhelming your skin.[40:39] - Why annual skin checks are essential and how to talk to your dermatologist.[43:31] - How to connect with Dr. Mina and find your “skin style” through her quiz. Resources:Dr. Mary Alice Mina’s Podcast: The Skin RealFind your skin style quiz: https://www.theskinreal.com/style Skincare Compounding: Skin Medicinals (estriol cream)Sunscreen favorites: EltaMD, La Roche-Posay, Neutrogena StickInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drminaskin  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drminaskinYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@drminaskinTitktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drminaskinMedium: https://medium.com/@drminaskinLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drminaskin/Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/06k6qtsxj4uvtpulz6w5ghdc8l2gwo/Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

What happens when you spend your whole life taking care of others, and suddenly realize you’ve lost yourself in the process? In this powerful episode, we sit down with Debbie R. Weiss, bestselling author, entrepreneur, and inspirational speaker, who shares how she spent decades as a family caregiver—first to her father, then to her son with autism, and later to her husband battling mental illness and cancer. At 50, she had an epiphany: if she didn’t start prioritizing herself, she’d keep putting her own life on hold.Debbie opens up about her journey of shifting from a victim mentality to taking ownership of her life, making small mindset shifts that led to massive transformation. We dive into breaking limiting beliefs, overcoming life’s toughest challenges, and chasing dreams—even when you’re not sure what they are yet. If you’ve ever felt stuck in your circumstances, this conversation will leave you inspired and ready to take action. Episode Highlights:[0:02] – Meet Debbie R. Weiss: Author, speaker, and lifelong caregiver.[2:28] – Becoming a caregiver at 17: navigating life after her father’s stroke.[5:41] – Running a business while balancing caregiving and family responsibilities.[9:39] – The devastating moment when her husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer.[12:12] – Breaking free from the victim mentality and taking responsibility.[17:43] – The mindset shift that finally led to lasting weight loss.[24:55] – How small, consistent actions can transform your life.[31:16] – What Debbie’s life looks like now: embracing new possibilities.[38:35] – The power of saying yes and how it led her to writing. [41:22] – Debbie’s best advice for women who feel stuck in their circumstances. Resources:Debbie Weiss’s Website: https://www.debbierweiss.com Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

In this heartfelt episode, we’re joined by our dear friend and fellow therapist, Helen Keeling-Neal, as she bravely shares her journey through grief after the sudden loss of her husband. Helen opens up about the profound and unexpected challenges that come with navigating life as a young widow and single mom, all while finding ways to heal, grow, and embrace a new path forward. Whether you’ve experienced a similar loss or simply want to support a loved one going through grief, Helen’s story is full of insights, compassion, and real-life wisdom.We explore the complexities of grief, from the early shock and survival mode to the ongoing journey of healing and finding purpose. Helen discusses the tools and support systems that helped her, including therapy and community, and she offers invaluable advice on how to be there for someone experiencing loss.  Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Introducing Helen Keeling-Neal and her story of sudden loss.[2:00] - The immediate impact of losing a spouse and going into “survival mode.”[3:26] - Dealing with the “business of death” and the logistics of loss.[6:54] - Finding support: How friends, family, and community showed up.[9:36] - Coping strategies: Therapy, EMDR, and the importance of avoiding quick fixes.[12:58] - Raising young children through grief and balancing career shifts.[17:51] - Understanding attachment and compound grief in the healing process.[23:31] - Moving forward in new relationships and dealing with fears of loss.[29:19] - Top tips for navigating grief and healing after losing a loved one. Resources:For EMDR therapy: https://www.emdria.org/For ART: https://acceleratedresolutiontherapy.com/To find a therapist for grief near you: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists?Get Clear on What You Want in Your Sex Life: Free Download!  For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Do you find yourself saying “yes” when you really want to say “no”? Do you feel responsible for keeping the peace, even at your own expense? If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. From childhood conditioning and gender expectations to how this behavior shows up in our adult relationships—romantic, professional, and personal—we’re talking about it all.In this episode, we get real about our own struggles and growth around people pleasing. We explore the line between kindness and self-abandonment, how saying “no” can actually strengthen relationships, and the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways we’ve learned to reclaim our voices. If you’ve ever wrestled with resentment, vagueness, or fear of being “the bad guy,” you’re not alone—and there’s a way out. Tune in as we share stories, insights, and actionable strategies for building healthier boundaries without losing your sense of connection. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Why people pleasing hits so close to home for both of us.[1:14] - The difference between being genuinely kind vs. being "nice" to your own detriment.[3:49] - Laura's story: Growing up flanked by strong personalities and learning to placate.[6:46] - How family patterns condition our conflict tolerance in adulthood.[8:32] - Colette’s evolution in romantic relationships and the fear of losing love.[10:11] - Assertiveness is a muscle: why it takes time and practice to break the habit.[11:02] - People pleasing ≠ being confident and kind. It often leads to resentment.[12:51] - Key signs of people pleasing from Psychology Today’s checklist.[13:31] - Natural boundaries: how structure and routine can minimize people pleasing.[15:25] - Boundaries at work: why therapy helped us develop clear limits.[17:21] - Practicing assertiveness in safe relationships and why that matters.[22:08] - The real cost of people pleasing on your mental and emotional health.[23:17] - Gabor Maté and the connection between chronic niceness and physical illness.[26:06] - Practical tips: writing out your thoughts, using scripts, and buying time.[30:38] - Parenting and people pleasing: where we still struggle (and how we’re working on it).[33:59] - The importance of learning to self-define, and why assertiveness isn’t aggressiveness.[34:33] - The Giving Tree metaphor and recognizing when you’ve become the stump.[36:05] - Final tips: Practice, write it out, externalize, and invest in safe relationships.[37:12] - Where to take the “Are You a People Pleaser?” test and how to connect with us. Resources:Take the “Are You a People Pleaser?” quiz at: https://insightsfromthecouch.orgLearn more about the podcast and access show archives at: Insights From the CouchMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

In this eye-opening episode, we sit down with Nicole Swartz, a licensed therapist specializing in helping people heal from the damaging effects of diet culture and generational body-image trauma. Nicole shares her personal story of overcoming an eating disorder, offers insights into her revolutionary coaching program, and explains how shifting mindsets around food and body image can create lasting, positive change for both individuals and families. This conversation dives into how diet culture infiltrates our lives, generational differences in attitudes toward body image, and the transformative power of self-compassion and acceptance.  Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Meet Nicole Swartz: Therapist, coach, and passionate advocate for breaking free from diet culture. [5:00] - Nicole’s personal journey: From a childhood steeped in diet culture to finding healing and creating her coaching program. [8:35] - How generational differences shape body image and food habits. [13:28] - The rise of body positivity among Gen Z and its cultural impact. [18:24] - Navigating the fine line between self-acceptance and the desire for change. [25:52] - Addressing the challenges of an obesogenic culture and finding balance in food choices. [29:12] - Transforming inner dialogue: How to move from self-criticism to self-compassion. [34:00] - Teaching children a balanced approach to food and body acceptance. [47:51] - Letting go of the shame around food and embracing a healthier narrative. Resources:Connect with Nicole Swartz: https://www.instagram.com/antidiet_therapist Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

Are you navigating the tricky world of dating after divorce? In this heartfelt and hilarious episode, we sit down with the incredible Andrea Baker, an actor, voiceover artist, and co-host of the pet-centric podcast Tales to Tell. Andrea opens up about her personal journey through divorce, the unexpected twists of dating midlife, and the surprising lessons learned along the way. Together, we explore the challenges of rediscovering yourself, setting boundaries, and embracing both independence and connection.Andrea’s candid and relatable storytelling will leave you inspired and laughing, while her practical insights might just reshape how you think about love, self-worth, and new beginnings.  Episode Highlights:[0:01] - Welcoming Andrea Baker and diving into her unique journey post-divorce.[3:09] - The harsh realities of starting to date again after a major breakup.[8:55] - Andrea’s wisdom on healing from infidelity and the importance of self-care.[14:25] - The lessons learned from dating younger men and embracing new experiences.[19:52] - Andrea’s “onboarding process” for dating—grammar checks included![28:31] - How Andrea turned her divorce into an empowering “freedom tour.”[37:24] - The ultimate takeaway: love yourself first, and live your best life—partner or not.  Resources:Connect with Andrea on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreaebaker Listen to Andrea’s podcast: Tales to Tell (For pet lovers and professionals alike!): https://open.spotify.com/show/099CknEDl92F3ANh9HFSrz For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.