Midlife weight gain feels like it sneaks up on us—and suddenly what used to work, doesn’t. In this episode, we sit down with our brilliant friend and fitness expert, Dena Pistor, for a no-BS conversation about what it actually takes to manage weight and feel better in perimenopause and beyond. Whether you're frustrated by belly fat that seems to appear overnight, curious about the truth behind diet shots, or just feeling stuck with your health goals, this is the conversation you need.We talk openly (and laugh a lot) about shifting hormones, genetic set points, unrealistic fitness expectations, and why those "quick fix" diets rarely work long term. Dena brings not only her expertise, but her realness—and reminds us what sustainable, holistic health looks like at this stage of life. Spoiler alert: it’s not about being perfect, it’s about finding what’s possible for you. Episode Highlights: [0:02] - Welcoming Dena Pistor and kicking off our midlife weight loss deep dive [1:51] - The “middle” shows up—belly fat, shifting hormones, and midlife body changes [4:35] - Dena explains the science of menopause weight gain and the high-estrogen effect [5:28] - Why slow weight loss might be more sustainable—and when it isn’t [9:34] - The critical role of sleep, stress, and daily activity in weight management [13:27] - “Fit and healthy is a third job”—real talk about time, priorities, and working out [17:33] - Hydration hacks and why water matters more than you think [18:28] - Letting go of the scale obsession and learning to trust your clothes [23:39] - Skipping meals and skimping on protein? Why that’s sabotaging your success [27:09] - “Stop eating selfishly”—rethinking food as fuel, not just pleasure [30:26] - Mediterranean diet love and the power of eating real, satisfying food [33:33] - European food habits vs. U.S. food culture—what we’re up against [36:56] - Gut health, sugar cravings, and stress eating cycles [37:59] - Diet shots like Zepbound—Dena’s evolving perspective and what to watch for [43:40] - Holistic health is the real goal—not shortcuts, but a sustainable lifestyle [44:50] - Final reflections on grace, effort, and why this journey is worth it If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

What happens when the reflection staring back at you no longer matches the youthful image in your mind? In this episode, we peel back the layers of the “midlife mirror” to explore how aging intersects with body image, vanity, and the deep-seated need for validation. We get raw and real about the emotional shifts that come when our appearance begins to change—and how those shifts impact everything from self-esteem to social dynamics.Join us as we unpack the roots of toxic vanity, explain what dysmorphia really looks like (clinically and subclinically), and reflect on our own personal journeys through beauty, invisibility, and evolving self-worth. If you've ever stood in front of the mirror and thought, “Wait, when did I become her?”—this conversation is for you. Let’s talk about what it means to feel alive, radiant, and beautiful from the inside out. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Kicking off with real talk: what “midlife mirror” means and why it hits hard. [2:06] - Defining dysmorphia and the subtle ways it shows up in everyday life. [4:28] - Feeling invisible: grappling with the shift in public attention as we age. [7:39] - The paradox of pretty: how beauty can become both power and prison. [9:56] - Midlife body changes and the identity crisis that follows. [12:15] - Our personal glow-up stories—and what we learned from them. [16:15] - From Botox to body neutrality: what beauty means to us now. [18:04] - Drawing the line between healthy vanity and toxic preoccupation. [22:32] - The ultimate glow-up? Owning your life force and inner radiance. [24:17] - How early messages about looks shape our adult self-worth. [27:09] - Social media’s role in distorting beauty standards—at every age. [28:49] - Tips for cultivating body neutrality, mindfulness, and self-connection. [30:56] - A final reflection: life force > wrinkle-free face, every time. Resources:Join the Chat: https://www.insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat – our free online community where the conversation continues.Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward. 

This week on Insights From the Couch, we sit down with the powerhouse attorney, author, and survivor, Alreen Haeggquist. From her deeply personal story of growing up in an abusive household to becoming a leading legal advocate for survivors of sexual harassment and assault, Alreen’s journey is a testament to the strength of the human spirit—and the power of owning your story.We explore the long path from trauma to triumph, what it really takes to heal, and how acknowledging the past is the first step toward freedom. Alreen shares how inner child work, therapy, and using her voice not only helped her reclaim her own life but gave her the fuel to fight for others. This conversation is vulnerable, honest, and full of insight for anyone on a healing path—or supporting someone who is. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Welcoming Alreen and an intro to her mission and groundbreaking legal work. [2:04] - Alreen’s early life: arranged marriage, family dynamics, and migration. [5:08] - The many forms of survival: escaping abuse through education and independence. [6:26] - Why bullying at school was more bearable than life at home. [8:29] - The breaking point: rage, motherhood, and the moment of awakening. [11:17] - Alreen’s first steps into therapy and realizing healing takes more than four sessions. [12:45] - A pivotal psychodrama experience: naming the abuse for the first time. [16:08] - The power of vulnerability and why speaking out matters. [18:30] - Connecting trauma to physical health and emotional wellbeing. [21:13] - Learning to feel again: inner child work and the journey back to the heart. [25:18] - Bringing personal experience into the courtroom to empower survivors. [26:33] - Breaking down sexual assault civil cases and how justice is pursued. [28:39] - Advocacy in action: educating teens and holding institutions accountable. [31:37] - Teaching kids to trust their gut and speak up. [34:28] - The first step to healing: acknowledge it happened and write it down. [35:58] - The complex family fallout of telling the truth. [39:45] - Secrets and silence vs. truth and generational healing. [42:58] - Why acknowledging abuse isn’t rare—it’s revolutionary. Resources:📚 Fired Up: Fueling Triumph From Trauma by Alreen Haeggquist — available on Amazon 🌐 Learn more about Alreen’s work and book at www.alreen.comMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

Hey everyone—We’re diving into a topic that gets tossed around a lot but rarely unpacked in a way that actually matters: self-care. If you’ve ever felt confused or overwhelmed by what self-care really is (and isn’t), this is for you. In this episode, we unpack the myths, call out the cultural noise, and get real about what it truly means to care for yourself, especially during midlife.We talk about the difference between real self-care and the performative kind, and how embodying your values, setting boundaries, and nurturing self-compassion can actually refill your tank. We’re sharing personal practices, therapeutic insights, and a whole lot of laughter as we redefine what it means to be replenished. It’s not spa days and wine nights (though, we won’t judge if you enjoy those too!). Get ready to reframe self-care in a way that truly supports the life you’re trying to build. Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Welcome back + intro to real self-care vs. cultural hype. [1:13] - Why “self-care” can feel like a loaded or empty word. [2:06] - Breaking down faux self-care and the influence of marketing. [4:28] - The truth about performing femininity and hustle culture. [7:45] - Defining escapism vs. true replenishment. [10:40] - Tuning into your inner needs and building self-awareness. [12:44] - Real self-care is simple: boundaries, balance, connection. [14:59] - The power of self-compassion and Kristen Neff’s work. [18:41] - Our own self-care routines and mindsets. [24:17] - The role of creativity and play in replenishment. [29:22] - Why unstructured time is essential. [30:27] - Struggles with attention and learning to do one thing at a time. [31:06] - Rediscovering the joy and nourishment of reading. [32:24] - Final reflections + practical takeaways. Resources:Midlife Master Class Waitlist: insightsfromthecouch.orgKristen Neff’s Self-Compassion Work: self-compassion.org Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward. 

In this episode, we're taking a closer look at the science (and soul) of happiness—not that shiny, fake, “good vibes only” stuff, but the real-deal, research-backed version. After attending a powerful talk by Harvard professor and happiness expert Arthur C. Brooks, we came back buzzing with insights, and we couldn’t wait to break it all down for you.We’re exploring what happiness actually means—spoiler: it’s not just about smiling all the time—and how much of it is actually within our control. From the surprising role of genetics to the transformational power of habits, transcendence, relationships, and creative work, we’re sharing key takeaways and offering practical, therapist-approved strategies to help you create a more meaningful, joyful, and resilient life. Episode Highlights:[0:47] - Our field trip to see Arthur C. Brooks live and why he's the happiness guy. [1:37] - The surprising science: 50% of happiness is genetic—wait, what?! [4:44] - Redefining happiness: Enjoyment, satisfaction, and meaning. [6:11] - The real meaning of pleasure (hint: not just wine and cheese nights). [9:10] - What satisfaction really means and why feeling effective is everything. [11:12] - Meaning-making as a mental health superpower. [13:06] - Resilience and post-traumatic growth: Turning lemons into lemonade. [16:46] - Grappling with life’s big questions: “Why are you here?” and “What would you die for?” [19:20] - Transcendence: Spirituality beyond religion and finding awe in everyday moments. [22:27] - Flow state magic: What gets us into it (spoiler: puzzles and cleaning included!). [27:51] - The #1 predictor of happiness: Relationships and why they matter so much. [30:17] - The power of community and intentional connection. [31:25] - Finding purpose in your work—however you define it. [33:41] - The art of the “active dabble” and why it’s okay to not know what lights you up (yet). [35:49] - Wrapping with wisdom: Radical responsibility and the risks of autonomy. Resources:Arthur C. BrooksDownload the “Risks of Autonomy” worksheet and other episode resources at insightsfromthecouch.orgMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

How do we create deep, secure, and lasting relationships—not just in romance, but in parenting, friendships, and even with ourselves? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Tara Boothby, psychologist, author of Love and Love’s Energy, and expert in attachment science. She takes us on a journey into the heart of connection, breaking down the complexities of attachment styles, emotional safety, and the power of co-regulation.We explore the difference between being loved and lovable, how attachment wounds impact our relationships, and why true security is something we earn over time. Plus, Tara shares her own evolution from skepticism about attachment theory to fully embracing what she calls “love science.” Dr. Tara Boothby, Registered Psychologist, and Author of "Love and Love's Energy: How Attachment Science Proves That Love Nurtures Our Biological Nature, Impacts Our Positive View of Ourselves, of Others, and of God, and Teaches Us All How to Love." Episode Highlights:[00:03] - Welcome! Introducing Dr. Tara Boothby & the power of attachment science.[02:23] - How Tara went from doubting attachment theory to embracing “love science”.[04:26] - The truth about attachment styles: It’s not as simple as you think. [06:36] - What it really means to be securely attached (hint: it’s a process, not a label). [09:20] - The hidden fears behind our relationship struggles. [14:02] - Co-regulation vs. self-regulation: Why we heal faster in relationships. [19:25] - The importance of repair in relationships & why small moments matter most. [32:02] - “Earning” security: Can we heal from past attachment wounds? [40:26] - Knowing when to press pause (or end) on unhealthy relationships. [50:11] - Loving yourself: The foundation of all secure relationships. Resources:"Love and Love’s Energy" can be found on Amazon worldwide, Kindle, and Barnes and Noble.Instagram:Tara Boothby: https://www.instagram.com/tara_boothby/profilecard/?igsh=anpwbGs1eXMwaHVl Sojourn Psychology: https://www.instagram.com/sojournpsychology/profilecard/?igsh=MTZ5azlsYjJjZG9sbg%3D%3D               Website: https://sojo.ca/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SojournPsychology ?Get Clear on What You Want in Your Sex Life: Free Download! For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Hey friends! We cannot believe we’re saying this—but it's officially been ONE YEAR since we launched Insights from the Couch! Not only are we celebrating our podcast anniversary, but this is also our 50th episode, and we're taking a moment to reflect on the wild, messy, beautiful journey that brought us here. Spoiler alert: we had no idea what we were doing when we started, but we’re proof that big things can happen when you leap before you feel "ready."In this episode, we open up about the highs, the facepalms, and everything in between—from our tech-challenged beginnings to what we’ve learned about confidence, commitment, distress tolerance, and doing the damn thing scared. Whether you're dreaming of launching your own podcast, writing a book, or finally going after that idea you've been sitting on, we promise this episode will light a fire under you. And yes, we get vulnerable about our own fears and insecurities—because that’s just how we roll. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Celebrating our one-year podcast anniversary and our 50th episode.[1:28] - The unexpected start and original podcast name that didn’t make the cut.[3:06] - Why we felt called to fill a gap for midlife women’s voices.[4:39] - Our “just go for it” launch story—no formal course, all in on action.[6:07] - Why starting before you’re ready is the key to unlocking clarity.[7:50] - A powerful discussion on perfectionism and how it holds women back.[9:35] - The underrated magic of willingness and how it drives everything.[13:55] - Colette’s wild Cornell summer and learning through discomfort.[16:00] - What distress tolerance really looks like in everyday life. [18:44] - Building confidence through action, not waiting to “feel ready”. [24:43] - Laura’s real talk on growing your work capacity and attention. [26:58] - Colette’s TEDx talk moment and learning to survive embarrassment. [31:48] - Riding the cringe: how to show up, even when it’s uncomfortable. [33:07] - Behind the scenes of our partnership and working styles. [34:35] - Announcing our new Midlife Master Class group (coming soon!). [36:45] - The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and why we’re not waiting anymore. [38:00] - A call for listener questions—let us know how we can support YOU. Resources:Visit our website: https://www.insightsfromthecouch.orgSubmit your questions or topics for future episodes: info@insightsfromthecouch.orgWe’re beyond grateful to each of you who has listened, shared, or supported Insights from the Couch over this past year. You’ve helped us build something truly special, and we can’t wait to grow even more together. If you loved this episode, please take a moment to rate, follow, share, and review—it means the world to us.See you next week! 

What actually works for healthy, vibrant skin—and what’s just hype? In this episode, we sit down with the brilliant and refreshingly honest Dr. Mary Alice Mina, Harvard-trained dermatologist and host of The Skin Real podcast. We dive deep into what midlife skin really needs, what treatments are worth the money, and how hormonal changes can shake up everything we thought we knew about our skincare routines.Together, we unpack skin minimalism, sunscreen truths (spoiler: it really matters), and the difference between aging gracefully and chasing the next trending procedure. We also get personal—sharing our own frustrations about neck bands, droopy brows, and that “face falling” feeling—and ask Dr. Mina everything from estrogen creams to slugging and Botox.  Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Welcoming Dr. Mary Alice Mina and diving into hormonal changes and midlife skin shifts.[3:38] - Our own candid stories about "face falling" and dry, aging skin.[5:00] - The psychological toll of aging and the importance of internal confidence.[8:10] - What “skin minimalism” actually means—and why less really can be more.[11:37] - Estrogen’s role in skin hydration and how perimenopause changes everything.[13:53] - Sunscreen strategy: how often to reapply, the importance of hats, and Dr. Mina’s favorite brands. [19:07] - Retinoids 101: how and when to use them for best results. [20:26] - All about neck bands: what works (and what doesn’t). [26:09] - Estrogen creams for the face: what Dr. Mina prescribes and how it works. [28:58] - Why sleep is skin care and how sleep deprivation shows up on your face. [30:58] - Sunscreen myths, TikTok fads, and Dr. Mina’s biggest dermatology pet peeves.[33:59] - Genetics vs. skincare habits—what really makes the difference.[40:16] - Starting or restarting retinoids without overwhelming your skin.[40:39] - Why annual skin checks are essential and how to talk to your dermatologist.[43:31] - How to connect with Dr. Mina and find your “skin style” through her quiz. Resources:Dr. Mary Alice Mina’s Podcast: The Skin RealFind your skin style quiz: https://www.theskinreal.com/style Skincare Compounding: Skin Medicinals (estriol cream)Sunscreen favorites: EltaMD, La Roche-Posay, Neutrogena StickInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drminaskin  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drminaskinYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@drminaskinTitktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drminaskinMedium: https://medium.com/@drminaskinLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drminaskin/Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/06k6qtsxj4uvtpulz6w5ghdc8l2gwo/Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

What happens when you spend your whole life taking care of others, and suddenly realize you’ve lost yourself in the process? In this powerful episode, we sit down with Debbie R. Weiss, bestselling author, entrepreneur, and inspirational speaker, who shares how she spent decades as a family caregiver—first to her father, then to her son with autism, and later to her husband battling mental illness and cancer. At 50, she had an epiphany: if she didn’t start prioritizing herself, she’d keep putting her own life on hold.Debbie opens up about her journey of shifting from a victim mentality to taking ownership of her life, making small mindset shifts that led to massive transformation. We dive into breaking limiting beliefs, overcoming life’s toughest challenges, and chasing dreams—even when you’re not sure what they are yet. If you’ve ever felt stuck in your circumstances, this conversation will leave you inspired and ready to take action. Episode Highlights:[0:02] – Meet Debbie R. Weiss: Author, speaker, and lifelong caregiver.[2:28] – Becoming a caregiver at 17: navigating life after her father’s stroke.[5:41] – Running a business while balancing caregiving and family responsibilities.[9:39] – The devastating moment when her husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer.[12:12] – Breaking free from the victim mentality and taking responsibility.[17:43] – The mindset shift that finally led to lasting weight loss.[24:55] – How small, consistent actions can transform your life.[31:16] – What Debbie’s life looks like now: embracing new possibilities.[38:35] – The power of saying yes and how it led her to writing. [41:22] – Debbie’s best advice for women who feel stuck in their circumstances. Resources:Debbie Weiss’s Website: https://www.debbierweiss.com Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

In this heartfelt episode, we’re joined by our dear friend and fellow therapist, Helen Keeling-Neal, as she bravely shares her journey through grief after the sudden loss of her husband. Helen opens up about the profound and unexpected challenges that come with navigating life as a young widow and single mom, all while finding ways to heal, grow, and embrace a new path forward. Whether you’ve experienced a similar loss or simply want to support a loved one going through grief, Helen’s story is full of insights, compassion, and real-life wisdom.We explore the complexities of grief, from the early shock and survival mode to the ongoing journey of healing and finding purpose. Helen discusses the tools and support systems that helped her, including therapy and community, and she offers invaluable advice on how to be there for someone experiencing loss.  Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Introducing Helen Keeling-Neal and her story of sudden loss.[2:00] - The immediate impact of losing a spouse and going into “survival mode.”[3:26] - Dealing with the “business of death” and the logistics of loss.[6:54] - Finding support: How friends, family, and community showed up.[9:36] - Coping strategies: Therapy, EMDR, and the importance of avoiding quick fixes.[12:58] - Raising young children through grief and balancing career shifts.[17:51] - Understanding attachment and compound grief in the healing process.[23:31] - Moving forward in new relationships and dealing with fears of loss.[29:19] - Top tips for navigating grief and healing after losing a loved one. Resources:For EMDR therapy: https://www.emdria.org/For ART: https://acceleratedresolutiontherapy.com/To find a therapist for grief near you: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists?Get Clear on What You Want in Your Sex Life: Free Download!  For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Do you find yourself saying “yes” when you really want to say “no”? Do you feel responsible for keeping the peace, even at your own expense? If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. From childhood conditioning and gender expectations to how this behavior shows up in our adult relationships—romantic, professional, and personal—we’re talking about it all.In this episode, we get real about our own struggles and growth around people pleasing. We explore the line between kindness and self-abandonment, how saying “no” can actually strengthen relationships, and the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways we’ve learned to reclaim our voices. If you’ve ever wrestled with resentment, vagueness, or fear of being “the bad guy,” you’re not alone—and there’s a way out. Tune in as we share stories, insights, and actionable strategies for building healthier boundaries without losing your sense of connection. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Why people pleasing hits so close to home for both of us.[1:14] - The difference between being genuinely kind vs. being "nice" to your own detriment.[3:49] - Laura's story: Growing up flanked by strong personalities and learning to placate.[6:46] - How family patterns condition our conflict tolerance in adulthood.[8:32] - Colette’s evolution in romantic relationships and the fear of losing love.[10:11] - Assertiveness is a muscle: why it takes time and practice to break the habit.[11:02] - People pleasing ≠ being confident and kind. It often leads to resentment.[12:51] - Key signs of people pleasing from Psychology Today’s checklist.[13:31] - Natural boundaries: how structure and routine can minimize people pleasing.[15:25] - Boundaries at work: why therapy helped us develop clear limits.[17:21] - Practicing assertiveness in safe relationships and why that matters.[22:08] - The real cost of people pleasing on your mental and emotional health.[23:17] - Gabor Maté and the connection between chronic niceness and physical illness.[26:06] - Practical tips: writing out your thoughts, using scripts, and buying time.[30:38] - Parenting and people pleasing: where we still struggle (and how we’re working on it).[33:59] - The importance of learning to self-define, and why assertiveness isn’t aggressiveness.[34:33] - The Giving Tree metaphor and recognizing when you’ve become the stump.[36:05] - Final tips: Practice, write it out, externalize, and invest in safe relationships.[37:12] - Where to take the “Are You a People Pleaser?” test and how to connect with us. Resources:Take the “Are You a People Pleaser?” quiz at: https://insightsfromthecouch.orgLearn more about the podcast and access show archives at: Insights From the CouchMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

In this eye-opening episode, we sit down with Nicole Swartz, a licensed therapist specializing in helping people heal from the damaging effects of diet culture and generational body-image trauma. Nicole shares her personal story of overcoming an eating disorder, offers insights into her revolutionary coaching program, and explains how shifting mindsets around food and body image can create lasting, positive change for both individuals and families. This conversation dives into how diet culture infiltrates our lives, generational differences in attitudes toward body image, and the transformative power of self-compassion and acceptance.  Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Meet Nicole Swartz: Therapist, coach, and passionate advocate for breaking free from diet culture. [5:00] - Nicole’s personal journey: From a childhood steeped in diet culture to finding healing and creating her coaching program. [8:35] - How generational differences shape body image and food habits. [13:28] - The rise of body positivity among Gen Z and its cultural impact. [18:24] - Navigating the fine line between self-acceptance and the desire for change. [25:52] - Addressing the challenges of an obesogenic culture and finding balance in food choices. [29:12] - Transforming inner dialogue: How to move from self-criticism to self-compassion. [34:00] - Teaching children a balanced approach to food and body acceptance. [47:51] - Letting go of the shame around food and embracing a healthier narrative. Resources:Connect with Nicole Swartz: https://www.instagram.com/antidiet_therapist Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

Are you navigating the tricky world of dating after divorce? In this heartfelt and hilarious episode, we sit down with the incredible Andrea Baker, an actor, voiceover artist, and co-host of the pet-centric podcast Tales to Tell. Andrea opens up about her personal journey through divorce, the unexpected twists of dating midlife, and the surprising lessons learned along the way. Together, we explore the challenges of rediscovering yourself, setting boundaries, and embracing both independence and connection.Andrea’s candid and relatable storytelling will leave you inspired and laughing, while her practical insights might just reshape how you think about love, self-worth, and new beginnings.  Episode Highlights:[0:01] - Welcoming Andrea Baker and diving into her unique journey post-divorce.[3:09] - The harsh realities of starting to date again after a major breakup.[8:55] - Andrea’s wisdom on healing from infidelity and the importance of self-care.[14:25] - The lessons learned from dating younger men and embracing new experiences.[19:52] - Andrea’s “onboarding process” for dating—grammar checks included![28:31] - How Andrea turned her divorce into an empowering “freedom tour.”[37:24] - The ultimate takeaway: love yourself first, and live your best life—partner or not.  Resources:Connect with Andrea on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andreaebaker Listen to Andrea’s podcast: Tales to Tell (For pet lovers and professionals alike!): https://open.spotify.com/show/099CknEDl92F3ANh9HFSrz For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

Buckle up. In this episode, we get real about what it's like to raise kids between the ages of 10 to 18 in a world that looks nothing like the one we grew up in. From the emotional rollercoaster of middle school years to navigating social media, anxiety, and the constant pressure to be “on,” we break down the mental load parents are carrying—and what actually helps. Spoiler: It’s not control, and it’s definitely not panic.Join us as we unpack what long-leash parenting really looks like, why emotional regulation (yours and theirs) is key, and how to create that solid, secure attachment your kids need—without micromanaging them into dysfunction. Whether you’re dealing with defiance, withdrawal, or just trying to keep your cool through the chaos, this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and maybe even a little more sane. Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Why parenting tweens and teens feels harder than ever. [1:43] - Understanding adolescent brain development and modern challenges. [4:35] - Colette shares her anxious “blue dot” tracking phase and why it’s so relatable. [6:13] - The “long leash, large corral” approach to parenting. [10:29] - Replacing lectures with Socratic conversations to foster trust and independence. [13:49] - Colette’s unforgettable car ride convo and why staying calm matters. [16:50] - How to view misbehavior as a lack of skills—not a reason to punish. [17:33] - Why regulating your emotions is the parenting superpower. [19:50] - The horse whisperer metaphor that’ll change how you parent forever. [24:32] - Parenting the “Polaroid” child: Navigating confusing or unclear behavior. [26:35] - Laura’s Life360 obsession and the new realities of teen safety. [30:18] - Why social kids might actually fare better than isolated ones. [33:41] - The dangerous rise of incel ideology and digital radicalization. [34:50] - The case for no phones in schools and delayed access to social media. [36:13] - Rejection in the age of Instagram: why it hits harder now. [38:59] - Talking to your teen about the long game and giving them vision. [40:50] - The crushing pressure of college admissions and why it’s unsustainable. [41:41] - Final takeaways: connection over control, collaboration over lecturing. [44:32] - Letting go: Adolescence as labor and the importance of separation. [44:57] - One last reminder: regulate your emotions and help them learn to do the same. Resources:? Download the Parenting Tweens & Teens Worksheet: insightsfromthecouch.org? Watch “The Horse Whisperer” ? The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt? The Netflix series “Adolescence” ? Life360 (for those who love a little tracking reassurance)? Reach out to us anytime at: info@insightsfromthecouch.orgMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward. 

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we’re joined by Dr. Kelly Kessler, a physical therapist and transformation coach, who’s on a mission to help high-achieving women break free from self-abandonment and stress. Kelly shares her own journey of moving from a life of chronic self-sacrifice to one of self-honor and balance, offering strategies that can help you find your way back to yourself. She talks about nervous system regulation, the power of breath work, and why setting boundaries is essential to reclaiming your well-being. Together, we uncover why it’s crucial for women to prioritize their emotional and physical health, even in the midst of busy, driven lives. From techniques like the physiological sigh to embracing your inner critic with compassion, Dr. Kessler’s approach is both gentle and transformative. Tune in for practical tips, grounding insights, and actionable steps to start putting yourself first. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Welcome and introduction to Dr. Kelly Kessler’s background and mission.[1:14] – Kelly shares her journey from self-abandonment to self-care and transformation.[4:33] – Defining self-abandonment and how it impacts high-functioning women.[6:51] – Recognizing patterns of perfectionism and external validation in personal and professional lives.[9:48] – Breathwork as a gateway to slowing down and self-connection.[12:33] – Starting small: how breathwork and gentle exercise initiated Kelly’s healing journey.[15:39] – Introducing the “physiological sigh” breath technique and its calming effects.[20:30] – Exploring the connection between body, mind, and anxiety management.[23:38] – Taming the inner critic and cultivating self-compassion through daily practices.[27:46] – The role of boundaries in self-care and why they’re essential for personal peace.[34:08] – The grief of setting boundaries and the empowerment it brings.[38:27] – Final takeaways: honoring yourself as a non-negotiable priority. Resources:Dr. Kelly Kessler’s Website – Optimal You Health and Wellness – Find resources, coaching, and programs for personal transformation.Free Guide: Eight Daily Practices for Self-Loyalty and Nervous System Harmony – Available on her website.Follow Dr. Kelly on Instagram: @drkellykessler?Get Clear on What You Want in Your Sex Life: Free Download! For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

We’re back for Season 4 of Insights From the Couch: Mental Health at Midlife, and we’re kicking things off with a juicy deep dive into the twisted psychological underpinnings of HBO’s The White Lotus. As therapists and mega-fans of the show, we couldn’t resist unpacking the layers of sex, power, betrayal, and just downright messed-up family dynamics in this season. From the uncomfortably intimate Ratcliffe family to the passive-aggressive unraveling of a trio of longtime female friends, we’re peeling back the layers and asking—what’s really going on beneath the surface?In this episode, we explore themes of toxic relationships, sibling incest, sociopathy, competitive female dynamics, and intergenerational trauma—all through a therapist’s lens. We’re talking character analysis, psychological patterns, and the emotional truth hiding beneath the satire. Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Kicking off Season 4 and diving into the dark psychology of The White Lotus. [2:38] - Introducing the Ratcliffe family and the incest bombshell no one saw coming. [6:25] - Power, rivalry, and the emerging sociopathic traits in Lachlan. [11:15] - Southern charm, status obsession, and the mother’s fragile identity. [14:21] - Over-the-top satire: suicide, wealth, and emotional unraveling. [16:19] - Incest in pop culture and real-world psychological roots. [19:58] - The intergenerational transmission of incest and suicidality. [21:46] - Capitalism and class anxiety: when status is life-or-death. [22:29] - The unraveling of female friendship: Lori, Kate, and Jacqueline. [27:57] - Confrontation, gaslighting, and covert female aggression. [30:58] - Who are these women now? Friendship vs. shared history. [33:17] - Jacqueline’s betrayal: narcissism, jealousy, and dominance. [36:53] - Competition, attention-seeking, and the hunger for power. [38:16] - Amy Lou and Chelsea: emotional honesty and groundedness. [40:56] - Does Gary have an agenda? The mysterious billionaire’s next move. [43:07] - Frank’s dark monologue and Rick’s wake-up call. [45:19] - Looking ahead to the finale and how it might all unfold. [47:01] - A toast to The White Lotus and a possible finale viewing party. Resources:? Download our free guide: Toxic Relationships & Power Dynamics: How to Recognize, Manage & Break Free → insightsfromthecouch.org? Got thoughts or theories? Email us at: info@insightsfromthecouch.orgMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

Let’s get into one of our favorite topics—creativity and life force. Have you ever felt stuck or disconnected from your true self? In this episode, we explore how creativity can be a powerful tool to reconnect with your life force and live your best life. Whether it's through artistic practices, engaging with nature, or simply tuning into your surroundings, we discuss practical ways to awaken your creative energy and feel more alive.Join us as we share personal anecdotes, practical tips, and insights from influential books that have inspired us, including Rick Rubin’s "The Creative Act: A Way of Being" and Julia Cameron’s "The Artist's Way." Discover how small, intentional practices can help you access your creativity, overcome resistance, and embrace the full spectrum of your life force.Episode Highlights:[1:01] - Colette shares how life force impacts her energy and when she feels disconnected. [2:05] - Laura defines creativity as engagement with life, not just artistic skill. [3:43] - Colette talks about The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin and The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron. [5:33] - How low-level distractions like social media prevent us from tapping into higher creative energy. [8:38] - The power of boredom and stillness in unlocking new ideas and creativity. [10:09] - Numbing behaviors like TV, food, and social media, and why we turn to them when disconnected. [12:11] - Colette reflects on a “spring break” period of fun and the balance of creative engagement. [14:23] - Laura shares how engagement with the world boosts energy and life force. [19:15] - The importance of practices like the Artist Date and Morning Pages from Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way. [26:18] - How exercise and movement can open the mind and unlock creative potential. [30:19] - Colette and Laura discuss overcoming self-doubt and fear of failure in the creative process. [34:52] - Final reflections on life force and how creativity helps you live your best life.Resources:?Get Clear on What You Want in Your Sex Life: Free Download! For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Ever wondered how mindfulness, neuroscience, and therapy intersect to create profound healing? In this episode, we’re thrilled to chat with Natalie Baker, a licensed psychotherapist, meditation teacher, and Neurofeedback expert. Natalie shares how her unique blend of Eastern and Western psychology—alongside cutting-edge brain training techniques—helps people overcome anxiety, trauma, and other challenges. From rewiring the brain for resilience to cultivating self-awareness, Natalie’s holistic approach inspires balance and growth.We dive into fascinating topics like neuroplasticity, how neurofeedback taps into your brain's natural ability to reset, and why meditation is more than just a stress-relief tool.  Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Introducing Natalie Baker and her groundbreaking work in holistic healing. [2:30] - How Natalie’s personal journey led her to integrate meditation and therapy. [7:08] - Neurofeedback 101: What it is, how it works, and why it’s transformative. [13:39] - A powerful story of trauma healing through Neurofeedback on a limbic level. [20:52] - Breaking free from survival mode: practical applications of brain training. [30:53] - Tapping into intuition through “First Thought, Best Thought” exercises. [36:32] - Embracing meditation as a tool for self-awareness and emotional balance. Resources:Natalie’s Neurofeedback Services: neurofeedbacktraining.comBuddhist Psychotherapy Practice: buddhistpsychotherapyny.comYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@Neurofeedbacktraining ?Get Clear on What You Want in Your Sex Life: Free Download! For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode, we tackle the challenging topic of the Sandwich Generation – those caught between raising children and caring for aging parents while managing their own careers and lives. Let’s get into the emotional, financial, and physical toll this can take. We will offer practical advice on how to cope without losing oneself to help you navigate this demanding phase of life.We will discuss strategies for setting boundaries, asking for help, and maintaining your well-being. Whether in the thick of it or just preparing for what’s ahead, this episode provides relatable experiences and actionable tips to help you find balance and support.Episode Highlights:[1:58] - Real-life client stories and the impact of teenage children and ill parents.[4:29] - Shocking statistics about the time demands on the Sandwich Generation.[6:07] - Emotional and financial burdens of caregiving, even with strained family dynamics.[8:55] - The pervasive guilt and resentment felt by many caregivers.[10:55] - Personal experiences and the challenges of asking for help.[15:25] - The Giving Tree analogy and the dangers of giving too much without receiving support.[18:30] - The importance of direct communication and setting boundaries.[20:30] - Healthy coping mechanisms and the importance of self-care.[30:01] - Recap key strategies and proactive self-care's importance.Resources:?Get Clear on What You Want in Your Sex Life: Free Download! For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode, we’re inviting you into a conversation that might just change the way you think about sexuality, agency, and self-discovery. We’re joined by the incredible Dr. Juliana Hauser, a psychologist, sex educator, and thought leader in holistic sexuality. If you’re wondering what that means, you’re not alone! Dr. Juliana walks us through the nine pillars of holistic sexuality and why understanding ourselves as sexual beings is the "final frontier" of self-development.We explore everything from sexual agency and desire in midlife to the unspoken barriers that hold us back from fully embracing our sexuality. Plus, we tackle the cultural shame, myths, and misunderstandings that have shaped our sexual identities—and how to break free from them. Whether you're in a long-term relationship and struggling with intimacy, single and rediscovering yourself, or simply curious about what it means to live a more sexually confident life, this episode has value for you. Get ready for an open, honest, and sometimes hilarious conversation that will leave you with a whole new perspective on pleasure, connection, and self-expression. Episode Highlights:[00:03] - Introducing Dr. Juliana Hauser and what "holistic sexuality" really means.[01:23] - The nine pillars of holistic sexuality and why they matter in self-discovery.[06:49] - Why so many of us avoid thinking about our sexual selves—and how to start the journey.[12:23] - There are no wrong answers! How agency and consent play a role in shaping our sexual identity.[17:50] - The differences in how men and women experience sexual conversations and why men are "desperate" for safe spaces to talk.[24:31] - How couples can start talking about their sex lives without fear, shame, or defensiveness.[27:16] - Midlife sexual awakenings—what happens when someone truly embraces their desires?[34:31] - The "four quadrant" exercise: a simple yet powerful way to explore your yeses and nos.[42:38] - Why sex takes work—and how curiosity can completely transform your intimate life.[51:45] - A fun, hands-on (literally) way to understand your sensuality and personal touch preferences.[54:46] - How to learn more about Dr. Juliana’s course Revealed and her upcoming book, A New Position on Sex. Resources:Dr. Juiliana’s website: https://dr-juliana.com/ The Revealed Life: an evolved sex ed platform: https://therevealedlife.com/ Social Media: @drjulianahauserKeep an eye out for Dr. Juliana’s upcoming book: A New Position on Sex: A Guide to Greater Sexual Confidence, Authenticity, and Pleasure (Coming Fall 2025)?Get Clear on What You Want in Your Sex Life: Free Download! For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!