In this episode, we sit down with dating and heartbreak recovery coach Cole Zesiger for a deeply honest conversation about what really happens after a breakup—and why healing is so much harder than people want to admit. We talk about why heartbreak can feel all-consuming, how our brains are wired for attachment, and why “just move on” is some of the least helpful advice out there.Together, we explore what it actually takes to recover after loss, rebuild a meaningful life, and create healthier relationship patterns moving forward. Whether you’re newly single, stuck in an on-again/off-again cycle, or simply wanting to understand yourself better in relationships, this conversation is packed with insight, compassion, and practical guidance that meets you where you are—without shortcuts or shame. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Welcome to Insights from the Couch and why heartbreak deserves real conversation [2:10] – Meeting Cole Zesiger and how his own divorce shaped his work [6:45] – Why rebounds “work”… until they don’t [9:30] – The evolutionary psychology of heartbreak and why it feels unbearable [14:50] – No contact explained: why space is necessary for healing [18:25] – Social media, blocking vs. muting, and why tiny “hits” keep you stuck [23:45] – Why people stay frozen in grief for years [26:55] – Colette shares her own hard-earned lesson about no contact [31:10] – How people actually get back together in a healthy way [36:00] – Rebuilding your life after heartbreak: the six key areas that matter [41:50] – Attachment styles and why we repeat the same relationship patterns [48:00] – Forgiveness, letting go, and reclaiming your energy [55:10] – Why healthy relationships are worth the risk, according to long-term research Links & Resources·         Cole Zesiger on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachcolezesiger ·         X’s and Knows: The Breakup Advice You Don’t Want to Hear: https://www.amazon.com/Exs-Nos-Breakup-Advice-Dont/dp/1394324138·         Cole’s Website: https://coachcolezesiger.com If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

College admissions have changed dramatically since we were applying—and if you’re parenting a teen right now, you probably feel that in your bones. In this episode, we talk honestly about the new reality of college admissions, why even “perfect on paper” kids aren’t guaranteed a spot anymore, and how this process has become a major source of anxiety for both parents and teens. We share personal stories from our own families and what we’re seeing every day in our therapy offices.More importantly, we dig into how not to let college admissions take over your identity, your household, or your relationship with your child. This conversation is about perspective, mental health, cost, and helping your kids find a path that actually fits who they are—not who the culture says they should be. If you’re navigating college decisions right now (or know it’s coming), this episode is meant to ground you, calm you, and remind you that there are many roads to a good life. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – We introduce the episode and why college admissions have become such an emotional minefield for families. [0:56] – Laura shares why this topic is personal and how fast admissions standards have shifted—even in just a few years. [1:57] – Why state schools like Florida State University and University of Florida feel nearly impossible to access now. [3:44] – Laura walks through the very different college paths of her three kids. [4:50] – We admit our former college “snobbery” and how our perspectives have radically changed. [5:30] – Colette reflects on her own college choices and why fit matters more than prestige. [9:30] – The real cost of college—and how skyrocketing tuition is shaping admissions pressure. [11:27] – Why community college and schools like University of Central Florida deserve way more respect. [14:49] – How parental fear and identity get tangled up in kids’ college outcomes. [17:23] – Letting go of the “one right path” myth and expanding what success can look like. [21:33] – Supporting instead of micromanaging: being air traffic control, not the pilot. [24:22] – Why kids aren’t always developmentally ready for college—and why that’s okay. [27:02] – Protecting your home (and your sanity) with financial and emotional boundaries. [28:48] – Comparison culture, social media, and why they make this process so much harder. [30:30] – Creative, nonlinear paths: gap years, transfers, CLEP exams, and thinking differently. [31:54] – Our reminder that there are always choices—and this is not the end of the story. IPre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we sit down with licensed therapist, writer, and divorce support group leader Oona Metz to have one of the most honest, grounding, and hope-filled conversations we’ve ever had about divorce—especially at midlife. We talk about why divorce still carries so much stigma, why so many women feel isolated and ashamed, and what actually helps people heal instead of staying stuck.Together, we explore the emotional reality of divorce, why it can feel like a total identity loss, and how healing doesn’t come from rushing forward—but from understanding the process. Oona shares the framework behind her new book, Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women, and helps normalize the heartbreak, chaos, growth, and transformation that so many women experience but rarely talk about out loud. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Welcome to Insights from the Couch and why this conversation matters so much at midlife [2:30] – Introducing Oona Metz and the inspiration behind Unhitched [5:15] – Why divorce still feels shameful—even though it’s so common [8:00] – Redefining “success” in marriage and letting go of outdated narratives [12:30] – The emotional tsunami of divorce and why uncertainty is so hard on the nervous system [15:30] – The five emotional phases of divorce: heartbreak, roller coaster, mending, letting go, and moving on [20:40] – Why people get stuck after divorce—and what actually helps them heal [24:30] – Letting go without pretending it was “okay” [28:00] – Forgiveness, reframed: releasing yourself, not excusing harm [33:00] – Why distraction and dating too soon can backfire [37:45] – The power of divorce support groups and not doing this alone [41:00] – What Oona hopes every woman knows about healing after divorce [43:00] – How to find Oona, her book, and free divorce resources Links and Resources:Oona Metz’s website and free divorce resources: https://www.oonametz.comBook: Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women by Oona Metz: https://www.amazon.com/Unhitched-Essential-Divorce-Guide-Women/dp/1668075385 If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. StaPre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

As we wrap up the year, we’re inviting you into a different kind of year-end ritual—one that’s less about resolutions and more about reflection. In this episode, we’re doing a midlife audit: looking honestly at what we’re ready to shed and what we want to intentionally carry forward into 2026. From other people’s opinions to outdated expectations, we’re talking about the emotional baggage that quietly drains our energy—and how freeing it can be to finally let it go.We also dig into what we’re keeping: connection, meaning, nervous system regulation, health, authenticity, and the freedom to live outside the status quo. This is a grounded, honest conversation about midlife as a season of shedding skins, reclaiming agency, and choosing a life that actually feels good to live. If you’re craving clarity, permission, and a more intentional way to step into the new year, this one’s for you. Episode Highlights:[0:46] – Kicking off a year-end audit instead of traditional resolutions [1:18] – The inspiration behind “not caring anymore” at midlife [3:03] – Letting go as a lifelong practice and why shedding gets easier with age [4:40] – Releasing other people’s opinions about our bodies, habits, and choices [7:44] – Being done with explaining ourselves—bedtimes included [9:28] – Downsizing, simplifying, and redefining what “home” needs to be now [13:09] – Midlife as a season of shedding and making space for what’s next [14:45] – Letting go of one-sided or draining friendships [16:43] – Prioritizing nervous system regulation and protecting our peace [17:42] – Giving up pretending we’re fine when we’re not [20:00] – Choosing depth, authenticity, and real conversations over small talk [22:06] – What we’re keeping: health, strength, movement, and time outdoors [24:56] – Filtering life through meaning, purpose, and connection [25:51] – Saying yes to connection and whole-body yeses [28:00] – Comfort over performance: clothes, shoes, and realistic expectations [30:08] – Speaking our truth, changing our minds, and honoring ourselves [31:02] – Letting go of the status quo and choosing a life that fits [34:44] – Remembering that life is happening now, not later If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Tracy McCarthy, a brilliant functional medicine physician and psychiatrist, to talk about what it really takes to heal—especially in midlife. We explored how functional medicine goes beyond symptom management and instead focuses on the root causes of chronic conditions like anxiety, fatigue, brain fog, and digestive issues. Tracy's perspective on how nutrition, inflammation, gut health, and lifestyle play into our mental and physical well-being is deeply empowering.As someone who works with women navigating health and identity shifts in midlife, I found this conversation to be a powerful reminder that healing is possible—and it doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. Dr. McCarthy shares how small, consistent changes can lead to massive improvements and how partnering with your body (not fighting it) is the key to long-term health. If you're curious about functional medicine, overwhelmed by your symptoms, or simply want to feel better in your body—this episode is for you.Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Kicking off with Dr. Tracy McCarthy and the power of functional medicine.[1:25] - Tracy shares her journey from psychiatry to root-cause healing.[6:13] - The common symptoms Tracy sees in midlife women.[8:04] - What the functional medicine intake and testing process looks like.[12:06] - The importance of patient participation in healing.[13:20] - Understanding the role of inflammation in chronic illness.[16:56] - A powerful case study that brought it all together.[21:27] - Gut health: the surprising link to mood and brain function.[25:12] - The mystery behind why autoimmune issues hit women harder.[34:14] - Prevention and aging: how much power we do have. [38:22] - What’s really driving the health crisis in America. [41:30] - Supplements that midlife women should consider adding. [47:03] - Dr. McCarthy’s course and how to start your own healing journey. [48:06] - My personal takeaway: healing starts with the first step.Resources:Dr. Tracy McCarthy’s Website: www.drtracymccarthy.comFree Guide: Top 10 Overlooked Causes of Brain Fog, Depression & Anxiety – https://www.drtracymccarthy.com/top10 Dr. McCarthy on Instagram: @drtracymccarthyFunctional Medicine Resources: Institute for Functional MedicineDr. McCarthy’s Online Program: The Natural Mood SolPre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

In this deeply honest episode, we sit down with Nora Neiterman, creative director, brand strategist, and founder of Unsweetened New York, to talk about what happens when success comes at the cost of yourself. Nora shares how building a powerful, authentic brand while juggling motherhood, caregiving, and perfectionism eventually pushed her into full-blown burnout, and why ignoring the warning signs is so common for women in midlife.Together, we explore the hidden toll of living in constant overdrive and why healing doesn’t start by doing more, but by slowing down. Nora opens up about perimenopause, grief, nervous system work, psychedelic therapy, and the surprising ways her creativity returned once she finally listened to her body. If you’re feeling exhausted, disconnected, or quietly wondering how long you can keep going like this, this conversation will land.Episode Highlights: [2:01] – From fashion school to building Unsweetened New York [4:00] – The moment that sparked the brand and why authenticity resonated so deeply [7:35] – Why women connected so powerfully to unapologetic messaging [9:31] – Advice for women with an idea who feel “too busy” or “too late” [12:28] – Why midlife is actually the prime time to pivot and build something new [14:24] – When passion turns into pressure and the freight train won’t slow down [17:56] – Early warning signs of burnout that are easy to ignore [19:52] – Sleep deprivation, stimulants, and living in constant overdrive [22:08] – Perfectionism, resentment, and struggling to ask for help [25:46] – Perimenopause, grief, and the slow approach of the wall [31:21] – Starting over with micro-steps instead of more “stacking” [33:15] – Psychedelic therapy, intention setting, and unexpected healing [35:52] – Letting go of alcohol, stimulants, and old coping mechanisms [38:56] – Reconnecting with creativity by learning how to feel again [39:58] – Final reflections on authenticity, healing, and choosing yourselfLinks & Resources:Unsweetened New York Website: www.unsweetenednewyork.com Unsweetened NY on Instagram: @unsweetenednewyork Nora on Instagram: @noraneitermanIf today’s conversation resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share Insights from the Couch with others. Your support helps us reach more women and continue having these honest, meaningful conversations.Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

The holidays are here, and if you’re already feeling that mix of excitement, pressure, and low-key dread, you’re in good company. In this episode, we dig into why holiday burnout hits women so disproportionately hard, how old expectations keep sneaking in, and what we can actually do to reclaim joy, presence, and a sense of sanity this season. From perfectionism and invisible labor to new traditions and deliciously low-effort holiday moments, we’re getting honest about what has to shift.Together, we explore the inner work, the practical strategies, and the gentle permission slips that help us show up for the holidays in a way that feels good—without losing ourselves or burning out in the process. If you've ever felt torn between wanting magic and wanting a nap, this is your episode. Episode Highlights:[0:03] – Kicking off the convo: why holiday burnout hits women hardest [1:54] – Laura reflects on past years of over-functioning through the holidays [3:08] – The pressure of “perfect” holidays and the invisible mental load [4:52] – The struggle of asking for help and shedding generational conditioning [6:11] – Family-of-origin expectations and the identity tied to holiday perfection [9:03] – The emotional payoff vs. resentment check-in [10:08] – Letting go of perfect, simplifying, and knowing your “why” [12:22] – Delegation, releasing control, and tolerating the discomfort [14:11] – When your aesthetics get in the way of shared experiences [15:40] – Creating new rituals and letting go of traditions that no longer fit [18:18] – Low-effort connection and shared experiences that truly matter [20:03] – Embracing flexibility and shifting holiday dates without guilt [21:44] – Managing blended family holidays and redefining “the day” [22:22] – Avoiding consumer overwhelm and choosing experiences over stuff [23:52] – Gift ideas that foster connection (and zero clutter) [25:18] – Silent Book Clubs, parallel play, and refreshing social rituals [26:55] – Reclaiming meaningful ritual with creativity and openness [27:55] – The power of daily gratitude and shifting the emotional tone [28:15] – Preparing for others’ disappointment when you take things down a notch [28:40] – Emotional maturity, boundaries, and choosing what truly matters [30:01] – Final reminders for a holiday season rooted in joy, not pressure If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#] Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

In this heartfelt and revealing episode, we dive deep into the patterns, red flags, and emotional toll of loving someone who just can’t meet you emotionally. We’re joined by our brilliant friend Dr. Marni Feuerman—psychotherapist, author of Ghosted and Breadcrumbed, and relationship expert regularly featured in outlets like Psychology Today and SELF. Together, we unpack the signs of emotional unavailability, why so many women get stuck in these painful dynamics, and how to reclaim your power and self-worth in love.If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a loop of confusing relationships, holding out hope for someone to change, or caught in the charm of a man who’s all spark and no follow-through, this episode is for you. We explore everything from love bombing and ghosting to deeper therapeutic patterns rooted in childhood attachment. Whether you’re dating, healing from heartbreak, or helping a friend, this conversation offers insight, validation, and practical advice to help you break free and choose healthier love. Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Welcoming Dr. Marni and introducing her book Ghosted and Breadcrumbed [2:45] - What defines emotional unavailability and its many forms [5:00] - Dating dynamics: the seductive yet misleading early connection [6:27] - Ghosting explained—why it happens and how it impacts the nervous system [11:37] - Breadcrumbing: what it is and how it keeps you stuck [14:37] - What healthy dating should look like (hint: it’s consistent) [18:23] - When emotional inconsistency feels like love (but isn’t) [22:44] - Why some men are emotionally unavailable: socialization, trauma, and patterns [27:17] - The dark triad: narcissism, charm, and emotional manipulation [31:54] - Affairs with married men: why they’re more common than you think and rarely end well [38:00] - Hard truths about “being the one he’ll finally choose” [42:37] - How therapy and self-awareness help you break the cycle [45:25] - The danger of “projects” and choosing from compassion instead of compatibility [48:53] - Attachment wounds, revising your definition of love, and healing forward [49:43] - Final encouragement from Dr. Marni and where to find her work Links & ResourcesDr. Marni Feuerman’s Book: Ghosted and Breadcrumbed: Stop Falling for Unavailable Men and Get Smart About Healthy Relationships Website & Free Checklist: www.drmarnionline.com Psychotherapy Practice: www.thetalkingsolution.com  Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#] Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

In this Thanksgiving episode, we’re settling in together—just like we would the night before a big holiday—to talk about the messy, heartfelt, complicated world of family dynamics. Even though both of us are having quieter Thanksgivings this year, we’re deep in our own real-life family seasons, and this conversation comes straight from the thick of it. We explore why the holidays stir up so much, why cut-offs have become so common, and how we can show up for ourselves without losing connection to the people we care about.We also dive into emotional tolerance, boundaries that actually work in real life, and the surprising ways expectations shape our holiday experience. If you’ve ever found yourself caretaking, peace-keeping, bracing for a “difficult someone,” or wondering how to handle the big personalities at the table—this episode will meet you right where you are. Episode Highlights: [0:03] – Opening the Thanksgiving conversation and why this episode feels especially timely [1:16] – How our own holiday plans are shaping the way we’re thinking about family this year [2:49] – The pressure to perform during the holidays and why “doing less” may feel better [3:31] – Colette’s recent family gatherings and the emotional residue they stirred up [4:17] – Real stories from reunions and why so many adults are dealing with family cut-offs [5:34] – How cut-offs impact entire family systems and why they rarely bring relief [7:21] – Understanding emotional bandwidth and the “dial” approach to relationships [9:46] – Avoidance, repair, and why making the first move feels so vulnerable [11:46] – When someone can’t meet you emotionally—and how to interpret that [14:51] – The painful power dynamics created by the least emotionally developed family member [16:29] – Caring for everyone but yourself: preparing meals, hosting, and old relational wounds [17:22] – The essential role of expectations and how they can make or break a holiday [18:46] – Triangulation, family cliques, and protecting your emotional space [20:00] – Setting boundaries without being pulled into old patterns [21:58] – Self-care strategies when staying with—or hosting—challenging family members [23:20] – The nuance of “don’t abandon yourself” and holding two truths at once [25:56] – Choosing what’s worth addressing—and what you can let go for your own peace [28:09] – Why cut-offs are increasing and the need for a deeper cultural conversation [29:45] – Setting limits, protecting yourself, and managing difficult personalities [30:55] – Releasing holiday perfectionism and letting the day be what it is [33:14] – The power of intention-setting and micro-gratitudes to shape your mindset [34:23] – How to sooPre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#] Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

In this episode, we're joined by one of our absolute favorite authors and experts, Dr. Meg Jay, PhD. She's a clinical psychologist and bestselling author of The Defining Decade and The 20-Something Treatment, and she dives deep with us into why our 20s are such a defining time—and how many of the same principles can also empower us in midlife.We explore identity capital, weak ties, economic uncertainty, and how to better support our 20-something children as they navigate early adulthood. If you're in your 40s or 50s and parenting adult children, or just looking to reimagine your own next chapter, this conversation is packed with validation, insight, and incredibly practical advice. You do not want to miss this one! Episode Highlights: [0:40] - Welcoming Dr. Meg Jay and fangirling over The Defining Decade [3:36] - Why your 20s are the most uncertain and anxiety-filled decade [5:53] - The myth of the carefree 20s and how financial constraints factor in [8:17] - The stress of unstructured life after college and the reality of job-hopping [10:12] - Identity capital: what it is and why it matters [14:57] - Learning from jobs you don't love (hello, Rolling Stone fashion closet!) [16:20] - How perfectionism and enabling parenting can keep 20-somethings stuck [20:05] - The "redefining decade": applying these principles to midlife [21:22] - The power of weak ties and how to actually use them [24:25] - Gen Z vs Gen X: similarities, differences, and the impact of social media [26:21] - Economic challenges and the nuance of living with your parents [30:06] - Launching vs enabling: helping adult children become independent[33:20] - Teaching resilience: tolerating uncertainty without pathologizing it [34:08] - From cooking to job skills: the basics that build real confidence [36:18] - Helping young adults recognize and activate their own agency [38:50] - Dating intentionally: choosing your partner is choosing your family [42:09] - Avoiding emotional entanglement before compatibility is clear [44:57] - Trial, error, and the wisdom of approaching dating like job searching  Links & Resources:Dr. Meg Jay’s Website: https://megjay.com/ Dr. Meg Jay’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmegjay  If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

In this episode of Insights From the Couch, we’re diving deep into what Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) really is—and what it’s not. Forget the casual "I'm so OCD" comment—this conversation is all about the real, often misunderstood experiences of those living with this challenging and complex disorder. We're joined by two of our favorite experts: Dr. Brady Bradshaw, a child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist, and Dr. Robyn Cohen, a developmental neuropsychologist. Together, we explore the many faces of OCD, from harm OCD to contamination fears, and mental compulsions that happen entirely inside someone’s mind.We’re also pulling back the curtain on the often-overlooked aspects of OCD like the shame, stigma, and difficulty getting an accurate diagnosis. Whether you’re someone navigating OCD, a therapist wanting to learn more, or a loved one trying to understand what’s going on—this episode offers education, empathy, and evidence-based strategies for healing. Plus, we talk treatment, including exposure and response prevention (ERP), medication, and what real recovery can look like. Episode Highlights:[0:26] - Welcome and overview of today’s topic: the real story behind OCD [1:31] - Meet Dr. Bradshaw and Dr. Cohen: their roles and experiences with OCD [3:02] - What OCD actually is vs. common misconceptions [6:10] - Breaking down the subtypes: harm, contamination, symmetry, hoarding, and more [8:10] - Mental compulsions explained with powerful real-life examples [11:01] - Is OCD just intense anxiety? Exploring how it's neurologically distinct [13:20] - The overlap of OCD with ADHD, autism, trichotillomania, and body-focused repetitive behaviors [17:42] - The diagnostic challenge: why OCD is often missed or misdiagnosed [21:43] - What’s going on in the brain during OCD—and how treatment changes the brain [23:44] - Living with OCD: analogies, partner dynamics, and the emotional toll [25:27] - The gold standard: treatment options like ERP and when meds are needed [28:19] - The importance of working with experienced ERP-trained therapists [32:53] - Pushing the limits with exposure—and why it works [37:50] - Naming the OCD: why it helps and how it shifts control [39:13] - The importance of trust and creativity in therapeutic interventions [40:07] - Relationship OCD and health anxiety—subtypes or something else? [43:03] - How to support a loved one with OCD (without enabling compulsions) [46:35] - Final takeaways: treatment works, and there’s real freedom on the other side [47:36] - Where to find Dr. Bradshaw and Dr. Cohen Links and Resources:·         Dr. Brady Bradshaw: https://www.bradybradshawmd.com/ ·         Dr. Robyn Cohen: https://theneurocode.com/ If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! 🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

We are beyond excited to welcome the brilliant Tonya Lester to the couch this week! As a psychotherapist, writer, and author of the new book Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself, Tonya joins us for a raw and resonant conversation about how women lose their voices in relationships, how to reclaim them, and why it’s never too late to start showing up fully for yourself.We dig into some of the most pressing issues we see with women in midlife—emotional labor, resentment, perfectionism, and the dreaded “burned out pursuer” dynamic. Tonya shares powerful truths about why many marriages break down long before anyone leaves, what holds women back from setting boundaries, and how we can all take emotional risks to wake up to the lives we want. This is an honest, compassionate, and deeply validating episode that will leave you feeling seen, fired up, and ready to push back in all the right ways.  Episode Highlights: [0:26] – Welcoming Tonya Lester and her powerful new book [2:04] – From acting to therapy: Tonya’s journey into couples work [4:28] – The repeated story of women hitting their breaking point [7:47] – What pushback really looks like in relationships [10:04] – Burned out pursuers: when women have nothing left to give [13:50] – Why powerful women lose their voice in marriage [15:34] – The “bad deal” many women are stuck in [16:03] – Are women outgrowing men? [17:24] – The invisible labor of “man keeping” [18:49] – How women are penalized for assertiveness at work [22:55] – Perfectionism: it’s not about excellence, it’s about anxiety [27:29] – Visibility, risk-taking, and the fear of not being good enough [30:23] – Reclaiming your life force after years of disconnection [31:58] – Weather vane emotions: resentment, jealousy, anger [35:52] – The long, slow process of waking up to your needs [38:36] – What if the outcome isn’t what you hoped for? [40:58] – Modeling empowered living for the next generation [42:05] – Tonya’s biggest hope for readers of Push Back Links and Resources: Tonya Lester’s website: https://www.tonyalester.com/ Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself — Available on Amazon, Bookshop, and Barnes & NoblePsychology Today Blog: Staying Sane Inside InsanityFollow Tonya on Instagram: @tonyalesterpsychotherapy If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

In this deeply moving episode, we sit down with the brilliant author and military spouse-turned-memoirist, Heather Sweeney. Her new book Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage takes us inside the complex emotional terrain of identity loss, divorce, resilience, and ultimately, self-discovery. Heather's story is not just one of heartbreak, but of reclaiming voice, power, and purpose—especially for women navigating life after a long-term partnership.We talk about everything from the layered reality of military marriage to the quiet courage it takes to start over. Heather shares what it's like to lose yourself inside someone else’s story—and how she found her way back. If you’re feeling stuck, alone, or like your identity has been swallowed by your roles, this episode is your permission slip to rediscover who you are. Episode Highlights: [0:00] – Introducing Heather Sweeney: Writer, military spouse, and memoirist [1:35] – From blogging to bylines: Heather’s journey to becoming a published author [3:42] – Riding the roller coaster of military life and finding connection online [5:38] – Heather’s national writing credits and how she landed in The New York Times [8:38] – The invisible load of military marriage and emotional isolation [10:41] – Losing identity in someone else’s career—and the silent toll it takes [15:00] – Why divorce was always “in the air” and how it evolved over years [19:43] – The emotional aftermath of a partner’s divorce request [23:25] – Financial freedom as the catalyst for leaving [26:03] – Navigating in-house separation and the complicated new normal [28:20] – Military custody realities: long-distance parenting and letting go [31:31] – The bridge from loss to liberation: reclaiming your voice [33:56] – Building a new relationship from a place of strength and clarity [36:52] – Advice for women at the edge of leaving: where to begin [39:34] – Heather’s reflections on rediscovering herself through writing and therapy [40:13] – Where to find Heather’s book and follow her journeyLinks and Resources:·         Order Camouflage: http://posthill.to/B0F316HJTD ·         Website: https://www.heatherlsweeney.com/ ·         Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/writersweeney ·         Substack: https://heathersweeney.substack.com/ If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

Ever feel like your toddler is trying to break you? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re joined by the incredible Devon Kuntzman—toddler parenting expert and author of the brand new book Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Handle Tantrums and Power Struggles and Raise Resilient Kids Without Losing Your Mind. We dive into the real talk about toddler behavior, emotional regulation, and how we as parents can stay sane and connected in the chaos.Whether you’re in the thick of toddlerhood yourself, preparing for grandparenting, or just love understanding the "why" behind those tiny tornadoes, this conversation is packed with empathy, science-backed strategies, and hope. Devon gives us a totally refreshing reframe on discipline, tantrums, and screen time—and we also explore how much has changed (and how much hasn’t) in parenting over the decades. Episode Highlights:[0:00] Meet Devon and her just-launched book on toddlerhood [3:06] Redefining what “toddler” really means [4:33] What’s changed in the way we understand toddler behavior [7:48] Why toddler meltdowns aren’t bad behavior—they’re communication [9:47] Parenting styles: from controlling commander to confident guide [12:49] Real-world scenario: what to do when your toddler hits you [15:24] Teaching kids to cope with emotions instead of just punishing behavior [17:19] The importance of reparenting yourself while raising your child [18:24] How to avoid permissiveness while still setting healthy limits [21:08] It’s okay to be overwhelmed—and why repair is more powerful than perfection [25:00] Devon’s 4-step process for repairing relationships after a parenting slip [27:27] Generational gaps: parenting now vs. then [29:53] Navigating boundaries with your child and your parents [32:04] Real talk: toddlers and restaurants are not always a match [33:53] What’s the deal with screens? Devon breaks down screen time and brain health [35:32] Parenting isn’t passive—it’s the hardest job you’ll ever love [37:56] Self-compassion, strong-willed toddlers, and hilarious parenting fails [39:44] Final takeaways: discipline that connects, teaches, and sets limits Links and Resources: 🍼 Transforming Toddlerhood by Devon Kuntzman: https://www.transformingtoddlerhood.com/book/📲 Follow Devon on Instagram: @transformingtoddlerhood If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! 🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

In this intense and emotionally charged episode, we dive deep into some of the most chilling and perplexing true crime cases involving mothers who committed unimaginable acts against their own children. From psychological abuse to cold-blooded murder, we’re peeling back the layers on what happens when motherhood takes a dark, dangerous turn.We explore the twisted motivations and complex psychopathology behind cases like Unknown Number, Casey Anthony, Lindsay Clancy, Ruby Franke, and her notorious partner Jodi Hildebrandt. We’re not just recapping the crimes—you’ll hear our raw reactions as therapists and mothers, and we’ll take you into the murky territory of trauma, sociopathy, narcissism, and the haunting dynamics of parent-child bonds gone horribly wrong. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Kicking off with our Midlife Masterclass and a true crime deep dive[1:24] - “Mothers Gone Wrong” intro and a therapist’s disbelief at these cases[3:00] - Breaking down the “Unknown Number” Netflix documentary[5:54] - The big reveal: a mother as the digital abuser of her own daughter[10:22] - Exploring Munchausen by proxy, sociopathy, and attention-seeking behavior[13:32] - Control, puppet-mastery, and compulsive lying[19:31] - Is pathological lying an addiction?[22:41] - Shifting to Ruby Franke and the cult-like influence of Jodi Hildebrandt[26:14] - Exploitation, rigidity, and mental manipulation in parenting[30:16] - The horrifying rescue of Ruby Franke’s emaciated son[32:47] - Discussing Lindsay Clancy and the reality of postpartum psychosis[36:52] - The tragic consequences of untreated mental health struggles[38:45] - Revisiting Casey Anthony from a therapist’s lens[42:12] - Sociopathy hiding behind maternal faces[45:01] - Wrapping up with empathy for victims and a plea for prevention[46:50] - Community callout and how to stay connected If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

 We’re thrilled to bring you this heartfelt and hilarious conversation with Dave Tarnowski—author, creative force behind the Instagram phenomenon Disappointing Affirmations, and the man redefining self-help with a dose of sharp wit and raw honesty. With over 2.5 million followers, Dave’s take on mental health, neurodivergence, grief, and healing resonates deeply—and this episode is no exception.Together, we explore Dave’s late-in-life diagnoses of bipolar disorder and ADHD, his journey through therapy, sobriety, and grief, and how humor became his lifeline. We dive into the making of his newest book, Sorry in Advance for Making Things Weird, and talk about what it means to “do the work”—even when it sucks. If you’ve ever felt like you’re falling apart while still managing to laugh, this episode will make you feel seen, heard, and a little more okay with not being okay. Episode Highlights:[1:19] – Dave shares the origin story of Disappointing Affirmations and how his mental health journey shaped his work. [3:04] – Getting diagnosed with bipolar disorder and ADHD later in life. [5:03] – The neurodivergent mind: creativity, sensitivity, and deep knowing. [7:43] – Using humor to bring healing to heavy emotions. [9:52] – Why negative thoughts deserve affirmation too. [13:04] – Medication trials, missteps, and finally finding a fit. [15:31] – From unfinished novels to viral memes: how the Instagram page was born. [21:26] – The power of dark humor, cynicism, and embracing absurdity. [23:00] – Creating a safe space for all—why Dave stays out of divisive commentary. [26:17] – Generational therapy gaps and shifting the mental health narrative. [29:19] – What it means to actually do the work in therapy. [33:38] – Sibling trauma, family hierarchy, and navigating long-standing dynamics. [38:35] – Grief, loss, and finally facing what we try to avoid. [42:22] – What's inside the new book—and why it goes deeper than the first. [46:13] – Where to find Dave’s books, cards, and more. [48:13] – The importance of men accessing therapy and emotional healing. Links and Resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/disappointingaffirmations Dave Tarnowski’s book Disappointing Affirmations Dave Tarnowski’s book Sorry in advance for making things weird If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

In this deeply moving and eye-opening episode, we sit down with Dr. Nadine Macaluso—therapist, author, and trauma bond expert—to explore the insidious dynamics of trauma bonded relationships. Nadine bravely shares her own experience as the ex-wife of “The Wolf of Wall Street,” shedding light on the coercion, manipulation, and psychological warfare that define these toxic partnerships. But more than just surviving, Nadine walks us through what it truly takes to heal, reclaim your identity, and find peace on the other side. We unpack what trauma bonding really means (and what it doesn’t), the behavioral patterns that make these relationships so hard to leave, and why traditional labels like “codependency” often miss the mark.  Episode Highlights:[0:26] - Welcoming Dr. Nadine Macaluso and the powerful topic of trauma bonding [2:46] - Defining trauma bonds: the toxic dance of power imbalance and intermittent reinforcement [4:32] - The difference between conflict in healthy relationships and trauma bonds [6:18] - Why “narcissistic abuse” doesn’t cover the full picture [8:48] - How trauma bonds begin with charm, love bombing, and hidden pathology [9:37] - The damaging effects of victim-blaming language in therapy and society [11:54] - Living with public exposure and reclaiming her story after The Wolf of Wall Street [14:08] - The viral TikTok that launched Nadine’s healing advocacy online [17:32] - Coercion disguised as love: fast-tracked marriage, children, and control [18:37] - Why trauma bonds are so hard to break: fear, shame, confusion, and dependency [21:33] - Nadine’s healing roadmap: education, stabilization, and rediscovery of self [27:36] - What life feels like after leaving a trauma bond: freedom, peace, and autonomy [29:42] - Learning to trust your intuition again and spotting red flags early [30:24] - Can women be the pathological partner? The gendered nature of coercive control [32:50] - Process addictions and their devastating impact on self-worth [33:09] - Cognitive dissonance: the mental glue of trauma bonded relationships [34:45] - Realizing there was only ever one person in the relationship—the manipulator [36:24] - How to access Nadine’s book, community, and incredible healing resources Links & ResourcesDownload the First Chapter of Dr. Nadine Macalso’s book Run Like Hell for Free: https://heal.drnae.com/podcast-book-giveaway Join Dr. Nadine Macaluso’s trauma bond recovery course: https://course.drnae.com/trauma-bond-recovery-course-c If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! 🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

Hey there, friends! In this episode, we sit down with our fabulous returning guest, Dr. Juliana Hauser, to talk about her powerful new book, A New Position on Sex. Trust us when we say, this conversation is one you do not want to miss. Whether you're feeling disconnected from your sexual self, stuck in old beliefs, or just plain exhausted, Dr. Juliana offers an entirely new—and deeply empowering—way to approach sexuality in midlife.We dig into everything from sensuality and sexual agency to what it means to feel vibrant, connected, and alive again—on your own terms. You’ll hear real talk (and plenty of laughs) about shame, societal expectations, pleasure beyond the bedroom, and why embracing your sexuality is not about performing for others. If you've ever felt like sex was just one more to-do item or wondered what it means to be a sexual being when you're just plain tired, this episode is a beautiful, validating starting point. Episode Highlights:[0:41] - Welcoming back Dr. Juliana and diving into her new book on sexual agency [2:23] - Why sexuality looks different for every woman—and changes with life [6:12] - The “quiet part out loud”: What women really feel about sex at midlife [7:04] - How shame and comparison hold us back from sexual freedom [10:52] - Pajamas, books, and sensuality: reframing what it means to be sexual [12:27] - The crushing mental load that zaps our energy—and our libido [15:07] - What’s the real point of sex? Dr. Juliana challenges us to find our “why” [17:09] - Sexual energy as power, fuel, and a path to aliveness [21:13] - From invisible to vibrant: reclaiming visibility through sexual self-connection [27:38] - Dismantling the performance myth: what you want matters [33:09] - What is pegging? (Yes, we went there—and learned a thing or two) [36:19] - Exploring new sexual pathways with creativity and curiosity [40:22] - The power of safety, self-trust, and saying no with confidence [44:24] - Time is now: why midlife is the moment to claim your sexual agency [46:59] - Where to find Dr. Juliana, her book, and how to start your journey Links and Resources:Dr. Juliana’s Website: https://dr-juliana.com/ The Revealed Lift: https://therevealedlife.com/ Dr. Juliana’s book: A New Position on Sex https://drive.google.com/file/d/1OoHcmzMbKAImZG501v6l1cNM_DCOKv19/view?usp=drive_link   If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we're diving into one of the most talked-about but least understood challenges many women face at midlife: imposter syndrome. We're Colette and Laura, two therapists and best friends, and we're getting real about the self-doubt that shows up right when we're trying to level up in life, work, and relationships.We unpack why imposter syndrome hits so hard in midlife, how it keeps you stuck in comparison and perfectionism, and why it's time to ditch the stilettos and stop shrinking. We also share our personal stories of growth, setbacks, vulnerability, and what it actually looks like to push through imposter feelings and get back in the arena. This one is heartfelt, funny, and packed with real tools you can use to build confidence, reframe your inner dialogue, and reclaim your space—because your worth is not up for debate. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Kicking off with why imposter syndrome is so real for women in midlife [1:10] - Defining imposter syndrome and the mental trap it creates [2:34] - The impact of shifting identity and risk-taking at midlife [7:06] - Laura's story: inherited privilege and narrative excuses [15:08] - Perfectionism, performance pressure, and playing small [16:45] - The shift to embracing grit and a growth mindset [19:57] - Naming the struggle and the power of vulnerability [23:24] - Building a stack of evidence: celebrating micro wins [24:41] - Taking messy action and staying in the arena [26:35] - Rewriting the inner dialogue with self-compassion [27:12] - Recommended reads to help rewire imposter thinking [28:35] - Feeling fear means you're growing: normalizing discomfort [30:36] - Growing into big roles and owning your worth [32:01] - Ego strength vs. anxiety and visibility fears [33:43] - From cringe to confident: the social media journey [34:30] - Reflecting on each other's strengths and sharing the love Links and Resources: Own Your Greatness: Overcome Impostor Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt, and Succeed in Life https://www.amazon.com/Own-Your-Greatness-Overcome-Self-Doubt-ebook/dp/B07ZZHY1Z8/ref=sr_1_1?crid= The Imposter Cure: Beat insecurities and gain self-belief: https://www.amazon.com/Imposter-Cure-Beat-insecurities-self-belief/dp/1783256273/ref=monarch_sidesheet_title Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well https://www.amazon.com/Thanks-Feedback-Science-Receiving-Well/dp/0670014664 Mindset: The New Psychology of Success: https://a.co/d/5P8Mri5 If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

If you’ve been hearing all the buzz about GLP-1 medications like Ozempic, Wegovy, or Zepbound, and you’re wondering if they could be the right fit for you at midlife, this is the episode to press play on. We brought on nurse practitioner and health optimization expert Amy Wrenn to demystify what GLP-1s actually are, how they work, who they’re for, and what you really need to know about taking them during perimenopause and menopause. Amy is passionate, informed, and totally relatable—she cuts through the hype to bring clarity to a topic that’s been wrapped in confusion and judgment.In this conversation, we get real about our own experiences, bust some myths, talk side effects (yep, we go there), and explore the broader context of hormone therapy, weight gain, metabolic dysfunction, and the importance of doing what works for your individual body and life. Whether you’re curious, cautious, or already on a GLP-1, this is a must-listen packed with valuable insights.  Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Welcoming Amy Wrenn and kicking off our deep dive into GLP-1s [3:10] - What exactly are GLP-1s, and how do they work in your body? [5:00] - Understanding insulin resistance, perimenopause, and why midlife changes everything [6:57] - Real-life examples of "metabolic mayhem" that hits out of nowhere [8:03] - Challenging the lazy stereotype: GLP-1s are not a quick fix [10:08] - The far-reaching benefits: inflammation, PCOS, cognitive health, and more [12:10] - Social media hype vs. safe medical prescribing—know the difference [13:46] - Compounded medications vs. name-brand prescriptions: what to watch for [17:33] - Who qualifies for GLP-1s, and what do providers look for? [20:43] - It's not about skinny—it's about healthy: the real goal of treatment [22:34] - Common side effects: what to expect and how to manage them [25:25] - Nutrition matters: prioritizing protein, avoiding high-fat traps [26:38] - Surprising benefits: reduced alcohol cravings, better food boundaries [28:12] - Coming off GLP-1s: what it looks like, and when it’s okay to stay on [31:48] - Does your body adapt over time? Amy explains habituation and dosing [33:32] - The power trio: GLP-1s, HRT, and resistance training [36:08] - Hormone therapy explained: symptom relief vs. long-term prevention [40:51] - Why we’re not getting this info from our doctors—and how to change that [42:24] - Where to follow Amy and keep learning more  Links & ResourcesFollow Amy Wrenn, NP on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/np_wrenn If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Come hang out with us in The Chat, our free community for midlife women, where we keep theconversation going at insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat. And don’t forget todownload our free guide 7 Skills to Master Midlife so you can stop living small, start taking action, andlive the life you really want at insightsfromthecouch.org/midlife-roadmap.