In this deeply moving episode, we sit down with the brilliant author and military spouse-turned-memoirist, Heather Sweeney. Her new book Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage takes us inside the complex emotional terrain of identity loss, divorce, resilience, and ultimately, self-discovery. Heather's story is not just one of heartbreak, but of reclaiming voice, power, and purpose—especially for women navigating life after a long-term partnership.We talk about everything from the layered reality of military marriage to the quiet courage it takes to start over. Heather shares what it's like to lose yourself inside someone else’s story—and how she found her way back. If you’re feeling stuck, alone, or like your identity has been swallowed by your roles, this episode is your permission slip to rediscover who you are. Episode Highlights: [0:00] – Introducing Heather Sweeney: Writer, military spouse, and memoirist [1:35] – From blogging to bylines: Heather’s journey to becoming a published author [3:42] – Riding the roller coaster of military life and finding connection online [5:38] – Heather’s national writing credits and how she landed in The New York Times [8:38] – The invisible load of military marriage and emotional isolation [10:41] – Losing identity in someone else’s career—and the silent toll it takes [15:00] – Why divorce was always “in the air” and how it evolved over years [19:43] – The emotional aftermath of a partner’s divorce request [23:25] – Financial freedom as the catalyst for leaving [26:03] – Navigating in-house separation and the complicated new normal [28:20] – Military custody realities: long-distance parenting and letting go [31:31] – The bridge from loss to liberation: reclaiming your voice [33:56] – Building a new relationship from a place of strength and clarity [36:52] – Advice for women at the edge of leaving: where to begin [39:34] – Heather’s reflections on rediscovering herself through writing and therapy [40:13] – Where to find Heather’s book and follow her journeyLinks and Resources:·         Order Camouflage: http://posthill.to/B0F316HJTD ·         Website: https://www.heatherlsweeney.com/ ·         Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/writersweeney ·         Substack: https://heathersweeney.substack.com/ If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

Ever feel like your toddler is trying to break you? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re joined by the incredible Devon Kuntzman—toddler parenting expert and author of the brand new book Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Handle Tantrums and Power Struggles and Raise Resilient Kids Without Losing Your Mind. We dive into the real talk about toddler behavior, emotional regulation, and how we as parents can stay sane and connected in the chaos.Whether you’re in the thick of toddlerhood yourself, preparing for grandparenting, or just love understanding the "why" behind those tiny tornadoes, this conversation is packed with empathy, science-backed strategies, and hope. Devon gives us a totally refreshing reframe on discipline, tantrums, and screen time—and we also explore how much has changed (and how much hasn’t) in parenting over the decades. Episode Highlights:[0:00] Meet Devon and her just-launched book on toddlerhood [3:06] Redefining what “toddler” really means [4:33] What’s changed in the way we understand toddler behavior [7:48] Why toddler meltdowns aren’t bad behavior—they’re communication [9:47] Parenting styles: from controlling commander to confident guide [12:49] Real-world scenario: what to do when your toddler hits you [15:24] Teaching kids to cope with emotions instead of just punishing behavior [17:19] The importance of reparenting yourself while raising your child [18:24] How to avoid permissiveness while still setting healthy limits [21:08] It’s okay to be overwhelmed—and why repair is more powerful than perfection [25:00] Devon’s 4-step process for repairing relationships after a parenting slip [27:27] Generational gaps: parenting now vs. then [29:53] Navigating boundaries with your child and your parents [32:04] Real talk: toddlers and restaurants are not always a match [33:53] What’s the deal with screens? Devon breaks down screen time and brain health [35:32] Parenting isn’t passive—it’s the hardest job you’ll ever love [37:56] Self-compassion, strong-willed toddlers, and hilarious parenting fails [39:44] Final takeaways: discipline that connects, teaches, and sets limits Links and Resources: 🍼 Transforming Toddlerhood by Devon Kuntzman: https://www.transformingtoddlerhood.com/book/📲 Follow Devon on Instagram: @transformingtoddlerhood If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! 🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

In this intense and emotionally charged episode, we dive deep into some of the most chilling and perplexing true crime cases involving mothers who committed unimaginable acts against their own children. From psychological abuse to cold-blooded murder, we’re peeling back the layers on what happens when motherhood takes a dark, dangerous turn.We explore the twisted motivations and complex psychopathology behind cases like Unknown Number, Casey Anthony, Lindsay Clancy, Ruby Franke, and her notorious partner Jodi Hildebrandt. We’re not just recapping the crimes—you’ll hear our raw reactions as therapists and mothers, and we’ll take you into the murky territory of trauma, sociopathy, narcissism, and the haunting dynamics of parent-child bonds gone horribly wrong. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Kicking off with our Midlife Masterclass and a true crime deep dive[1:24] - “Mothers Gone Wrong” intro and a therapist’s disbelief at these cases[3:00] - Breaking down the “Unknown Number” Netflix documentary[5:54] - The big reveal: a mother as the digital abuser of her own daughter[10:22] - Exploring Munchausen by proxy, sociopathy, and attention-seeking behavior[13:32] - Control, puppet-mastery, and compulsive lying[19:31] - Is pathological lying an addiction?[22:41] - Shifting to Ruby Franke and the cult-like influence of Jodi Hildebrandt[26:14] - Exploitation, rigidity, and mental manipulation in parenting[30:16] - The horrifying rescue of Ruby Franke’s emaciated son[32:47] - Discussing Lindsay Clancy and the reality of postpartum psychosis[36:52] - The tragic consequences of untreated mental health struggles[38:45] - Revisiting Casey Anthony from a therapist’s lens[42:12] - Sociopathy hiding behind maternal faces[45:01] - Wrapping up with empathy for victims and a plea for prevention[46:50] - Community callout and how to stay connected If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

 We’re thrilled to bring you this heartfelt and hilarious conversation with Dave Tarnowski—author, creative force behind the Instagram phenomenon Disappointing Affirmations, and the man redefining self-help with a dose of sharp wit and raw honesty. With over 2.5 million followers, Dave’s take on mental health, neurodivergence, grief, and healing resonates deeply—and this episode is no exception.Together, we explore Dave’s late-in-life diagnoses of bipolar disorder and ADHD, his journey through therapy, sobriety, and grief, and how humor became his lifeline. We dive into the making of his newest book, Sorry in Advance for Making Things Weird, and talk about what it means to “do the work”—even when it sucks. If you’ve ever felt like you’re falling apart while still managing to laugh, this episode will make you feel seen, heard, and a little more okay with not being okay. Episode Highlights:[1:19] – Dave shares the origin story of Disappointing Affirmations and how his mental health journey shaped his work. [3:04] – Getting diagnosed with bipolar disorder and ADHD later in life. [5:03] – The neurodivergent mind: creativity, sensitivity, and deep knowing. [7:43] – Using humor to bring healing to heavy emotions. [9:52] – Why negative thoughts deserve affirmation too. [13:04] – Medication trials, missteps, and finally finding a fit. [15:31] – From unfinished novels to viral memes: how the Instagram page was born. [21:26] – The power of dark humor, cynicism, and embracing absurdity. [23:00] – Creating a safe space for all—why Dave stays out of divisive commentary. [26:17] – Generational therapy gaps and shifting the mental health narrative. [29:19] – What it means to actually do the work in therapy. [33:38] – Sibling trauma, family hierarchy, and navigating long-standing dynamics. [38:35] – Grief, loss, and finally facing what we try to avoid. [42:22] – What's inside the new book—and why it goes deeper than the first. [46:13] – Where to find Dave’s books, cards, and more. [48:13] – The importance of men accessing therapy and emotional healing. Links and Resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/disappointingaffirmations Dave Tarnowski’s book Disappointing Affirmations Dave Tarnowski’s book Sorry in advance for making things weird If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

In this deeply moving and eye-opening episode, we sit down with Dr. Nadine Macaluso—therapist, author, and trauma bond expert—to explore the insidious dynamics of trauma bonded relationships. Nadine bravely shares her own experience as the ex-wife of “The Wolf of Wall Street,” shedding light on the coercion, manipulation, and psychological warfare that define these toxic partnerships. But more than just surviving, Nadine walks us through what it truly takes to heal, reclaim your identity, and find peace on the other side. We unpack what trauma bonding really means (and what it doesn’t), the behavioral patterns that make these relationships so hard to leave, and why traditional labels like “codependency” often miss the mark.  Episode Highlights:[0:26] - Welcoming Dr. Nadine Macaluso and the powerful topic of trauma bonding [2:46] - Defining trauma bonds: the toxic dance of power imbalance and intermittent reinforcement [4:32] - The difference between conflict in healthy relationships and trauma bonds [6:18] - Why “narcissistic abuse” doesn’t cover the full picture [8:48] - How trauma bonds begin with charm, love bombing, and hidden pathology [9:37] - The damaging effects of victim-blaming language in therapy and society [11:54] - Living with public exposure and reclaiming her story after The Wolf of Wall Street [14:08] - The viral TikTok that launched Nadine’s healing advocacy online [17:32] - Coercion disguised as love: fast-tracked marriage, children, and control [18:37] - Why trauma bonds are so hard to break: fear, shame, confusion, and dependency [21:33] - Nadine’s healing roadmap: education, stabilization, and rediscovery of self [27:36] - What life feels like after leaving a trauma bond: freedom, peace, and autonomy [29:42] - Learning to trust your intuition again and spotting red flags early [30:24] - Can women be the pathological partner? The gendered nature of coercive control [32:50] - Process addictions and their devastating impact on self-worth [33:09] - Cognitive dissonance: the mental glue of trauma bonded relationships [34:45] - Realizing there was only ever one person in the relationship—the manipulator [36:24] - How to access Nadine’s book, community, and incredible healing resources Links & ResourcesDownload the First Chapter of Dr. Nadine Macalso’s book Run Like Hell for Free: https://heal.drnae.com/podcast-book-giveaway Join Dr. Nadine Macaluso’s trauma bond recovery course: https://course.drnae.com/trauma-bond-recovery-course-c If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! 🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

Hey there, friends! In this episode, we sit down with our fabulous returning guest, Dr. Juliana Hauser, to talk about her powerful new book, A New Position on Sex. Trust us when we say, this conversation is one you do not want to miss. Whether you're feeling disconnected from your sexual self, stuck in old beliefs, or just plain exhausted, Dr. Juliana offers an entirely new—and deeply empowering—way to approach sexuality in midlife.We dig into everything from sensuality and sexual agency to what it means to feel vibrant, connected, and alive again—on your own terms. You’ll hear real talk (and plenty of laughs) about shame, societal expectations, pleasure beyond the bedroom, and why embracing your sexuality is not about performing for others. If you've ever felt like sex was just one more to-do item or wondered what it means to be a sexual being when you're just plain tired, this episode is a beautiful, validating starting point. Episode Highlights:[0:41] - Welcoming back Dr. Juliana and diving into her new book on sexual agency [2:23] - Why sexuality looks different for every woman—and changes with life [6:12] - The “quiet part out loud”: What women really feel about sex at midlife [7:04] - How shame and comparison hold us back from sexual freedom [10:52] - Pajamas, books, and sensuality: reframing what it means to be sexual [12:27] - The crushing mental load that zaps our energy—and our libido [15:07] - What’s the real point of sex? Dr. Juliana challenges us to find our “why” [17:09] - Sexual energy as power, fuel, and a path to aliveness [21:13] - From invisible to vibrant: reclaiming visibility through sexual self-connection [27:38] - Dismantling the performance myth: what you want matters [33:09] - What is pegging? (Yes, we went there—and learned a thing or two) [36:19] - Exploring new sexual pathways with creativity and curiosity [40:22] - The power of safety, self-trust, and saying no with confidence [44:24] - Time is now: why midlife is the moment to claim your sexual agency [46:59] - Where to find Dr. Juliana, her book, and how to start your journey Links and Resources:Dr. Juliana’s Website: https://dr-juliana.com/ The Revealed Lift: https://therevealedlife.com/ Dr. Juliana’s book: A New Position on Sex https://drive.google.com/file/d/1OoHcmzMbKAImZG501v6l1cNM_DCOKv19/view?usp=drive_link   If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we're diving into one of the most talked-about but least understood challenges many women face at midlife: imposter syndrome. We're Colette and Laura, two therapists and best friends, and we're getting real about the self-doubt that shows up right when we're trying to level up in life, work, and relationships.We unpack why imposter syndrome hits so hard in midlife, how it keeps you stuck in comparison and perfectionism, and why it's time to ditch the stilettos and stop shrinking. We also share our personal stories of growth, setbacks, vulnerability, and what it actually looks like to push through imposter feelings and get back in the arena. This one is heartfelt, funny, and packed with real tools you can use to build confidence, reframe your inner dialogue, and reclaim your space—because your worth is not up for debate. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Kicking off with why imposter syndrome is so real for women in midlife [1:10] - Defining imposter syndrome and the mental trap it creates [2:34] - The impact of shifting identity and risk-taking at midlife [7:06] - Laura's story: inherited privilege and narrative excuses [15:08] - Perfectionism, performance pressure, and playing small [16:45] - The shift to embracing grit and a growth mindset [19:57] - Naming the struggle and the power of vulnerability [23:24] - Building a stack of evidence: celebrating micro wins [24:41] - Taking messy action and staying in the arena [26:35] - Rewriting the inner dialogue with self-compassion [27:12] - Recommended reads to help rewire imposter thinking [28:35] - Feeling fear means you're growing: normalizing discomfort [30:36] - Growing into big roles and owning your worth [32:01] - Ego strength vs. anxiety and visibility fears [33:43] - From cringe to confident: the social media journey [34:30] - Reflecting on each other's strengths and sharing the love Links and Resources: Own Your Greatness: Overcome Impostor Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt, and Succeed in Life https://www.amazon.com/Own-Your-Greatness-Overcome-Self-Doubt-ebook/dp/B07ZZHY1Z8/ref=sr_1_1?crid= The Imposter Cure: Beat insecurities and gain self-belief: https://www.amazon.com/Imposter-Cure-Beat-insecurities-self-belief/dp/1783256273/ref=monarch_sidesheet_title Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well https://www.amazon.com/Thanks-Feedback-Science-Receiving-Well/dp/0670014664 Mindset: The New Psychology of Success: https://a.co/d/5P8Mri5 If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 [Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/?rdid=QDc8ryzocgFpBrbm#]

If you’ve been hearing all the buzz about GLP-1 medications like Ozempic, Wegovy, or Zepbound, and you’re wondering if they could be the right fit for you at midlife, this is the episode to press play on. We brought on nurse practitioner and health optimization expert Amy Wrenn to demystify what GLP-1s actually are, how they work, who they’re for, and what you really need to know about taking them during perimenopause and menopause. Amy is passionate, informed, and totally relatable—she cuts through the hype to bring clarity to a topic that’s been wrapped in confusion and judgment.In this conversation, we get real about our own experiences, bust some myths, talk side effects (yep, we go there), and explore the broader context of hormone therapy, weight gain, metabolic dysfunction, and the importance of doing what works for your individual body and life. Whether you’re curious, cautious, or already on a GLP-1, this is a must-listen packed with valuable insights.  Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Welcoming Amy Wrenn and kicking off our deep dive into GLP-1s [3:10] - What exactly are GLP-1s, and how do they work in your body? [5:00] - Understanding insulin resistance, perimenopause, and why midlife changes everything [6:57] - Real-life examples of "metabolic mayhem" that hits out of nowhere [8:03] - Challenging the lazy stereotype: GLP-1s are not a quick fix [10:08] - The far-reaching benefits: inflammation, PCOS, cognitive health, and more [12:10] - Social media hype vs. safe medical prescribing—know the difference [13:46] - Compounded medications vs. name-brand prescriptions: what to watch for [17:33] - Who qualifies for GLP-1s, and what do providers look for? [20:43] - It's not about skinny—it's about healthy: the real goal of treatment [22:34] - Common side effects: what to expect and how to manage them [25:25] - Nutrition matters: prioritizing protein, avoiding high-fat traps [26:38] - Surprising benefits: reduced alcohol cravings, better food boundaries [28:12] - Coming off GLP-1s: what it looks like, and when it’s okay to stay on [31:48] - Does your body adapt over time? Amy explains habituation and dosing [33:32] - The power trio: GLP-1s, HRT, and resistance training [36:08] - Hormone therapy explained: symptom relief vs. long-term prevention [40:51] - Why we’re not getting this info from our doctors—and how to change that [42:24] - Where to follow Amy and keep learning more  Links & ResourcesFollow Amy Wrenn, NP on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/np_wrenn If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Come hang out with us in The Chat, our free community for midlife women, where we keep theconversation going at insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat. And don’t forget todownload our free guide 7 Skills to Master Midlife so you can stop living small, start taking action, andlive the life you really want at insightsfromthecouch.org/midlife-roadmap.

In this episode, we sit down with the vibrant and inspiring Wendy Valentine, host of The Midlife Makeover Show and author of Women Waking Up: The Midlife Manifesto for Passion, Purpose, and Play. Join us as we talk about how midlife doesn't have to mean crisis—it can mean awakening. Wendy shares her deeply personal story of rebuilding her life from the ground up, and the radical self-love and resilience that fueled her transformation. We dive into the emotional truths of midlife, from grief and divorce to rediscovering joy and authenticity. Wendy doesn't just inspire, she equips you with tangible tools, mindset shifts, and her powerful FREEDOM framework to help you move from stuck to empowered.  Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Welcoming Wendy Valentine and introducing her book, Women Waking Up [2:32] - Wendy shares her rock-bottom moment and the events that triggered her transformation [6:24] - Reframing "crashing out" as a path to growth and renewal [8:25] - The lotus metaphor: finding beauty and strength in the mud of midlife [13:09] - You don’t need a crisis to change: How midlife malaise can be a call to action [14:51] - The most common limiting beliefs Wendy hears from women in midlife [17:37] - Stepping into the light: responsibility, courage, and becoming your own best friend [22:27] - Introducing the FREEDOM framework: 7 steps to rebuild and reclaim your life [27:27] - From "acting" like your future self to becoming her [29:44] - Small changes with big ripple effects [32:49] - Leaping into the unknown: Wendy’s journey into RV life and podcasting [36:22] - Meditation, journaling, and daily habits that shift your brain and your life [40:16] - Rewiring your beliefs through neuroplasticity and self-awareness [43:25] - Trusting yourself and embracing midlife as your time  Links and Resources:Pre-order Wendy’s book Women Waking Up: https://www.wendyvalentine.com ·         Wendy Valentine on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy_valentine_/ Wendy's Substack: https://wendyvalentine.substack.com  If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Come hang out with us in The Chat, our free community for midlife women, where we keep theconversation going at insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat. And don’t forget todownload our free guide 7 Skills to Master Midlife so you can stop living small, start taking action, andlive the life you really want at insightsfromthecouch.org/midlife-roadmap.

We're thrilled to bring you this powerful and myth-busting conversation with Dr. Kelly Casperson, a board-certified urologist, author of You Are Not Broken, and host of the top-rated podcast of the same name. If you’ve ever felt confused, dismissed, or flat-out frustrated by the information (or lack thereof) around perimenopause and menopause, this episode is for you. Dr. Casperson breaks down the science with clarity and humor, helping us all better understand what’s really going on with our hormones—and why we don’t have to just "tough it out." We cover everything from early symptoms like brain fog and poor sleep to the misunderstood role of hormones like estrogen and testosterone. We also talk about how we as women can become better advocates for our health in a system that often leaves us behind.  Episode Highlights:  [4:38] - Debunking the myth that menopause only happens in your 50s—and how "average" doesn't mean "too young." [7:16] - Brain fog, sleep issues, and the importance of estrogen and testosterone for your mental clarity. [16:50] - The real story behind testosterone—what it does, why it's not “just for libido,” and how women actually produce more of it than estrogen. [21:33] - Pros, cons, and controversies of pellets vs. transdermal testosterone and how to advocate for safe, effective treatment. [29:00] - Why age-based hormone treatment guidelines are outdated and how to start thinking preventively about your health. [34:30] - Breast cancer survivors and hormones: navigating a complex and often misinformed landscape. [38:59] - Common myths around risk and how to challenge medical gatekeeping with knowledge and confidence. [42:44] - The fallout from the 2002 Women’s Health Initiative study and how misinformation persists decades later. [44:08] - Where to actually find a menopause-savvy provider who knows the full menu of treatment options. Links & Resources:Dr. Kelly Casperson's Website: https://kellycaspersonmd.com/ Book: You Are Not Broken: https://kellycaspersonmd.com/you-are-not-broken-book/ Upcoming Book: Menopause Moment (September 2025): Pre-Order Now: preorder Kelly's new book about Perimenopause: https://kellycaspersonmd.com/the-menopause-moment-book/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kellycaspersonmd Podcast: You Are Not Broken: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329 Menopause Society Directory: https://menopause.org/  If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Come hang out with us in The Chat, our free community for midlife women, where we keep theconversation going at insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat. And don’t forget todownload our free guide 7 Skills to Master Midlife so you can stop living small, start taking action, andlive the life you really want at insightsfromthecouch.org/midlife-roadmap.

In this episode, we’re discussing the real, raw, and essential skills that every woman needs to navigate midlife with grace, grit, and a whole lot of self-compassion. We’ve been through the highs, the lows, the chutes and ladders of this season, and today we’re pulling back the curtain to share the seven foundational skills we believe every woman should know to not just survive, but thrive. These are the skills we teach in our Midlife Master Class, and the ones that have held us up through the toughest times. From boundary-setting and assertive communication to frustration tolerance, inner parts work, and energy protection—this conversation is packed with insights we’ve lived, taught, and continue to practice ourselves.  Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Why midlife is so hard—and why these 7 skills matter [2:46] - The highlight reel isn’t the whole story (and why we cry behind the scenes) [6:12] - Boundaries: not just with others, but with yourself [9:03] - When your kid is in a toxic relationship (and you want to break up with them yourself) [13:44] - Self-care as a boundary: what it really looks like [14:00] - Assertive communication: the misunderstood superpower [21:10] - Frustration tolerance: why it belongs in your skillset [22:10] - What self-connected communication actually looks like [29:43] - Understanding and befriending your inner critic [31:10] - Why self-compassion isn’t fluffy—it’s essential [33:08] - Protecting your energy: from giving tree to grounded goddess [39:39] - The dance between being needed and being free [41:31] - Redefining resilience as a learned, practiced skill [46:02] - How changing your self-talk becomes your superpower [47:39] - Why doing this work in a group is so powerful (and how you can join us) If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Come hang out with us in The Chat, our free community for midlife women, where we keep theconversation going at insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat. And don’t forget todownload our free guide 7 Skills to Master Midlife so you can stop living small, start taking action, andlive the life you really want at insightsfromthecouch.org/midlife-roadmap.

Hey friends! In this episode, we're thrilled to welcome the incredible Christina Woods—a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Rapid Transformational Therapist, Empowerment Coach, and Reiki Master. Christina brings a wealth of knowledge and a deeply personal story of transformation after decades in corporate leadership. Together, we explore how childhood beliefs, people-pleasing patterns, and midlife awakenings can shape—and reshape—our lives.Christina gets real about her journey from high-achieving executive to empowered healer, sharing how modalities like hypnotherapy, EMDR, and energy work helped her (and now help others) move from burnout to balance. We dig into subconscious beliefs, emotional healing, intuition, and how to rewire the mind for worthiness and self-compassion. You’ll hear both the science and the soul of healing, with laughs, deep truths, and maybe a few thigh stories along the way. Episode Highlights:[0:01] - Laura introduces Christina Woods and her background in therapy and corporate leadership.[1:19] - Christina shares her unraveling: career burnout, divorce, and rediscovering herself.[5:53] - The “garden moment” that sparked Christina’s personal transformation.[7:35] - How hypnotherapy and EMDR opened the door to healing deep trauma. [10:48] - Laura and Christina discuss the power of embodied therapeutic modalities.[14:34] - Colette joins and dives into the hypnotherapy process and how it really works.[20:19] - Can anyone be hypnotized? Busting myths and sharing real client experiences.[24:27] - Custom hypnotherapy audios: why language, music, and intention matter.[27:55] - Common client themes: high achievers, perfectionism, and “not enoughness”.[29:16] - Healing principles from the documentary “HEAL” and why intuition matters.[32:40] - Fear, intuition, and learning to trust your internal compass.[35:58] - Hypnotherapy reveals unconscious beliefs—sometimes from early childhood.[37:39] - Laura and Colette share personal “aha” moments and therapy curiosities.[40:54] - Matching your energy with your mindset to truly hold what you believe you deserve. [41:37] - Where to find Christina online and how to work with her. Resources:Christina Woods’ website: www.christinalwoods.comChristina on Instagram: @christina.lwoodsIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Come hang out with us in The Chat, our free community for midlife women, where we keep theconversation going at insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat. And don’t forget todownload our free guide 7 Skills to Master Midlife so you can stop living small, start taking action, andlive the life you really want at insightsfromthecouch.org/midlife-roadmap.

Ready to reclaim your energy, sanity, and self-worth? In this episode, we’re diving into the unapologetic, liberating mindset of giving zero fucks—specifically, the 10 things we’ve learned to stop caring about at midlife. From good girl conditioning to comparison culture, we unpack the beliefs and behaviors that no longer serve us and explore what it means to live more freely, authentically, and powerfully in this season of life. Episode Highlights:[0:03] – Reclaiming your time and energy with a zero-fucks midlife mindset [0:40] – Why being nice instead of honest keeps us stuck [4:25] – Letting go of comparison and honoring your own path [7:04] – Releasing outdated visions of what life "should" look like [11:52] – Caring less about what others think—spotlight effect and all [16:40] – Ditching the scale: body image, aging, and radical acceptance [21:55] – No more default caretaker role—how to share the labor [26:04] – Redefining beauty: aging with grace, or not [30:49] – Hustling for approval: letting go of external validation [36:23] – Playing small to keep others comfortable? Not anymore [41:16] – Letting go of expectations for other people’s lives If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

This episode we’re joined by the incredible Maryon Stewart, a global pioneer in natural hormone rebalancing and women's health advocate. Maryon drops serious wisdom about how women can navigate perimenopause, menopause, and beyond—without relying on HRT. We talk all about phytoestrogens, nutritional deficiencies, and how small, science-backed changes in diet and lifestyle can lead to huge shifts in how we feel.Whether you're just starting to notice changes or deep in the menopause journey, Maryon’s natural hormone rebalancing protocol (NHRP) offers a roadmap to feeling vibrant again. We go deep into what’s actually happening in our bodies, what the research shows, and why the medical community still isn’t fully caught up. This is the conversation we wish we’d had years ago—so don’t miss it! Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Intro to Maryon Stewart and her revolutionary work on menopause [4:50] - What the FEMMAR community offers and why real-time research updates matter [9:13] - How the NHRP was born and what makes it unique [14:26] - Breaking down the Natural Hormone Rebalancing Protocol (NHRP) [17:21] - Understanding phytoestrogens and how they mimic estrogen naturally [21:07] - Can you really go through menopause without HRT? [24:52] - What phytoestrogens actually are and how they work [28:22] - A look at the diet: what to eat, how to eat, and making it easy [32:27] - Belly fat at midlife: why it happens and what to do about it [34:14] - Post-menopausal zest, community support, and long-term vitality [41:30] - How the medical world is responding and FEMMAR’s growing impact [45:32] - Where to find Maryon, her community, and free resources Links and Resources:Femmar - website and community sign-up https:femmar.com Free Phytoestrogens Food Guide - download from Femmar.com (https://www.femmar.com/newsletter-downloads) Femmar.Hormonal.Health on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/femmar.hormonal.health/?hl=enMaryon Stewart BEM on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maryon-stewart-bem-b806634/ If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! 

Hey friends! In today’s episode of Insights from the Couch, we’re exploring one of our favorite (and most handed-out!) psychological models—the Drama Triangle. If you've ever felt stuck in dysfunctional relationship dynamics, unsure why you're constantly the “rescuer,” “victim,” or “persecutor,” this one's for you. We break down how these roles silently fuel relational chaos and emotional suppression—and most importantly, how to get out.We also introduce the Empowerment Triangle, the powerful antidote that helps you reclaim your agency and transform your relationships. We’re not here for surface-level chatter—we’re all about taking personal responsibility, getting real about what’s not working, and building healthier, more honest connections. So grab your coffee and settle in—we’re getting real about emotional growth, boundary-setting, and stepping into your truth. Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Welcome to Insights from the Couch and intro to "The Chat" community [1:47] - Why we love teaching the Drama Triangle model [3:24] - Defining the three core roles: victim, rescuer, and persecutor [5:34] - The puppet-master energy of the victim role [7:50] - The shift from victimhood to Creator mindset [10:57] - Personal stories on family dynamics and feeling disempowered [13:19] - How rescuers unknowingly uphold dysfunctional systems [16:33] - Gender, parenting, and the over-functioning rescuer [18:26] - Emotional discomfort and the fear that fuels rescuing [22:46] - The persecutor: the role no one wants but everyone needs [25:07] - Why breaking the triangle means risking being “the bad guy” [27:56] - How emotional suppression drives the Drama Triangle [32:54] - Shifting to the Empowerment Triangle: Creator, Coach, and Challenger [35:51] - Taking personal accountability and validating our feelings [38:24] - The difference between rescuing and coaching with compassion [41:05] - How to offer support without enabling [42:06] - Embracing the Challenger role to live in truth [44:33] - Join our new community space “The Chat” at insightsfromthecouch.org Links & Resources:·         Join the conversation and community at: https://www.insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat ·         Learn more about the Drama Triangle and Empowerment Triangle: The Power of TED* by David Emerald·         Recommended reading: The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Midlife weight gain feels like it sneaks up on us—and suddenly what used to work, doesn’t. In this episode, we sit down with our brilliant friend and fitness expert, Dena Pistor, for a no-BS conversation about what it actually takes to manage weight and feel better in perimenopause and beyond. Whether you're frustrated by belly fat that seems to appear overnight, curious about the truth behind diet shots, or just feeling stuck with your health goals, this is the conversation you need.We talk openly (and laugh a lot) about shifting hormones, genetic set points, unrealistic fitness expectations, and why those "quick fix" diets rarely work long term. Dena brings not only her expertise, but her realness—and reminds us what sustainable, holistic health looks like at this stage of life. Spoiler alert: it’s not about being perfect, it’s about finding what’s possible for you. Episode Highlights: [0:02] - Welcoming Dena Pistor and kicking off our midlife weight loss deep dive [1:51] - The “middle” shows up—belly fat, shifting hormones, and midlife body changes [4:35] - Dena explains the science of menopause weight gain and the high-estrogen effect [5:28] - Why slow weight loss might be more sustainable—and when it isn’t [9:34] - The critical role of sleep, stress, and daily activity in weight management [13:27] - “Fit and healthy is a third job”—real talk about time, priorities, and working out [17:33] - Hydration hacks and why water matters more than you think [18:28] - Letting go of the scale obsession and learning to trust your clothes [23:39] - Skipping meals and skimping on protein? Why that’s sabotaging your success [27:09] - “Stop eating selfishly”—rethinking food as fuel, not just pleasure [30:26] - Mediterranean diet love and the power of eating real, satisfying food [33:33] - European food habits vs. U.S. food culture—what we’re up against [36:56] - Gut health, sugar cravings, and stress eating cycles [37:59] - Diet shots like Zepbound—Dena’s evolving perspective and what to watch for [43:40] - Holistic health is the real goal—not shortcuts, but a sustainable lifestyle [44:50] - Final reflections on grace, effort, and why this journey is worth it If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

What happens when the reflection staring back at you no longer matches the youthful image in your mind? In this episode, we peel back the layers of the “midlife mirror” to explore how aging intersects with body image, vanity, and the deep-seated need for validation. We get raw and real about the emotional shifts that come when our appearance begins to change—and how those shifts impact everything from self-esteem to social dynamics.Join us as we unpack the roots of toxic vanity, explain what dysmorphia really looks like (clinically and subclinically), and reflect on our own personal journeys through beauty, invisibility, and evolving self-worth. If you've ever stood in front of the mirror and thought, “Wait, when did I become her?”—this conversation is for you. Let’s talk about what it means to feel alive, radiant, and beautiful from the inside out. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Kicking off with real talk: what “midlife mirror” means and why it hits hard. [2:06] - Defining dysmorphia and the subtle ways it shows up in everyday life. [4:28] - Feeling invisible: grappling with the shift in public attention as we age. [7:39] - The paradox of pretty: how beauty can become both power and prison. [9:56] - Midlife body changes and the identity crisis that follows. [12:15] - Our personal glow-up stories—and what we learned from them. [16:15] - From Botox to body neutrality: what beauty means to us now. [18:04] - Drawing the line between healthy vanity and toxic preoccupation. [22:32] - The ultimate glow-up? Owning your life force and inner radiance. [24:17] - How early messages about looks shape our adult self-worth. [27:09] - Social media’s role in distorting beauty standards—at every age. [28:49] - Tips for cultivating body neutrality, mindfulness, and self-connection. [30:56] - A final reflection: life force > wrinkle-free face, every time. Resources:Join the Chat: https://www.insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat – our free online community where the conversation continues.Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward. 

This week on Insights From the Couch, we sit down with the powerhouse attorney, author, and survivor, Alreen Haeggquist. From her deeply personal story of growing up in an abusive household to becoming a leading legal advocate for survivors of sexual harassment and assault, Alreen’s journey is a testament to the strength of the human spirit—and the power of owning your story.We explore the long path from trauma to triumph, what it really takes to heal, and how acknowledging the past is the first step toward freedom. Alreen shares how inner child work, therapy, and using her voice not only helped her reclaim her own life but gave her the fuel to fight for others. This conversation is vulnerable, honest, and full of insight for anyone on a healing path—or supporting someone who is. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Welcoming Alreen and an intro to her mission and groundbreaking legal work. [2:04] - Alreen’s early life: arranged marriage, family dynamics, and migration. [5:08] - The many forms of survival: escaping abuse through education and independence. [6:26] - Why bullying at school was more bearable than life at home. [8:29] - The breaking point: rage, motherhood, and the moment of awakening. [11:17] - Alreen’s first steps into therapy and realizing healing takes more than four sessions. [12:45] - A pivotal psychodrama experience: naming the abuse for the first time. [16:08] - The power of vulnerability and why speaking out matters. [18:30] - Connecting trauma to physical health and emotional wellbeing. [21:13] - Learning to feel again: inner child work and the journey back to the heart. [25:18] - Bringing personal experience into the courtroom to empower survivors. [26:33] - Breaking down sexual assault civil cases and how justice is pursued. [28:39] - Advocacy in action: educating teens and holding institutions accountable. [31:37] - Teaching kids to trust their gut and speak up. [34:28] - The first step to healing: acknowledge it happened and write it down. [35:58] - The complex family fallout of telling the truth. [39:45] - Secrets and silence vs. truth and generational healing. [42:58] - Why acknowledging abuse isn’t rare—it’s revolutionary. Resources:📚 Fired Up: Fueling Triumph From Trauma by Alreen Haeggquist — available on Amazon 🌐 Learn more about Alreen’s work and book at www.alreen.comMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

Hey everyone—We’re diving into a topic that gets tossed around a lot but rarely unpacked in a way that actually matters: self-care. If you’ve ever felt confused or overwhelmed by what self-care really is (and isn’t), this is for you. In this episode, we unpack the myths, call out the cultural noise, and get real about what it truly means to care for yourself, especially during midlife.We talk about the difference between real self-care and the performative kind, and how embodying your values, setting boundaries, and nurturing self-compassion can actually refill your tank. We’re sharing personal practices, therapeutic insights, and a whole lot of laughter as we redefine what it means to be replenished. It’s not spa days and wine nights (though, we won’t judge if you enjoy those too!). Get ready to reframe self-care in a way that truly supports the life you’re trying to build. Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Welcome back + intro to real self-care vs. cultural hype. [1:13] - Why “self-care” can feel like a loaded or empty word. [2:06] - Breaking down faux self-care and the influence of marketing. [4:28] - The truth about performing femininity and hustle culture. [7:45] - Defining escapism vs. true replenishment. [10:40] - Tuning into your inner needs and building self-awareness. [12:44] - Real self-care is simple: boundaries, balance, connection. [14:59] - The power of self-compassion and Kristen Neff’s work. [18:41] - Our own self-care routines and mindsets. [24:17] - The role of creativity and play in replenishment. [29:22] - Why unstructured time is essential. [30:27] - Struggles with attention and learning to do one thing at a time. [31:06] - Rediscovering the joy and nourishment of reading. [32:24] - Final reflections + practical takeaways. Resources:Midlife Master Class Waitlist: insightsfromthecouch.orgKristen Neff’s Self-Compassion Work: self-compassion.org Make sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward. 

In this episode, we're taking a closer look at the science (and soul) of happiness—not that shiny, fake, “good vibes only” stuff, but the real-deal, research-backed version. After attending a powerful talk by Harvard professor and happiness expert Arthur C. Brooks, we came back buzzing with insights, and we couldn’t wait to break it all down for you.We’re exploring what happiness actually means—spoiler: it’s not just about smiling all the time—and how much of it is actually within our control. From the surprising role of genetics to the transformational power of habits, transcendence, relationships, and creative work, we’re sharing key takeaways and offering practical, therapist-approved strategies to help you create a more meaningful, joyful, and resilient life. Episode Highlights:[0:47] - Our field trip to see Arthur C. Brooks live and why he's the happiness guy. [1:37] - The surprising science: 50% of happiness is genetic—wait, what?! [4:44] - Redefining happiness: Enjoyment, satisfaction, and meaning. [6:11] - The real meaning of pleasure (hint: not just wine and cheese nights). [9:10] - What satisfaction really means and why feeling effective is everything. [11:12] - Meaning-making as a mental health superpower. [13:06] - Resilience and post-traumatic growth: Turning lemons into lemonade. [16:46] - Grappling with life’s big questions: “Why are you here?” and “What would you die for?” [19:20] - Transcendence: Spirituality beyond religion and finding awe in everyday moments. [22:27] - Flow state magic: What gets us into it (spoiler: puzzles and cleaning included!). [27:51] - The #1 predictor of happiness: Relationships and why they matter so much. [30:17] - The power of community and intentional connection. [31:25] - Finding purpose in your work—however you define it. [33:41] - The art of the “active dabble” and why it’s okay to not know what lights you up (yet). [35:49] - Wrapping with wisdom: Radical responsibility and the risks of autonomy. Resources:Arthur C. BrooksDownload the “Risks of Autonomy” worksheet and other episode resources at insightsfromthecouch.orgMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.