We’re unpacking a topic that quietly impacts so many relationships but rarely gets talked about: Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD). We break down what it actually is (and what it’s not), especially how it differs from OCD, and why it can go undiagnosed for years. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns of perfectionism, control, or rigidity—either in yourself or a partner—this conversation might feel very familiar.We also get into how OCPD shows up in real life and relationships—from communication struggles to feeling like you can’t quite measure up. And while we don’t shy away from the challenges, we also explore the strengths, the nuance, and what growth can realistically look like. There’s a lot here that might shift how you understand yourself, your partner, and your dynamic.Episode Highlights[0:03] - Welcome + why OCPD is such an important and overlooked topic[2:30] - Reframing “personality disorder” and removing the stigma[5:00] - Why OCPD often goes unnoticed until relationships are impacted[6:30] - Key differences between OCD and OCPD[9:30] - Core traits: rigidity, control, perfectionism, and overwork[14:00] - Real-life relationship dynamics and relatable examples[18:00] - How OCPD affects communication, compromise, and connection[22:00] - Signs this might be showing up in your relationship[24:00] - The internal experience: self-criticism, shame, and pressure[26:30] - Strengths of OCPD and why these traits are often rewarded[28:30] - What actually helps in therapy: building emotional flexibility[31:00] - Growth for both partners + navigating differences[34:30] - Why relationships can be both challenging and healingIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!   Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season.  Come join us—we’d love to have you!👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-bookRecognized by FeedSpot:Top 60 Couples Therapy Podcasts | Top 100 U.S. Mental Health Podcasts | Top 100 Relaxation Podcasts

Grief has a way of cracking everything open—and in this conversation, we sit down with Laing Rikkers to explore what can emerge from that opening. From unexpected loss to creative awakening, we unpack how life’s hardest moments can become invitations to reconnect with yourself, your purpose, and what truly matters. This is a deeply human conversation about courage, identity, and what it really means to begin again.We also get honest about fear—why it keeps so many of us stuck in midlife—and how to gently move through it without needing all the answers. Whether you're navigating loss, burnout, or simply feeling the pull for “something more,” this episode offers grounding insights, practical tools, and a refreshing reminder: you don’t have to choose just one version of yourself.Episode Highlights[00:00] - Welcoming Laing and setting the stage for rewriting your life after major transitions[01:40] - Laing shares the unexpected loss of her sister and how grief reshaped her path[04:11] - Discovering “morning pages” and the healing power of creative expression[07:05] - The surprising emotions of grief beyond sadness—anger, loneliness, and reevaluation[11:43] - “Talk it, walk it, write it” — a simple, powerful framework for moving through grief[13:02] - The biggest mistake in grief: isolation and the importance of connection[14:58] - Fear, identity, and stepping into a multi-dimensional life in midlife[18:54] - Why doing hard things becomes the actual journey of growth[21:22] - Behind the scenes of publishing a first book and navigating creative risk[25:17] - Creating a new chapter: blending business, creativity, and meaningful work[29:14] - Writing through grief vs. making meaning after it[33:05] - The healing power of nature, movement, and simply taking the next stepLinks & ResourcesWebsite: www.laingrikkers.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/laing-rikkersInstagram: @morning_leaves_and_poetryIf today's discussion resonated with you Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season.  Come join us—we’d love to have you!👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-bookRecognized by FeedSpot:Top 60 Couples Therapy Podcasts | Top 100 U.S. Mental Health Podcasts | Top 100 Relaxation Podcasts

In this energizing conversation, we sit down with Allison Walsh—business consultant, personal branding expert, and founder of She Believes She Could—to unpack what it really takes to build confidence, scale your impact, and turn your personal brand into a meaningful business. From pivoting out of law school to helping grow unicorn startups, Allison shares how bold moves and consistent action shaped her journey.We dive into being mission-driven in midlife, aligning purpose with profit, and why so many women feel called to something more. If you’re ready to build your brand, monetize your expertise, and step confidently into your next chapter—this episode is for you.Episode Highlights:[0:03] – Welcome back to Insights from the Couch and an introduction to today’s guest, Allison Walsh.[3:03] – Allison reflects on hearing her own bio and the grit behind the highlight reel.[4:20] – From law school to healthcare leadership: how one unexpected opportunity sparked her first big pivot.[6:34] – Scaling companies, leading massive teams, and building influence behind the scenes.[8:35] – The birth of She Believes She Could during the pandemic—and creating opportunity in uncertainty.[13:13] – Laura opens up about feeling behind on “business skills” and why so many women relate.[14:06] – Who Allison serves: mission-driven women ready to turn their brand into a business.[19:08] – Where to start when you want “more” but don’t know what that looks like yet.[20:48] – The 5 M’s framework: Mindset, Messaging, Marketing, Monetization, and Momentum.[24:48] – What a personal brand really is (hint: it’s your reputation).[29:45] – Allison’s definition of confidence—and why action is the ultimate builder.[31:30] – Where to find Allison and what’s next for She Believes She Could.Links and Resources:Allison Walsh Consulting: www.allisonwalshconsulting.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/allisonwalsh Podcast: www.shebelievedshecouldpodcast.com  Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season.  Come join us—we’d love to have you!👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-bookRecognized by FeedSpot:Top 60 Couples Therapy Podcasts | Top 100 U.S. Mental Health Podcasts | Top 100 Relaxation Podcasts

Family cutoffs, estrangement, and going “no contact” are everywhere right now—and they’re stirring up a lot of strong opinions. We’re unpacking what’s really going on beneath the surface of this cultural moment, and why this topic is so much more complex than it seems. From media conversations to what we’re seeing in therapy rooms, we’re exploring when cutting ties might actually be necessary—and when it might be a reaction to something deeper.We also get into the emotional and generational ripple effects of these decisions, the role of boundaries versus disconnection, and how to navigate relationships that feel difficult without immediately going to extremes. If you’ve ever questioned whether to step back, speak up, or walk away entirely, this conversation will give you a lot to think about. Episode Highlights[01:14] – Why family estrangement has become such a hot (and controversial) topic right now[03:28] – The cultural shift toward “protecting your peace” and what it’s costing us[07:41] – When going no contact is actually warranted—and the key factor most people skip[10:03] – The “dial method” for relationships: a middle ground between closeness and cutoff[14:47] – The real emotional fallout of estrangement—for both sides of the relationship[21:05] – Why every family needs an emotional leader (and what happens when no one steps up)[30:01] – A healthier alternative: taking space without permanently shutting the door[34:13] – How family cutoffs get passed down through generationsIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season.  Come join us—we’d love to have you!👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-bookRecognized by FeedSpot:Top 60 Couples Therapy Podcasts | Top 100 U.S. Mental Health Podcasts | Top 100 Relaxation Podcasts

In this episode, we sit down with the incredible Dr. Rachel Goldman to unpack how small, intentional shifts can create powerful change in your life—without the overwhelm of a full overhaul. We dive into the real mechanics behind Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and why understanding the connection between your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors can be a total game changer.We also explore body image, perfectionism, and the sneaky ways our inner dialogue keeps us stuck. From “all-or-nothing” thinking to building confidence through simple daily tweaks, this conversation is packed with practical insights that will leave you thinking, okay… maybe I can do this differently. Press play—you’re going to want to hear this.Episode Highlights[0:00] - Introducing Dr. Rachel Goldman and her new book When Life Happens[2:30] - Why small “tweaks” (not overhauls) are the key to lasting change[6:40] - Breaking down CBT: how thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are connected[10:30] - Where to start—changing your thoughts vs. changing your actions[12:15] - Why body image always shows up (even when it’s not the main issue)[14:00] - A simple confidence boost: how what you wear impacts how you feel[16:30] - Becoming aware of your inner dialogue (and why it matters)[20:50] - Real-life example: all-or-nothing thinking and getting “unstuck”[25:00] - Perfectionism and why waiting until it’s “just right” keeps you stuck[27:30] - Planning for when life happens (instead of reacting to it)[31:20] - Why you don’t need a life overhaul—just one small step today[34:20] - Normalizing food noise and emotional eating Links & ResourcesDr. Rachel Goldman Instagram: @DrRachelNYC If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season.  Come join us—we’d love to have you!👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-bookRecognized by FeedSpot:Top 60 Couples Therapy Podcasts | Top 100 U.S. Mental Health Podcasts | Top 100 Relaxation Podcasts

Parenting teens today isn’t just challenging—it’s a completely different landscape than what we grew up in. In this episode, Colette explores what it really looks like to raise teenagers in a world shaped by social media, constant comparison, and higher stakes than ever before alongside parenting expert Keesha Scott. From body image struggles to the pressure of being “always on,” this conversation reveals why today’s teens are navigating an intensity many of us never experienced.Colette and Keesha also dig into what it takes to parent effectively in this climate—letting go of one-size-fits-all approaches, meeting your child where they are, and knowing when to bring in outside support. It’s an honest, eye-opening conversation filled with practical insight and a powerful reminder that even the most challenging teens can grow into strong, resilient adults.Episode Highlights[00:03] - Introducing the episode and why parenting teens can feel harder than ever[01:23] - Keesha’s story and how her teenage years shaped her path[06:41] - The modern teen experience: social media, body image, nonstop pressure[10:02] - Why teens today never fully “escape” stress like past generations[12:15] - Substance use today vs. the past—and why parents must stay alert[13:09] - Warning signs a teen may be struggling beyond typical behavior[14:13] - Why outsourcing support can be a game-changer for families[17:15] - Fear-based parenting and how it creates distance, not connection[21:47] - The myth of the “perfect” parenting style—and why flexibility matters[24:41] - Giving teens freedom with boundaries—and letting them earn trust[27:35] - Strong-willed vs. compliant kids: completely different approaches[28:18] - Growing challenges for teen boys: isolation and digital addiction[30:25] - Collaboration over control: how to better connect with your teen[31:36] - Speaking your teen’s language to build trust and understanding[32:41] - Reframing “difficult” teens as confident, resilient adultsLinks & Resources·      Website: https://www.keeshascott.com·      Instagram: Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season.  Come join us—we’d love to have you!👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-bookRecognized by FeedSpot:Top 60 Couples Therapy Podcasts | Top 100 U.S. Mental Health Podcasts | Top 100 Relaxation Podcasts

Health anxiety is one of those things that can quietly take over your mind—and before you know it, you’re stuck in a loop of symptoms, spiraling thoughts, and constant checking. We’re unpacking what this actually looks like in real life, from those sudden “something’s wrong with me” moments to the deeper patterns that keep the cycle going.We also get into the why behind it all—the underlying fears, life stressors, and emotional experiences that can trigger health anxiety in the first place. Along the way, we talk about what actually helps, how to break out of the loop, and how to find your way back to feeling grounded in your body and your life.Episode Highlights[0:00] - Welcome back + introducing health anxiety[1:00] - Laura shares her personal experience with health anxiety[2:30] - What health anxiety is (and what it’s not)[3:45] - Health anxiety vs. hypochondriasis[6:30] - How physical symptoms turn into obsessive focus[9:30] - The reassurance trap: doctors, Google, and ChatGPT[11:15] - The feedback loop between anxiety and body sensations[15:45] - The deeper roots: core fears, grief, and life stressors[18:00] - Why reassurance-seeking keeps the cycle going[20:45] - Intuition vs. anxiety—how to tell the difference[24:30] - Avoidance, fixation, and how anxiety pulls us out of life[25:30] - The role of boredom and ADHD in anxiety patterns[28:00] - Why health anxiety connects to existential fear[29:15] - What actually helps: breaking cycles and shifting focus[31:00] - Engagement and healthy distraction as a way out[32:00] - Normalizing health anxiety and learning to navigate itIf you saw yourself in any part of this conversation, you’re not alone—this is such a human experience, even when it feels overwhelming. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and be gentle with yourself as you navigate it.And if this episode supported you in any way, don’t forget to rate, follow, share, and leave a review—it means so much to us and helps others find their way to these conversations.  Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season.  Come join us—we’d love to have you!👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we sit down with writer, producer, and longtime friend Maylen Dominguez to talk about what it really looks like to pursue creativity in midlife. From leaving a stable career to producing her independent film Ethan Bloom, Maylen shares what it means to listen to that inner creative voice—even when the path forward feels uncertain.Together, we explore the messy middle of reinvention, the courage it takes to follow a creative calling, and how small daily commitments can lead to extraordinary outcomes. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s too late to pursue something meaningful or creative, this conversation is the reminder you didn’t know you needed. Press play and join us as we talk about fear, commitment, creativity, and trusting the process. Episode Highlights[00:39] – We introduce our guest, Maylen Dominguez, and her impressive journey as a writer, producer, and educator.[03:32] – Maylen opens up about being in the “messy middle” of a career transition and choosing to fully commit to her creative work.[07:38] – The simple habit that changed everything: writing three screenplay pages a day and how small commitments create big results.[10:31] – Why “done is better than perfect” and how letting the work be messy helped move the creative process forward.[18:40] – Maylen shares how she’s embracing uncertainty, writing a novel, and learning to trust the natural seasons of life and creativity.[28:55] – The behind-the-scenes journey of turning a screenplay into an independent film—and how the right creative partnership made it possible.[32:32] – The power of commitment: pushing through obstacles, raising funds, and refusing to give up on bringing the film to life.[37:14] – Why it’s never too late to create, pivot, or pursue something meaningful—and the importance of supporting independent film.Links & ResourcesMaylen Dominguez: https://instagram.com/maylendoFollow Ethan Bloom: https://instagram.com/ethanbloomEthan Bloom will be at the Enzian Theater on March 25th (now sold out!). Maylen Dominguez and the film’s director, Herschel Faber, will return for another screening on April 6th, and the film will begin playing at Regal Winter Park Village on April 17th.Enzian Theater tickets: https://enzian.org/film/ethan-bloomFuture Screenings: https://wEver stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season.  Come join us—we’d love to have you!👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we sit down with trauma psychotherapist Dr. Janie Lacy to talk about a topic many women quietly struggle with—toxic relationships and love addiction. As therapists and women who’ve navigated our own relationship journeys, this conversation hits close to home as we unpack what truly defines a toxic relationship and why these dynamics can be so hard to recognize or leave.We also explore the roots of love addiction, trauma bonds, and attachment wounds—and why even strong, successful women can get stuck in painful relationship cycles. Dr. Lacy shares insights into the healing process and how women can rebuild self-worth, break unhealthy patterns, and move toward healthier relationships.Episode Highlights[0:00] – We welcome Dr. Janie Lacy and introduce today’s conversation on toxic relationships, love addiction, and healing.[2:28] – Dr. Lacy explains what defines a toxic relationship—and why unhealthy behaviors often become normalized.[8:30] – We explore where the line is between normal relationship struggles and toxic patterns.[11:50] – A discussion on power imbalance and how attachment styles shape relationship dynamics.[15:04] – We discuss financial dependence, traditional roles, and whether economic imbalance creates unhealthy relationships.[21:21] – What love addiction is, why it’s not in the DSM, and how obsessive thinking and fear of abandonment appear in relationships.[26:59] – Why we mistake intensity for intimacy—and how it keeps people stuck in painful cycles.[31:22] – The impact of gaslighting and how it makes people question their reality.[36:40] – Trauma bonds and why toxic relationships can feel chemically addictive.[37:22] – Dr. Lacy explains the difference between self-worth and self-esteem.[39:20] – Inside the Women Redeemed program and how group work and deep healing support recovery.Links & ResourcesDr. Janie Lacy WebsiteDr. Janie Lacy InstagramIf today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!   Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we dive into a conversation that feels deeply personal—especially if you’re in a season of striving, questioning, or quietly wondering, Is this it? Inspired by Colette’s recent reading of A Million Miles in a Thousand Years, we reflect on success, purpose, and why even the seasons that look “good” from the outside can feel surprisingly disorienting and exhausting.We lean into the uncomfortable middle—the stretch where you’ve worked hard for something but still feel unsure of what’s next. We talk about the younger parts of ourselves that flare up when plans don’t unfold as expected, the urge to pull back when it all feels like too much, and the realization that joy may not come from avoiding struggle—but from staying in it long enough to be changed. Episode Highlights: [0:03] – We’re back on the mic and jumping straight into existential midlife questions.[1:01] – Colette shares how reading A Million Miles in a Thousand Years sparked a deeper reflection on what makes a life “well lived.”[5:13] – The power of story: Are we meant to attain something—or be transformed by the search?[8:59] – Familiarity as the greatest seducer: Why we stay stuck even in “comfortable” unhappiness.[10:56] – Laura opens up about meeting a young, entitled part of herself when life doesn’t go according to plan.[15:02] – Coaching yourself through emotional overwhelm: movement, naming feelings, and creating space.[18:30] – The fear of making the wrong choice—and why meaning matters more than accolades.[24:40] – Forcing yourself into growth: committing before you feel ready (TEDx talks, book deals, Machu Picchu).[27:13] – The marathon as metaphor: Laura’s renewed commitment to the New York City Marathon and doing hard things differently.[31:35] – Why suffering may actually be the pathway to joy.[33:49] – When you want to quit everything: the difference between discernment and hiding.[35:30] – Our closing thesis: Happiness isn’t eliminating obstacles—it’s being willing to stay in the game.If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

This week on Insights from the Couch, we sit down with the fierce and unapologetic Valerie Jones to talk about her powerful book, The Selfish Year. And yes—we mean selfish in the most revolutionary way possible. Together, we unpack what it really means to stop abandoning yourself, to take radical responsibility for your life, and to choose your freedom—even when it disappoints other people.We dive into divorce, people-pleasing, inner child work, emotional abuse, and what Valerie calls “First Girl” and “Hurt Girl.” This conversation is about midlife awakening, reclaiming your voice, and learning how to sit in the fire of discomfort without losing yourself. If you’ve ever felt stuck, resentful, lost, or like you’re living someone else’s version of your life… this episode will hit home. Press play. This is the work. Episode Highlights:[00:00] – Welcome back! We introduce Valerie and why The Selfish Year moved us so deeply.[02:45] – Redefining “selfish”: why selflessness has been conditioning women to self-abandon—and what it means to be “full of self.”[05:22] – Laura shares her own rescuer pattern and what it took to hit the wall.[08:42] – Valerie opens up about childhood sexual abuse, people-pleasing, and her first marriage marked by bipolar disorder and addiction.[13:12] – Divorce as transformation—not failure—and why we should be applauding women who walk through it.[16:11] – “First Girl” and “Hurt Girl”: how we exile our authentic self to survive—and how to bring her back.[21:05] – Sitting still with yourself: why there is no shortcut to healing and why everything is data.[25:56] – The “villain era”: disappointing others, standing in the fire of disapproval, and building resilience.[33:35] – Playing the game of your life instead of sitting on the sidelines.[38:42] – Radical responsibility: moving from victimhood to sovereignty and reclaiming your power of choice.[44:00] – The woman dancing in the surf: the moment that symbolizes the freedom we’re all craving.[48:17] – How to connect with Valerie and get your copy of The Selfish Year.  If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we sit down with the brilliant Fran Houser for a conversation that feels especially relevant if you’re trying to be successful at work without losing yourself along the way. We talk about ambition, empathy, boundaries, and the exhausting double bind women still face in the workplace—where you’re expected to be both warm and bulletproof. Fran brings such grounded wisdom from her decades in corporate leadership, startup investing, and now her portfolio career, and we found ourselves nodding along the entire time.Together, we explore what it really means to lead with kindness and strength, why empathy is not a weakness but a strategic advantage, and how women can rethink networking, ambition, and career pivots in a way that actually fits real life—especially at midlife. This conversation is honest, practical, and deeply validating. You’ll walk away feeling both seen and energized to rethink how you show up at work and beyond. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Welcome to Insights from the Couch and why this conversation matters at midlife [2:10] – Fran’s upbringing, immigrant parents, and early lessons about work and responsibility [6:45] – The origin of The Myth of the Nice Girl and redefining leadership for women [10:40] – How empathy creates trust, influence, and better outcomes at work [15:30] – The fine line between kindness, people-pleasing, and setting boundaries [19:50] – A real workplace story that shows how “being nice” can backfire—and how to repair it [26:30] – Ambition, likability, and the double bind women still face [31:00] – Why women still hesitate to speak up and how perfectionism gets in the way [34:00] – Networking at midlife: why it matters and how to do it in a way that fits you [39:00] – Portfolio careers, career pivots, and designing work that supports your life [47:30] – Fran’s upcoming book on time, perfectionism, and doing less better Links and Resources:Fran’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/franhauser/ Fran’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fran_hauser/  If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we sit down to talk about Colette's new book, The Cost of Quiet, and the patterns we see over and over again in couples therapy. We’ve watched brilliant, capable women slowly lose their voices in relationships, convincing themselves that staying quiet will keep the peace, all while resentment quietly builds. We unpack what really happens when conflict gets avoided, needs go unnamed, and emotional intimacy starts to erode. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “It’s not worth bringing up,” this conversation will challenge you to reconsider what that silence is actually costing you.Episode Highlights[00:48] Why writing The Cost of Quiet became a three-year mission[02:41] The common pattern we see in high-achieving women who stop speaking up[04:44] How conflict avoidance turns into self-abandonment[05:18] Introducing self-connected communication and what it actually means[08:22] The hidden cost of indirect communication in marriage[11:53] A real-life example of addressing a small hurt before it hardens[14:25] The 10 avoidant behaviors that quietly undermine connection[16:17] What “quiet quitting” a relationship really looks like[18:42] Emotional layaway and why avoidance never truly works[22:54] How attachment patterns shape the way we handle conflict[27:44] What to do when your partner responds with defensiveness or distance[28:19] The “3 D’s and an F” communication report card explained[35:18] When self-compassion becomes essential in hard conversations[37:49] How assertiveness can create a virtuous cycle in relationships[38:56] The difference between a surface marriage and emotional intimacy[41:00] Resources, tools, and what’s next as the book launchesLinks & ResourcesThe Cost of Quiet, available now: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-bookEver stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-bookPre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

In this episode, we sit down with the incredible Katherine Woodward Thomas, and honestly—you’re going to feel this one in your bones. We dive into why so many of us do all the insight-oriented healing work, understand our trauma inside and out… and still feel stuck repeating the same patterns. Katherine helps us name the missing piece: learning how to orient toward a future self that’s bigger than our past.Together, we explore how identity, trauma, and self-beliefs quietly shape our choices, our relationships, and our sense of what’s possible. This conversation is rich, hopeful, and deeply practical—especially if you’ve ever thought, “I know why I’m like this… so why isn’t anything changing?” Press play if you’re ready to imagine (and move toward) a different future without bypassing the real work it takes to get there. Episode Highlights: [0:00] – We set the stage: midlife, therapy, and why insight alone isn’t always enough [2:00] – Katherine shares her personal healing journey and what therapy couldn’t fully change [5:45] – The power of “positive possible selves” and why the future shapes us as much as the past [9:40] – Naming self-limiting beliefs and how trauma freezes identity [13:10] – Source Fracture Stories: the core narratives that quietly run our lives [17:00] – Becoming the wise, compassionate adult you didn’t have growing up [21:30] – Shifting from victimhood to choice and personal agency [26:00] – Opposite action, growth mindset, and doing what feels terrifying—but transformative [31:00] – Why this work changes lives faster than insight alone [35:00] – Conscious Uncoupling, legacy, and turning pain into contribution Resources:Katherine’s website: https://katherinewoodwardthomas.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/katherinewoodwardthomas/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katherinewoodwardthomas/   If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more! Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

In this episode, we sit down with dating and heartbreak recovery coach Cole Zesiger for a deeply honest conversation about what really happens after a breakup—and why healing is so much harder than people want to admit. We talk about why heartbreak can feel all-consuming, how our brains are wired for attachment, and why “just move on” is some of the least helpful advice out there.Together, we explore what it actually takes to recover after loss, rebuild a meaningful life, and create healthier relationship patterns moving forward. Whether you’re newly single, stuck in an on-again/off-again cycle, or simply wanting to understand yourself better in relationships, this conversation is packed with insight, compassion, and practical guidance that meets you where you are—without shortcuts or shame. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Welcome to Insights from the Couch and why heartbreak deserves real conversation [2:10] – Meeting Cole Zesiger and how his own divorce shaped his work [6:45] – Why rebounds “work”… until they don’t [9:30] – The evolutionary psychology of heartbreak and why it feels unbearable [14:50] – No contact explained: why space is necessary for healing [18:25] – Social media, blocking vs. muting, and why tiny “hits” keep you stuck [23:45] – Why people stay frozen in grief for years [26:55] – Colette shares her own hard-earned lesson about no contact [31:10] – How people actually get back together in a healthy way [36:00] – Rebuilding your life after heartbreak: the six key areas that matter [41:50] – Attachment styles and why we repeat the same relationship patterns [48:00] – Forgiveness, letting go, and reclaiming your energy [55:10] – Why healthy relationships are worth the risk, according to long-term research Links & Resources·         Cole Zesiger on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachcolezesiger ·         X’s and Knows: The Breakup Advice You Don’t Want to Hear: https://www.amazon.com/Exs-Nos-Breakup-Advice-Dont/dp/1394324138·         Cole’s Website: https://coachcolezesiger.com If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

College admissions have changed dramatically since we were applying—and if you’re parenting a teen right now, you probably feel that in your bones. In this episode, we talk honestly about the new reality of college admissions, why even “perfect on paper” kids aren’t guaranteed a spot anymore, and how this process has become a major source of anxiety for both parents and teens. We share personal stories from our own families and what we’re seeing every day in our therapy offices.More importantly, we dig into how not to let college admissions take over your identity, your household, or your relationship with your child. This conversation is about perspective, mental health, cost, and helping your kids find a path that actually fits who they are—not who the culture says they should be. If you’re navigating college decisions right now (or know it’s coming), this episode is meant to ground you, calm you, and remind you that there are many roads to a good life. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – We introduce the episode and why college admissions have become such an emotional minefield for families. [0:56] – Laura shares why this topic is personal and how fast admissions standards have shifted—even in just a few years. [1:57] – Why state schools like Florida State University and University of Florida feel nearly impossible to access now. [3:44] – Laura walks through the very different college paths of her three kids. [4:50] – We admit our former college “snobbery” and how our perspectives have radically changed. [5:30] – Colette reflects on her own college choices and why fit matters more than prestige. [9:30] – The real cost of college—and how skyrocketing tuition is shaping admissions pressure. [11:27] – Why community college and schools like University of Central Florida deserve way more respect. [14:49] – How parental fear and identity get tangled up in kids’ college outcomes. [17:23] – Letting go of the “one right path” myth and expanding what success can look like. [21:33] – Supporting instead of micromanaging: being air traffic control, not the pilot. [24:22] – Why kids aren’t always developmentally ready for college—and why that’s okay. [27:02] – Protecting your home (and your sanity) with financial and emotional boundaries. [28:48] – Comparison culture, social media, and why they make this process so much harder. [30:30] – Creative, nonlinear paths: gap years, transfers, CLEP exams, and thinking differently. [31:54] – Our reminder that there are always choices—and this is not the end of the story. IPre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we sit down with licensed therapist, writer, and divorce support group leader Oona Metz to have one of the most honest, grounding, and hope-filled conversations we’ve ever had about divorce—especially at midlife. We talk about why divorce still carries so much stigma, why so many women feel isolated and ashamed, and what actually helps people heal instead of staying stuck.Together, we explore the emotional reality of divorce, why it can feel like a total identity loss, and how healing doesn’t come from rushing forward—but from understanding the process. Oona shares the framework behind her new book, Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women, and helps normalize the heartbreak, chaos, growth, and transformation that so many women experience but rarely talk about out loud. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Welcome to Insights from the Couch and why this conversation matters so much at midlife [2:30] – Introducing Oona Metz and the inspiration behind Unhitched [5:15] – Why divorce still feels shameful—even though it’s so common [8:00] – Redefining “success” in marriage and letting go of outdated narratives [12:30] – The emotional tsunami of divorce and why uncertainty is so hard on the nervous system [15:30] – The five emotional phases of divorce: heartbreak, roller coaster, mending, letting go, and moving on [20:40] – Why people get stuck after divorce—and what actually helps them heal [24:30] – Letting go without pretending it was “okay” [28:00] – Forgiveness, reframed: releasing yourself, not excusing harm [33:00] – Why distraction and dating too soon can backfire [37:45] – The power of divorce support groups and not doing this alone [41:00] – What Oona hopes every woman knows about healing after divorce [43:00] – How to find Oona, her book, and free divorce resources Links and Resources:Oona Metz’s website and free divorce resources: https://www.oonametz.comBook: Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women by Oona Metz: https://www.amazon.com/Unhitched-Essential-Divorce-Guide-Women/dp/1668075385 If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. StaPre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

As we wrap up the year, we’re inviting you into a different kind of year-end ritual—one that’s less about resolutions and more about reflection. In this episode, we’re doing a midlife audit: looking honestly at what we’re ready to shed and what we want to intentionally carry forward into 2026. From other people’s opinions to outdated expectations, we’re talking about the emotional baggage that quietly drains our energy—and how freeing it can be to finally let it go.We also dig into what we’re keeping: connection, meaning, nervous system regulation, health, authenticity, and the freedom to live outside the status quo. This is a grounded, honest conversation about midlife as a season of shedding skins, reclaiming agency, and choosing a life that actually feels good to live. If you’re craving clarity, permission, and a more intentional way to step into the new year, this one’s for you. Episode Highlights:[0:46] – Kicking off a year-end audit instead of traditional resolutions [1:18] – The inspiration behind “not caring anymore” at midlife [3:03] – Letting go as a lifelong practice and why shedding gets easier with age [4:40] – Releasing other people’s opinions about our bodies, habits, and choices [7:44] – Being done with explaining ourselves—bedtimes included [9:28] – Downsizing, simplifying, and redefining what “home” needs to be now [13:09] – Midlife as a season of shedding and making space for what’s next [14:45] – Letting go of one-sided or draining friendships [16:43] – Prioritizing nervous system regulation and protecting our peace [17:42] – Giving up pretending we’re fine when we’re not [20:00] – Choosing depth, authenticity, and real conversations over small talk [22:06] – What we’re keeping: health, strength, movement, and time outdoors [24:56] – Filtering life through meaning, purpose, and connection [25:51] – Saying yes to connection and whole-body yeses [28:00] – Comfort over performance: clothes, shoes, and realistic expectations [30:08] – Speaking our truth, changing our minds, and honoring ourselves [31:02] – Letting go of the status quo and choosing a life that fits [34:44] – Remembering that life is happening now, not later If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Tracy McCarthy, a brilliant functional medicine physician and psychiatrist, to talk about what it really takes to heal—especially in midlife. We explored how functional medicine goes beyond symptom management and instead focuses on the root causes of chronic conditions like anxiety, fatigue, brain fog, and digestive issues. Tracy's perspective on how nutrition, inflammation, gut health, and lifestyle play into our mental and physical well-being is deeply empowering.As someone who works with women navigating health and identity shifts in midlife, I found this conversation to be a powerful reminder that healing is possible—and it doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. Dr. McCarthy shares how small, consistent changes can lead to massive improvements and how partnering with your body (not fighting it) is the key to long-term health. If you're curious about functional medicine, overwhelmed by your symptoms, or simply want to feel better in your body—this episode is for you.Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Kicking off with Dr. Tracy McCarthy and the power of functional medicine.[1:25] - Tracy shares her journey from psychiatry to root-cause healing.[6:13] - The common symptoms Tracy sees in midlife women.[8:04] - What the functional medicine intake and testing process looks like.[12:06] - The importance of patient participation in healing.[13:20] - Understanding the role of inflammation in chronic illness.[16:56] - A powerful case study that brought it all together.[21:27] - Gut health: the surprising link to mood and brain function.[25:12] - The mystery behind why autoimmune issues hit women harder.[34:14] - Prevention and aging: how much power we do have. [38:22] - What’s really driving the health crisis in America. [41:30] - Supplements that midlife women should consider adding. [47:03] - Dr. McCarthy’s course and how to start your own healing journey. [48:06] - My personal takeaway: healing starts with the first step.Resources:Dr. Tracy McCarthy’s Website: www.drtracymccarthy.comFree Guide: Top 10 Overlooked Causes of Brain Fog, Depression & Anxiety – https://www.drtracymccarthy.com/top10 Dr. McCarthy on Instagram: @drtracymccarthyFunctional Medicine Resources: Institute for Functional MedicineDr. McCarthy’s Online Program: The Natural Mood SolPre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you! 👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/ Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day.