Hey lady, welcome to Fall! This season is perfect for sweaters, soup, and shedding. As the temperature cools and you find yourself drawn inward, you can now use this time to shed some of the survival programming and strategies so that you can return to the true you. This week, Terri and Dr. Dom lovingly discuss how they’ve endured seasons of straight survival without even realizing it. Lady, hindsight is absolutely 20/20. One day you look back at the past couple of years you grit your way through despite not letting it show that you are going through it and say to yourself wow! The amount of life-changing, truly transformative events can blow your mind. But, once you get past the wave of emotions that may come up you now have an amazing opportunity to chart a course – one from a place of wholeness and abundance, not scratching and surviving. Tune in for strategies on how to optimize your time and your life now that you are in a place to do what you want to do, not only what you can or have to do. And, girl, if you are not a member of our Patreon you are missing out! We have exclusives, first look content, and real sister friend camaraderie that will help you expand both your mind and your community. We’re waiting for you!   Need a boost of passion? Love Unlimited lets you choose from premium brands for a curated selection of lingerie, toys, and wellness products to enhance your pleasure. For a limited time, take 25% off all of the lingerie at loveunlimited.com/herspace with code HERSPACE. 90 day Love It Guarantee on every order. Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Drive Boost for libido support. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, are you in control of your life? In today’s throwback episode, Jasmine Green joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share with us how we may not be in alignment with our purpose and steps we can take to get into alignment. No matter how your journey started, as we hear from Jasmine, does not have to be the route you continue to take. The internal experience of the entrepreneur we see is a powerfully vulnerable story and Jasmine shares with us how to transmute our energy. Through visualizations and personal examples we learn concrete steps to manifest the life we deserve.Quote of the Day:"You can only receive what you're actually ready for AND... You will only allow yourself to have what you believe you deserve."- Jasmine P. GreenTakeaways:Three phases of ManifestationTrue manifestation is when you master being it vs wanting it1. I want it because I recognize what I don’t have2. Close your eyes and visualize where you want to be ”this is mine”3. Whatever you believe you deserve you can have- you have everything you need to get/receive it. FB: JasminePaigeGreenIG: JasminepgreenResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: herspacepodcast@gmail.comH.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ Need a boost of passion? Choose from premium brands for a curated selection of lingerie, toys, and wellness products to enhance your pleasure. For a limited time, take 25% off all of the lingerie at www.loveunlimited.com/herspace with code HERSPACE. 90 day Love It Guarantee on every order.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, by now you know the most uncomfortable part of your becoming is just that, the discomfort. The next version of you requires a shedding of all of the ways that kept you safe because those ways are likely now what are keeping you small. Knowing that doesn’t make the actual act of shifting your life any easier, which is why Terri and Dr. Dom stop by this week to offer some comfort and a few strategies to help you navigate these changes in a way that is authentic to you. Whether it’s shifting a relationship by removing contact or allowing yourself to shatter your own worldview, there is a quiet power in making yourself comfortable in the liminal spaces in your life. So, how do you make the most of the vastness between the old and new you? Tune in this week for tips on how to cultivate a level of curiosity so that you can decorate your interior life with what feels real and true for you. Lady, this life is a journey – a beautiful, bumpy ride ripe with opportunities for meaning, connection, and impact. What do you want this life to feel like? Once you are clear, you can know for sure, that it is yours to be had. Happy creating, lady!   This episode is brought to you by VB Health, supplements that work. Check out Soaking Wet for vaginal health. With daily use, many people report improvements within 1–2 weeks. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri help us understand how we may be dimming our light through real-life examples. Now is the time for us to stop playing small and start “Shining, Shining, Yeah!”Quote of the Day:"Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same."- Marianne WilliamsonSylvia Salow’s 6 Secrets to Stop Dimming Your Light1. Observe Your Body2. Bring your awareness to your energetic field3. Find Out Why You Dim Your Light4. Find out how you would shine your light if no one is around.5. Know Your Soul's Blueprint6. Fill Yourself UpResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, this week Dr. Dom and Terri ask you one very important question: who is holding you? When the days get long, and the load is overwhelming, are you the only person you can rely on? If that sounds familiar then grab your favorite throw blanket, get cozy and let this episode swaddle you in self-care and self-compassion. There are many factors why the strong friend often gets overlooked when it’s time to be checked on or nurtured, but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t need or deserve the type of support she gives. Still, the strong friend can be her own worst enemy when it comes to receiving the care and tenderness she actually needs because she’s built a life of identifying silently suffering as a noble endeavor. And, when she finally looked around for who the adult in the room to help her she realized it was her. Terri and Dr. Dom share real-life scenarios where they were thrust into adulthood, gave insight to how they handled those situations, and reflected on what they needed in those moments. The what I wish I had knowns of life are often bittersweet because sometimes without warning you are on a new path with new responsibilities and new expectations from people. It can be…a lot. And, it doesn’t mean that these situations will stop but there are things that you can do to advocate for yourself. Do you know what will make you feel held and supported? Maybe it’s a call from a friend checking in or maybe it’s a hot bath where you can soak and ease your worries. Once you identify what you need practice asking for what you need with the strategies provided in this episode. Lady, you are your best investment so figure out what money can’t buy and build a life where you are held and held well.   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady! We know that not only are we living in interesting, unprecedented times but we’re also just living our regular lives and sometimes life be lifin’. Life is beautiful, abundant, and generous but it can also be raggedy, harsh, and tough. As much as we love being a part of the toolkit that helps keep you uplifted, you know that we always keep it real. That’s why in this week's throwback, Dr. Dom and Terri offer their grounded perspective about how to handle life when life is being a hot, ghetto mess.Adulting is often fun and wonderful. There are days as an adult when ice cream for breakfast is a thing because you’re grown. But, for the days when the laundry is piling up, the bills are due, the internal monologue is putting you through the ringer, the deep pain within is spilling out, you’re sick, or you’re just tired it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and like you’re getting it all wrong. Fear not, Terri and Dr. Dom offer ten truth bombs to help you keep everything in perspective as you get up and figure it out – like you always do! Adulting is often described as a series of responsibilities and actions that one takes to be a functioning member of society. But, this week Dr. Dom and Terri remind you that often adulting is finding the tools to complete those mundane tasks to satisfaction when life doesn’t feel good. So, grab your Cultivating H.E.R. Space latte mug (find it and more in the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop), fill it with your favorite cozy beverage, and allow this episode to be the warm hug, kiss on the cheek, or pat on the back for getting through the patches when life feels hard. Lady, no matter what’s going on keep your chin up and remember that we’re rooting for you! 10 Things to Remember When Adulting Gets Ghetto1. Crying doesn’t mean you’re losing — It means you’re releasing 2. You’re not weak — you’re carrying a lot right now 3. Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you’re not supported 4. It’s okay to miss people who are no longer in your life 5. Your ancestors would be so proud of you 6. It’s normal to grieve the life you thought you’d have by now 7. You are always worthy of love, even when you think you're a mess 8. You’re allowed to rest, even If nothing’s done 9. Your dream isn’t too big — It’s just being built on divine timing 10. Everything is going to be okay — even if it doesn’t look like it yetQuote of the Day:"Adulting is realizing that you have to take charge of your life, even when it's hard." – Unknown  Goal Map Like a Pro WorkbookCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary  Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC  Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook:See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! Have you ever been accused of being stuck-up, shy, rude, or flat-out a b*tch and you were simply existing? Other people’s projections land on you and suddenly you have a reputation for being anti-social or awkward while anxiety is beating your butt and you’re doing your best not to show it. Or, maybe you’re the one pre-emptively judging someone for their demeanor, creating stories about why they are behaving they way they are without pausing and finding a neutral space from which to observe the interaction. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri show some love to the socially selective, the socially anxious, and the downright awkward among us so that we can understand these relational dynamics and hopefully offer more compassion to ourselves and others. Why? Because we’re all doing life for the first time and we do not all have the answers but we can make the effort to help each other along the way. Have you noticed that certain situations trigger fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses from you? Dr. Dom offers an actionable toolkit to help you navigate those scenarios so you can enter spaces skillfully. And, Terri offers perspective about how you can give yourself grace because it is quite possible that you are reading the room accurately and acting perfectly appropriately even if other people misunderstand your behavior. Terri and Dr. Dom share their real-world experiences and how they’ve been able to adapt to situations while also identifying when they’ve personalized a situation without enough data or proper context. Lady, doing that can cause unforced errors in an otherwise fruitful potential relationship, so do yourself a favor, head over to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop, grab your journal and spend some time with the reflection questions offered in this episode. Lady, life is all about relationships so let’s expand our capacity to be in sisterhood by increasing our confidence and our understanding of our differences. We’re shaping this world into a beautiful one full of genuine authenticity!   We’re partnered with VB Health, a doctor-formulated supplement brand focused on sexual wellness you can trust. Featuring Drive Boost (libido support for all genders). Most users report results after 1–2 weeks of consistent use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Hey lady! Is there something on your heart, an idea you really want to get off of the ground, and you’re just waiting for the right time? Are you aware that there is no time like the present? Sure, maybe you’ve heard that old adage plenty of times, but it’s true. The only way to get better or even gauge where you are in the process is to start. In this week's throwback episode, Dr. Dom and Terri have a frank conversation about how they use fear to fuel their internal fire. This internal fire keeps them going to accomplish their personal and professional goals and it's one that you can cultivate for yourself. They offer game on some of the tricky instances that can trip us up along the way. And, in the Aftershow they offer tips on how to conquer them. This is a juicy, meaty episode with some useful additions to your toolkit. We’re here for our community so tap in and connect with us on Instagram and Patreon! Quote of the Day:“The Sun will rise and set regardless. What we choose to do with the light while it's here is up to us. Journey wisely.”― Alex ElleRegister here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop! Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCRide-Sharing Safety GuideTherapy for Black Men Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Lady! Are you in the mood for love but feeling allergic to shared finances, living together, and faking the funk of marital bliss? Don’t worry lady, this isn’t an episode for the lovestung cynics, it’s an ode to the changing nature of romantic relationships. Whether you eschew marriage altogether or you welcome long-term partnership but on your terms, we are thankfully in a time when new relationship templates are being welcomed and embraced by those who desire relationships. Previous generations often married for survival or necessity but this generation gets to partner based on shared values and goals. So, do you know what you want or need to be in a healthy relationship? Dr. Dom and Terri share some of their business as they illustrate how they defined what healthy relationships mean to them. Don’t feel left out! They’ve created the H.E.R. Relationship test, an assessment that will help you check the health of your current relationship or help you establish a framework of how you want to show up in your future relationship. They also reinforce that you don’t need to be with anyone to feel complete and if you do, you might want to talk to the lady about it. Book a consultation with Dr. Dom to discuss any issues of self-worth, attachment trauma, or self-esteem issues. Lady, the H.E.R. Relationship Test isn’t the only goodie in this episode but you’ll have to tune in to find out the other actionable items you can implement today to help you find a relationship that works best for you!   Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Soaking Wet, which supports vaginal health and balance. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lady! This week Dr. Dom and Terri discuss a touchy but necessary subject – how to deal with the office bully, especially when the office bully looks like you. By now we all know that being a mean girl is wack, late, and played out, but it is still a reality for some people in the office. So, how do you, as a grown woman with tools and skills, deal with those sticky, tricky, and often nuanced situations where the mean girl is trying to make you feel a way? Terri and Dr. Dom offer a few scenarios, from their lived and witnessed experiences, of how these experiences play out and how they can seriously impact your wellbeing. The good news is that there are strategies to deal with challenging work situations. So, when the skinfolk at your job are not acting like kinfolk, charge it to the game but keep your eyes open. How, you may ask? Tap in for a few tools for self-reflection and self-assessment so you can be aware of when that energy is coming at you, or when you are the energy that needs to be corrected. Keep growing, lady!   We’re partnered with VB Health, a doctor-formulated supplement brand focused on sexual wellness you can trust. Featuring Drive Boost (libido support for all genders). Most users report results after 1–2 weeks of consistent use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace at checkout for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Life is good...like REALLY good. In fact, it’s LIT. You’re “blessed and highly favored.” To the casual observer, everything on the outside appears to be wonderful. But on the inside...you feel empty. Lady, is this you? If so, you may be experiencing depression. What we know for sure is that ALL of us will experience symptoms of depression related to many normal life events like a relationship breakup, grief over a loss, or other stressors. For most of us, the feelings of sadness last for a few days at most. For others, if the symptoms last more than a two weeks we may be experiencing a major depressive episode. In today's throwback episode, Terri and Dom discuss what depression looks like; what are some causes; and why we need to reduce the stigma so that we can take care of ourselves. Terri shares with us pieces of her journey with depression and Dom addresses the uncomfortable topic of suicide.   Some Common Signs and Symptoms of Depression: Sadness Anger Loss of interest or pleasure Changes in sleep, weight, appetite   Quote of the Day: “I don’t think people understand how stressful it is to explain what’s going on in your head when you don’t even understand it yourself”- Anonymous   Takeaways: Take 5 minutes a day to pour into yourself (meditation, walking, talking with your support system) Check on your friends- especially the strong ones Mood Tracker app If you or someone you know ever has thoughts of suicide please contact National Suicide Prevention Hotline   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady! We talk a lot about loving yourself, and developing a deep relationship with yourself, and building a healthy practice of self-acceptance and devotion to oneself, but we typically keep it PG. Today, Dr. Dom and Terri talk about self-love holistically. Yes, lady, this week Dr. Dom and Terri discuss why deepening your relationship to your body and your pleasure is critical to you walking out in the world feeling fulfilled and full of joy. Terri offers perspective on how early programming from childhood, family, and religious dogma can block us from knowing ourselves deeply and intimately and Dr. Dom offers guidance to building that relationship with yourself. The fact of the matter is finding pleasure with, by, and for yourself is more than experiencing the juicy satisfaction of an orgasm. It’s helping you cultivate a practice of deep listening to yourself and your desires, and building a baseline of self-trust so that you can achieve the best sex you’ve ever had, even if it’s just you double-clicking your own mouse. So, lady, tap in so you can hear practical tips on keeping yourself healthy and happy with or without a partner!   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, before you make plans with your boo for the weekend, you may want to listen to this episode. This week Terri and Dom welcome Dr. Joy Cooper back for a much-needed conversation. In this week's throwback episode, the ladies dive into a different topic related to our gynecological health...STDs and STIs. If you remember what you learned in the sex-ed class in high school and the pamphlet in your doctor’s office... get ready because Dr. Joy is providing us with all of the updated terminology and statistics. Be sure to scroll down to check out the additional resources mentioned in the episode and links to contact Dr. Joy with your personal questions. Quote of the Day: "I called my best friend to tell her. We made a nickname up for it so we wouldn't have to use the words. We called it clouds." - Anonymous Takeaways: Dental Dams Female Condom Relevant Episode:  S4E3: The Burden of Fibroids for Black Women with Dr. Joy Cooper Follow Dr. Joy Cooper on Instagram: @thedrjoy Our Culture Care California residents: Send a DM to Dr. Joy on IG or  @ourculturecare Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady! Take a deep breath because this week Terri and Dr. Dom are about to bring it to you. A major part of growing and expanding is being present enough to be aware and accountable for your ish. That’s right, you can only go as deep with someone as you’ve gone with yourself. That means, are you having honest conversations with yourself that allow you to identify and address the areas where it’s you (not them) that needs to be accountable? Accountability is not easy to master but once you do, you’ll see real tangible results in the quality of your relationships. Dr. Dom and Terri give you a taste of what a healthy accountability practice looks like with actionable steps you can use in today’s mini episode.   Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Soaking Wet, which supports vaginal health and balance. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode.    Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest   Takeaways: Signs it's you: All of your problems are someone else's fault You take more than you give There's so much drama You have a major superiority complex You’re a Debbie Downer You only express love or admiration when you need something. How to make the change: Watch how people interact around you Monitor your own thoughts and actions Apologize more and seek understanding Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers  The Self Compassion Deck   Relevant Past Episodes: S5E3: A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness S5E4: How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name) S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What's it really like growing up as the daughter of an NBA player and the sister of a global icon? Shaya Bryant — daughter of NBA and European league legend Joe "Jellybean" Bryant, and sister of Kobe Bryant — joins Born To The Game for Part 1 of a deeply personal two-part conversation about family, legacy, identity, and life behind the fame. In this episode, Shaya opens up about: Growing up in a basketball family and moving overseas to Italy and Switzerland as a kid Learning Italian in months and the culture shock of returning to Philadelphia Her tight-knit bond with Kobe growing up — "thick as thieves," pranks, and no real fights Kobe's early work ethic, 6am gym sessions, and the moment that shaped the Mamba Mentality Her father Joe "Jellybean" Bryant as a present, playful dad and the lessons he instilled Navigating fame, privacy, and protecting her peace from public perception Motherhood, grief, and carrying her family's legacy forward on her own terms This is Part 1 of 2 — Part 2 drops next week with even more of Shaya's story. New episodes are live every Tuesday. Full videos are live every Wednesday on YouTube. Subscribe to Born To The Game for more honest conversations about culture, family, entertainment, ambition, and legacy. Find the Show: Born to the Game PodcastSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lady! If you’ve noticed by now the unofficial theme for this year is community. How to build it, how to engage with it, and how to be responsible with it. As we continue to expand our understanding of what it means to be in community with others, we have to keep our most vulnerable in mind. That’s right, how are we helping the babies and the young people navigate the world? This week, Dr. Dom and Terri offer a quick glimpse into ways we can help protect children’s peace. Are you being mindful of your conduct when in the presence of children? Studies show that kids are their most observant and absorbent of behavior and energy up to the age of 8 and it is our responsibility as community members to model what it is like to engage in ways that show self-respect and respect for others. Even if they aren’t your babies, they are somebody’s baby and they deserve an opportunity to have their innocence preserved and experience as peaceful a world as possible. Tune in for a few tips on how to walk in the world knowing that there are literally people who look up to you and take their cues from how you move in the world.   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all know what it feels like when someone violates our boundaries but how do we know when we are the boundary violator? Have you ever... offered unsolicited advice? Gossiped? Said what you would do if you were in someone’s situation? Asked personal questions? Interrupted someone in the middle of a conversation? Touched someone’s hair? Touched someone on the shoulder? Asked a coworker where they lived? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you, like most of us, have been a boundary violator. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom take us through multiple situations (including current events from pop culture and a subscriber question) in which we may be unintentionally invading someone’s personal space and offer us tips on how to navigate those situations.   Quote of the Day: "R-E-S-P-E-C-T...find out what it means to me!” - The Queen, Aretha Franklin   Takeaways: What to do if we violate the boundaries of others Apologize Be willing to listen Don’t take offense Ask for permission   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.