We tell women to speak up, set boundaries, advocate for themselves, negotiate for more, and stop waiting for permission. Great advice. But there's one tiny problem: What the hell are we actually supposed to say? Because knowing what you want and knowing how to ask for it are two very different skills. Especially when your brain decides to take an unscheduled vacation right when you need it most. Joining This Is Woman's Work is Emily Lampkin, author of Duct Tape and White Lies, founder of the Women Leader series, and a speaker and advisor with more than 25 years of experience helping women lead, succeed, and get what they want. In this episode, we explore: How to ask for what you want without overexplaining, oversharing, or apologizing What to say when you freeze in a difficult conversation and can't find the right words How to set boundaries and say no without feeling guilty or needing to justify yourself Why self-advocacy and self-promotion aren't bragging, and how to confidently communicate your value Practical strategies for asking for a raise, negotiating a promotion, and creating career opportunities Why every woman needs a "swimsuit friend" who will tell her the truth How to handle rejection, follow up when you're ghosted, and stop taking every no personally Why taking action before you feel ready is the secret to building confidence and getting what you want Because confidence doesn't come from getting every conversation right. It comes from trusting yourself enough to have the conversation. Thank you to our sponsors! To see what Scribe could look like for your team, head to https://scribe.how/TIWW  and mention TIWW for your first month of Scribe Capture free on select plans Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to https://heypolo.com/work or use code WORK and get 70% off your first year Connect with Emily:  Website: https://www.emilylampkin.com/  Book: https://www.emilylampkin.com/author  FB: https://www.facebook.com/emily.k.lampkin  LI: linkedin.com/in/emilylampkin  Related Podcast Episodes The 3 N’s - Negotiation, Networking & No with Kathryn Valentine | 327 201 / How To Find The Right Words When Creating Boundaries with Amy Green Smith Powerfully Likeable with Dr. Kate Mason | 364 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices