Why do we keep repeating patterns that don’t serve us? Today I'm sitting down with Sabrina Zohar, relationship coach, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, and author of the new book Why Am I Like This, to figure out why. We’re talking about the unconscious programming behind how we handle love, conflict, rejection, and even our own success. If you've ever over-given, stayed too long, or known exactly what you were doing while doing it anyway, you're in the right place. Sabrina walks through two questions that can interrupt an old belief before it makes a present-day decision, what self-abandonment looks like on a random Tuesday, and how all of it shapes what you think you're allowed to ask for and earn. You will feel seen. You will also feel a little called out. Share it with every woman in your life. Sabrina’s Links: Website: https://sabrinazohar.com/ Book: https://sabrinazohar.com/book Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠. 00:00 Intro 01:35 The pattern women swear isn't a pattern 02:40 Window of tolerance and why discomfort feels unbearable 08:10 The texting spiral, and the two questions that interrupt it 13:20 173 texts: what Sabrina understands about her younger self now 17:00 Gut vs. anxiety (does the pinch match the ouch?) 19:05 Being attached to the story of a relationship 22:55 Finding the belief underneath the behavior 27:45 When your "logical" brain makes the worst decisions 31:20 Getting out of your head and into your body 32:30 Hiring out of fear, and learning to trust yourself 41:35 What self-abandonment looks like on an ordinary day 44:30 Saying no, boundaries, and grieving who you lose 49:10 You're allowed to outgrow people 51:00 How worthiness shapes what you ask for and earn 56:15 Moving through shame instead of ruminating 66:05 Healing doesn't mean never getting triggered 70:05 What to do the moment you notice yourself shrinking 73:40 The self-trust marble jar Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The 2026 job market has been brutal. If you’ve been looking for a job, you know how tough it is. If you already have a job, I’m sure you’ve been told that you should just be grateful. Keep your head down, don’t make waves, ask for a raise when things "settle." My guest today thinks that instinct is completely backwards, and after this conversation, so do I. Kathryn Valentine –– executive coach, one of the country's leading experts on women's negotiation, and repeat guest –– coaches women inside communities like J.P. Morgan, Bain, and KPMG. And her work starts with an uncomfortable finding: women now negotiate as often as men, but succeed about half as often. Today we're talking about what to do when your company says there's no budget, why the timing of your ask matters so much, what AI gets wrong about your salary, and how to survive the messy middle of a negotiation without folding. If you've been telling yourself you'll just wait a year to ask, listen to this first. Kathryn’s Links: 76 Things You Can Negotiate at Work: http://76things.com/ Learn more about Kathryn Valentine: http://worthmorestrategies.com/   Negotiate Like a Woman with Kathryn Valentine: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/negotiate-like-a-woman/ Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠. 00:00 Intro 02:13 Why negotiation matters: career, stress, and $1M 05:24 Women ask now, but with the wrong tools 06:30 Negotiating during layoffs 08:28 The relational ask (and the WSJ advice that backfires) 11:36 Common negotiation mistakes women are told to make 13:12 What to ask for when raises are frozen 15:33 The 76 things you can negotiate 19:42 The gender gap goes way past base salary 26:42 In the room: what to say when it goes off-script 31:08 The three biggest mistakes that sink negotiations 34:15 How to find your market rate 37:32 "Ask a white guy" 40:34 Should you use AI to prep? 44:29 The average negotiation lasts 25 days 45:57 Live calculator: what one raise is worth 50:25 Who to talk to (and who to avoid) during a negotiation 56:54 Changing jobs when the economy is bad 59:25 When to leave corporate and build your own thing 66:27 Why mid-sized companies are best for flexibility 71:07 What to do this week Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Carleigh Bodrug is back! She's the CEO and founder of PlantYou, a #1 New York Times bestselling author, a self-taught plant-based home cook, and the author of the brand-new cookbook Quickies. Her first episode was one of our most-loved ever, so I brought her back to tackle one of the biggest line items on your budget right now: food. We get into why convenience wins at 6 PM, how to actually cut your grocery bill, how to stop throwing money in the trash (literally), and why a food system works the same way a money system does. It's practical, it's shame-free, and there is a salad kit eaten out of a mixing bowl. Carleigh’s Links: PlantYou Quickies book Carleigh's Instagram How to Lower Your Grocery Bill and Stop Food Waste Additional Resources Mentioned: millionaire mindset: parenting yourself episode Ready to take the confusion out of investing? Learn the exact methods to start investing, avoid the mistakes that cost people millions, and how to balance investing while paying off debt inside Stock Market School. Learn more here: ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod.   00:00 Intro 00:42 What Happens to Healthy Habits When You're Maxed Out 04:16 The Psychology of Pre-Cut Food 07:26 Shop Your Pantry First 11:15 The Deeper Psychology of Convenience 12:51 Cooking as an Investment in Yourself 18:23 Building a System That Beats Willpower 24:52 How "Quickies" Was Born 28:08 What Makes a Recipe Actually Quick 32:00 Perfection Is the Enemy of Good 35:33 Using Every Scrap: Reducing Food Waste 39:31 Cooking Is a Learned Skill 43:54 Rapid Fire Speed Round Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ready to take control of your money and finally start investing? Visit ⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ to register for our FREE workshop, Stock Market Secrets: Debunking Common Myths for Successful Investing to learn how to avoid common mistakes and how to build wealth without fear or confusion.  Today's episode is a little different from our normal format. It's my conversation with Jasmine Star on The Jasmine Star Show, and we're sharing it here because it goes deep into something I don't usually get asked about on my own show: the actual business mechanics behind Her First $100K. We talk about the $49 coaching sessions that started it all, the money story I inherited from my parents (and had to unlearn), the exact logic I used the night before I quit my job, and why "done is better than perfect" has become my whole content philosophy. If you're building something of your own, or thinking about it, this one's for you. Jasmine’s links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jasminestar  Website :https://jasminestar.com/  00:00   Intro & the story behind the name "Her First $100K" 02:25   Documenting the money journey publicly — and why that built accountability 04:27   Rebranding to Her First $100K, and her dad's reaction 06:30   The $49 coaching sessions that started it all 08:01   From coaching, to a $97 workshop, to a course 10:30  Tori's money story: safety, risk, and her parents' fear 14:19  Why women are conditioned to avoid risk 15:35  The night before she quit her job 18:54  "Give your dollars a job": the psychology of scaling income 24:21  Her First $100K's revenue model today 28:33  What's stayed the same (consistency) vs. what she let go of 31:58  Building an email list early, and current team structure 33:53  What Tori loves doing vs. what she's delegated 42:04  The "chin video" strategy: why imperfect content wins 44:54  "Done is better than perfect": hiring, imperfection, 2026 content trends 50:05  Owning success without performing false humility Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Almost everything you've ever been told about working out was tested on men. Today's guest is here to hand you the actual playbook for your body. The one that accounts for your hormones, your cycle, and your life stage instead of pretending you're just a smaller man. In today’s episode we’re talking to Dr. Stacy Sims––exercise physiologist, nutrition scientist, and one of the leading voices on training women's bodies––about why lifting heavy protects your brain (not just your muscles), why "toning" isn't even a real thing, how to actually train through menopause instead of white-knuckling it, and why your smartwatch might be lying to you about how tired you really are. If you've ever felt like the fitness industry wasn't built with you in mind, you're absolutely right, and Dr. Sims is going to tell you exactly what to do instead. Dr. Stacy’s Links: Website: https://www.drstacysims.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstacysims Ready to take control of your money and finally start investing? Visit https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod to register for our FREE workshop, Stock Market Secrets: Debunking Common Myths for Successful Investing to learn how to avoid common mistakes and how to balance investing with paying off debt so you can build wealth without fear or confusion. 00:00 Intro 00:50 The Fitness Industry's Blind Spot 02:14 When the Research Is Only About Men 04:16 Why Women Need Heavier Weights 05:42 Lifting Heavy Protects Your Brain 07:26 Strength Over Thinness 10:36 100 Healthy Years, Not Just 100 16:27 Why Women Fear Lifting Heavy 17:04 Pushing to Failure Is the Point 21:35 Where to Start: At Home, 10 Minutes 24:58 Why You Shouldn't Train Fasted 30:03 What to Eat Before You Lift 31:52 Training for Menopause, Not Against It 35:41 The Hormone Therapy Pendulum Swing 38:16 Why Girls Really Quit Sports 40:36 Your Smartwatch Is Lying to You 45:35 Relearning Your Body's Signals 46:57 Fitting Fitness Into a Busy Life 52:22 What Successful Women Know About Health 54:36 The 80/20 Rule for Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I'm answering your biggest questions about investing, retirement, and what to do with your money when the headlines start screaming recession. I get these questions constantly in my DMs, so I'm pulling the most asked — mortgage payoff vs. investing, the actual logistics of retirement withdrawals, what to do with an old 401(k) you've been ignoring, and how to finally get out of Edward Jones — and giving you real answers. My advice doesn't change based on who's in office or what the market's doing this week. It changes based on math, and I'm walking you through the math. Additional resources: How to Start Investing: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/how-to-invest/ What You Need to Know About Mortgages with NerdWallet’s Kate Wood: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/how-to-get-a-mortgage/ Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod. 00:00 Intro & Investing Mindset 04:41 Paying Off Your Mortgage vs. Investing 09:56 How to Withdraw Money in Retirement 16:51 Rolling Over Old Retirement Accounts 21:02 How to Leave Edward Jones 30:31 Wrap-Up & Credits Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I'm answering your biggest questions about investing, retirement, and what to do with your money when the headlines start screaming recession. I get these questions constantly in my DMs, so I'm pulling the most asked — mortgage payoff vs. investing, the actual logistics of retirement withdrawals, what to do with an old 401(k) you've been ignoring, and how to finally get out of Edward Jones — and giving you real answers. My advice doesn't change based on who's in office or what the market's doing this week. It changes based on math, and I'm walking you through the math. Additional resources: How to Start Investing: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/how-to-invest/ What You Need to Know About Mortgages with NerdWallet’s Kate Wood: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/how-to-get-a-mortgage/ Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod. 00:00 Intro & Investing Mindset 04:41 Paying Off Your Mortgage vs. Investing 09:56 How to Withdraw Money in Retirement 16:51 Rolling Over Old Retirement Accounts 21:02 How to Leave Edward Jones 30:31 Wrap-Up & Credits Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I recently sat down on a couch in beautiful Laguna Beach with four women who've made over $100 million combined. And what they have to say will change the way you think about business. This episode is different from our usual format. It's a live panel conversation recorded at a seven-figure entrepreneur mastermind, where I'm joined by Adley Kinsman (founder of Viralish, Vanessa Marin (licensed sex therapist and co-founder of Vanessa and Xander), Maria Wendt (entrepreneur and educator who's sold over $21 million in low-ticket products), and Natasha Willis (co-founder of School of Bots). Together we get into the self-sabotaging beliefs that keep people from starting a business, what money actually buys beyond the sexy parts of entrepreneurship, whether ambition and rest can coexist, and the money beliefs each of us had to unlearn to get here. Links: Adley Kinsman (Viralish) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adley Vanessa Marin (Vanessa and Xander) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/VanessaandXandr Maria Wendt Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maria.wendt Natasha Willis (School of Bots) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/NatashaTWillis Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠. 00:00 Intro 01:30 Self-sabotaging narratives and startup myths 04:25 From therapist to entrepreneur: overcoming the "business is dirty" belief 05:35 Making money is easier than you think 08:30 What entrepreneurship gives you beyond money 12:17 Identity before proof: what successful entrepreneurs know 14:55 The volume and obsession success requires 18:55 Ambition vs. rest: finding your version of "enough" 23:15 The moral responsibility to scale your business 29:43 Boundaries: what to share publicly 34:05 Money beliefs you had to unlearn 37:22 The ostrich effect: why you avoid your money 39:30 Making money vs. building a business Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If there’s one piece of info to take away from today’s guest, it’s that there’s no "perfect" moment to buy a home. It's about timing your life, not the market. In today’s episode, I sat down with repeat guest Daryl Fairweather –– Chief Economist at Redfin and author of Hate the Game: Economic Cheat Codes for Life, Love, and Work. We got into the real, updated math on buying a home in 2026: mortgage rates, whether prices have already peaked, the climate risk nobody's pricing in correctly, and the creative paths (co-buying, ADUs, house hacking) more people are turning to because the old rules just don't work anymore. If you've felt priced out, behind, or like homeownership might not be "in the cards" for you, this episode will change how you think about the whole decision. Daryl’s Links: Website: https://www.redfin.com/ Hate the Game book: https://www.hatethegamebook.com/ Daryl's IG: https://www.instagram.com/fairweatherphd/?hl=en Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠. 00:00 Intro 01:06 Is it too late to buy a home? 03:00 What winning looks like when the system feels unwinnable 04:27 Smart next moves for stuck renters and would-be buyers 06:34 Why housing may get more affordable over the next decade 08:21 Climate change and the coming insurance crisis 11:22 When does buying actually make sense? (the 5-year rule) 14:53 How job stability and housing go hand in hand 17:05 Preparing to buy: talk to a lender early 19:58 Rethinking the 20% down payment 21:16 Creative paths to homeownership: co-buying, ADUs, house hacking 25:07 Starter home vs. waiting for the dream home 27:39 How housing costs will reshape households and family life 28:58 Will the housing market crash? 32:29 Misconceptions keeping people stuck 35:54 What to do if you're priced out right now 37:24 The mindset shift: timing your life, not the market Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's a sentence I hear from women more than almost any other: "I'm bad with money." Today's guest spent six years proving that sentence isn't a fact — it's a belief, and beliefs can change. Nir Eyal, author of Beyond Belief, breaks down the science of why we get stuck telling ourselves the same money story, and exactly how to write a new one. In his new book, Beyond Belief, he digs into why the words that follow "I am" are so dangerous, and why getting comfortable with discomfort is the real skill behind almost every financial win. We get into identity, self-trust, why you can't see your own limiting beliefs (but can spot everyone else's), and the research that proves belief can override biology. This one will change how you talk to yourself about money. Nir’s Links: Free Belief Change Guide: www.nirandfar.com/beyond-belief-live  30-Day Belief Transformation Journal: nirandfar.com/beyond-belief  Website: http://nirandfar.com  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/nireyal/  Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠. 00:00 Intro  03:00 Facts vs. beliefs vs. faith  05:00 Identity and the danger of "I am" statements 06:00 Belief can override biology 09:00 Self-trust and building your own track record 12:00 The evolutionary reason your brain resists change 16:00 The mindset shift behind getting comfortable with discomfort 22:00 Byron Katie's four questions for examining a belief 26:00 Building a "portfolio of perspectives" 30:00 Naming systemic barriers without using them as an excuse 33:00 Choosing the belief that serves you 35:00 Locus of control — why believing you have agency changes outcomes 42:00 Challenging your thinking without tipping into toxic positivity 44:00 Why manifesting backfires (and what works instead) 49:00 Mental contrasting  52:00 Why chaos and struggle mean you're alive 54:00 Tori's own story of choosing to feel pain instead of avoiding it 55:00 The rat study — how belief in possible rescue changes persistence 1:00:00 Persistence over intelligence — the real predictor of success Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special replay episode I sat down with the “godfather of financial independence” aka JL Collins,  to demystify investing in the most approachable way possible. JL has been in the game for over 50 years and wrote The Simple Path to Wealth—a book that’s helped nearly a million people understand how to grow their money with confidence. And today, he’s breaking it all down for you. We get real about what investing actually is, why you don’t need a finance degree to build wealth, and how the entire financial industry has tried to gatekeep this information. JL shares why index funds are his go-to, how to avoid common investing mistakes, and why market dips aren’t disasters—they’re opportunities. Whether you’re brand new to investing or just want a no-BS refresh on the basics, this conversation is for you. JL’s Links: The Simple Path to Wealth: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Simple-Path-to-Wealth-(Revised- Expanded-Edition)/JL-Collins/9798893310474 Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠. 00:00 Intro 03:24 Personal Finance Beginnings 06:44 The Birth of a Financial Blog 14:26 Understanding Index Funds 28:31 The FIRE Movement Explained 36:02 Calculating Financial Independence 40:28 Market Volatility: Should You Change Your Strategy? 44:48 Adjusting Investment Strategies Near Retirement 53:44 Ethical Investing: Pros and Cons 01:01:21 The Role of Financial Advisors 01:06:53 Key Insights for Successful Investing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

College is expensive, but there's money on the table that most families never touch. Today's guest walked away from college completely debt-free, not because she was a straight-A student or a star athlete, but because she treated scholarships like a system instead of a luck-based lottery. Jocelyn Pearson, founder of The Scholarship System, has since helped families across the US secure almost $17 million in scholarships. We get into the myths keeping families from even trying, why the small-dollar scholarships matter more than the $100K ones, how to build reusable application materials so you're not starting from scratch every time. If you've got a student headed to college (or you're the student), this one is required listening. Jocelyn’s links: Free webinar: https://thescholarshipsystem.com/financialfeminist  Scholarship Superpower Quiz: thescholarshipsystem.com/financialfeministquiz  Not sure what to do with your money? Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ and take our FREE quiz to get your personalized money plan, and find any resources mentioned on our show! 00:00 Intro 01:18 Jocelyn's $126K Scholarship Story 03:41 Why Strategy Beats Luck 04:13 The 4 Biggest Scholarship Myths 07:18 The Real Reason Families Don't Apply 10:51 The "All or Nothing" Mindset 13:43 Building a Reusable Essay System 16:32 Other Reusable Application Assets 17:13 What Committees Are Really Looking For 21:05 How to Talk About Your Major 21:59 Who Wins When Two Finalists Are Equal 23:31 How (and How Not) to Use AI 27:35 The Overlooked Small-Dollar Scholarships 33:28 Department Scholarships & Asking for More 33:30 When Your Financial Situation Changes 35:21 Navigating the Middle-Income Gap 47:47 The Student Loan Forgiveness Reality Check 49:52 The True Cost of Co-Signing 52:54 The #1 Trait of Successful Scholarship Families 54:53 Jocelyn's Free Resources & Quiz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it mean to live a truly “rich life?” This is a re-release of one of our favorite conversations: Tori sits down with Ramit Sethi, New York Times bestselling author of I Will Teach You To Be Rich and host of the Netflix show How to Get Rich. They get into what it actually means to build a rich life, why renting can beat buying even when you can afford to buy, how to negotiate literally everything (including your rent), and what couples are really fighting about when they fight about money — hint: it's never actually about Target. Ramit’s Links: Website: https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ramit/?hl=en Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/money-for-couples-with-ramit-sethi/id1577864998 Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan here: https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod. 00:00 Intro: What Is a Rich Life? 01:13 Ramit's First Money Memory 05:01 It's Expensive to Be Poor 05:20 Playing the Game While Changing the System 07:25 Why High School Finance Classes Don't Work 11:13 The Case for Renting Over Buying 17:21 How to Negotiate Your Rent 22:38 Building a Course Business 24:44 What Couples Actually Fight About 27:58 Defining Your Rich Life 35:50 What Women Are Taught About Money 37:17 The Money Dial Exercise 38:37 The Michelin Star Story 40:38 Money & Marriage: Ramit's Personal Experience 42:30 The Monthly Money Date 44:03 Gendered Fears in Relationships 51:44 Women Out-Earning Their Partners 52:05 The $400K Debt Couple 53:02 Your Feelings About Money ≠ Your Balance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve been struggling to break free from credit card debt––you’re in the right place. In this episode, we’re replaying one of our most commonly requested topics: credit card debt. We’ll uncover how sneaky interest rates can chip away at your hard-earned money every single day and explore powerful strategies to help you tackle that high-interest debt so you can finally breathe easy. As someone who’s dedicated to helping women save money, invest, and feel financially confident, I firmly believe that understanding your debt is the first crucial step in breaking free from it. When we take back control of our finances, we collectively fight the patriarchy—by making ourselves richer, savvier, and fully in control of our money.  Check to see if you qualify for my partner personal loan recommendation* (doesn’t hurt your credit score!) *Terms apply: https://soficreator.pxf.io/c/1408818/2083784/25681?subId1=podcast&subId2=bonusep&adcampaigngroup=lending&adnetwork=brand  Not sure where to start on your financial journey? Take our FREE money personality quiz! https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod 00:00 Intro 00:48 Understanding credit card debt 02:26 How debt and interest work 07:20 Strategies for paying off debt 08:32 Using credit cards responsibly 14:53 Emergency funds vs. debt payoff 19:16 Debt payoff methods: snowball vs. avalanche 22:36 The role of personal loans 32:30 Setting financial goals and staying motivated Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we’re bringing you a special replay crossover episode with Lucie Fink — podcast host, video producer, digital educator, and host of “The Real Stuff with Lucie Fink.” In this insightful conversation, Tori details her journey to becoming a multimillionaire, demystifying the concept of "coast FIRE" and the significance of reaching that initial $100,000 savings goal. Tori generously shares her knowledge on effective investment strategies and highlights the power of financial literacy. This discussion goes beyond building wealth — it's a call to normalize conversations about money, sex, societal norms, and navigating the balance between privacy and openness in our personal lives. Lucie’s links: The Real Stuff Podcast: https://lnk.to/TheRealStuffWithLucieFink  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luciebfink/  Talking about money with your partner can be hard, but it’s necessary. Visit https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod to download our Money Conversation Cards –– 30 question cards to help spark fun, intimate, and beneficial conversations about money with your partner.00:00 The power of financial stability 07:16 From her first $100K to multi-millionaire 29:41 Navigating the challenges of financial transparency and safety  39:12 Authenticity, success, and mental health online 40:17 Addressing internet trolls and financial transparency 41:42 Navigating body image  47:50 Exploring confidence, pain, and self-care 50:07 Discussing future plans and personal growth 51:57 The realities of publishing and achieving milestones 54:39 Personal relationships and privacy boundaries 01:03:17 The importance of financial conversations in relationships 01:11:00 Understanding prenups and financial independence Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To work to change a system, you have to understand it first. But as today’s guest will show you, it turns out our understanding of American patriarchy is completely different than what we thought it was. Today I sat down with Anna Malaika Tubbs –– two-time New York Times bestselling author, sociologist, and storyteller with a PhD in sociology and a master's in gender studies from the University of Cambridge, plus a BA from Stanford (whew!) — and we're talking about American patriarchy. We get into why the Founding Fathers and the Constitution are inherently patriarchal, what history actually teaches us about how change happens, and why Anna wasn't surprised by Trump's reelection. I threw out almost every prepared question because this conversation was that good. This episode will make you furious and hopeful in the same breath. Anna’s links: Website: http://annamalaikatubbs.com   Erased by Anna Malaike Tubbs:  https://bookshop.org/a/90037/9781250876690  The Three Mothers by Anna Malaika Tubbs: https://bookshop.org/a/90037/9781250756138  Also mentioned in this episode: Steve Phillips, How We Win the Civil War: https://bookshop.org/a/90037/9781620978481 Sarah McBride on Why the Left Lost on Trans Rights | The Ezra Klein Show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KlbNFsAGFRc  Bookshop.org website:  http://Bookshop.org  Not sure what to do with your money? Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ and take our FREE Money Plan Quiz to get your personalized money plan, and find any resources mentioned on our show   00:00 Intro 01:40 What "American patriarchy" actually means 06:37 The Founding Fathers' blueprint  15:21 The tug-of-war at the center of all American history 19:19 Why Trump's re-election wasn't a surprise 25:10 How slow progressive change actually works 31:55 Do all roads lead back to patriarchy? 36:04 "We haven't arrived anywhere new" 45:28 Moving rights to the states: a repeating tactic 52:48 Can you get rich in a system that wasn't built for you? 58:51 The power you already have Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A video I posted about the tradwife movement blew up, and the comments made one thing clear: most people are using "tradwife" and "stay-at-home mom" interchangeably. They are not the same thing, and the difference matters. In this episode, I'm breaking down what a tradwife actually is versus what Tiffany Dufu calls a "non-compensated working mom," why romanticizing financial dependence is dangerous no matter how happy your marriage is right now, and the seven concrete moves every woman; married, partnered, or neither; needs to make to protect herself financially. This isn't anti-marriage or anti-stay-at-home mom. It's pro protecting you from financial ruin. Not sure what to do with your money? Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠  and take our FREE Money Plan Quiz to get your personalized money plan, and find any resources mentioned on our show. 00:00 Intro: The 15-word post that broke the internet 00:37 Meet Tori + episode overview 01:46 What is a tradwife, actually? 02:32 Why the tradwife aesthetic is so appealing 04:21 The Ballerina Farm irony 05:01 Tradwife vs. stay-at-home mom: not the same thing 06:39 Tori's parents: how to stay home without losing financial power 07:52 Why women hand over financial control 11:09 "Your boss can starve you too" — debunked 12:10 "Just marry the right man" — what the data says 15:28 Tradwife trend = burnout in a sundress 15:44 The real villain: the system, not the woman 18:28 The 7-step financial protection plan 18:48 1. Put your name on everything 19:13 2. Have your own money 19:51 3. Keep your credit alive 20:08 4. Know every number 21:08 5. Keep your skills and network warm 21:38 6. Know your legal protections 23:00 7. Have the "what if" conversation 23:37 Closing: bet on yourself Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this edition of Study Hall, I'm compiling all of our best credit card debt advice into one place so you can stop Googling in a shame spiral at 2 a.m. and actually understand what's going on with your debt. I'm breaking down how interest really works (and why credit card debt is uniquely expensive), walking you through step-by-step payoff strategies,  including the avalanche method, the Debt Free Guys' lasso method, and using personal loans to consolidate, and I'm finishing with some real talk about why shame is the worst debt payoff strategy on the planet. If you're carrying credit card debt and you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like it's somehow your fault: this episode is your starting line. Pay off credit card debt fast. Check your eligibility without it affecting your credit score. Go to ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/payoff to see if you qualify. Terms apply. 00:00 What makes up debt?  01:00 How credit card interest actually works 04:00 Why credit card debt compounds into a "slippery slope" 05:30 Paying down the principal to reduce total cost 06:30 Getting your debt payoff plan together 07:00 Step-by-step: list debts, calculate payments, find extra 08:30 The avalanche method explained 09:30 Tori's Toyota story: paying toward principal 12:00 The Debt Lasso Method with the Debt Free Guys 16:00 Why balance transfers only work with a real plan 18:30 Personal loans: what they are and why they work 22:00 Simple interest vs. compound interest for debt 23:00 Things to consider before getting a personal loan 25:00 When personal loans are NOT the right move 28:00 What personal loans should NOT be used for 29:00 Debt settlement and your rights as a consumer with Leslie Tayne, Esq. 31:00 The Fair Debt Collection Practices Act 33:00 Tori's closing pep talk: debt is not a personal failing 35:00 Goal-setting hack: specific, timely, and mission-driven 37:00 Writing goals in past tense — the visualization hack Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I'm sitting down for another chat with one of my favorite guests, Danielle Robay. Danielle’s a TV host, journalist, host of Question Everything, co-executive producer of Bookmarked alongside Reese Witherspoon, and also one of my IRL good friends (a friendship that started, fittingly, as a work relationship). We're getting into how to turn relationships into your next job, business, or opportunity, and what to stop doing immediately if you want to earn more. Danielle reframes "networking" as long-game relationship-building, hands you a follow-up template you can use tomorrow, and explains why the cold "can I pick your brain?" email is going straight to the trash. If you're in transition — graduating, switching careers, getting a business off the ground — this one's for you.  Danielle’s links: Website: https://www.daniellerobay.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellerobay/ Danielle's podcast: https://www.daniellerobay.com/prettysmart Question Everything card game: https://questioneverything.us/    Catch our other podcast episodes with Danielle: How to be the Most Interesting Person in the Room with Danielle Robay: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/ask-better-questions/ Owning Your Ambition with Danielle Robay: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/owning-your-ambition-danielle-robay/  Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ to grab our free Goal Setting Worksheet for a framework that will help you set actionable goals to take your dreams from ‘hope’ to ‘action.’   00:00 Intro  00:59 Why ambitious women network constantly but don't earn more 02:30 How Danielle's relationship to networking changed as her platform grew 04:30 The invented husband + two kids: a boundary hack 06:00 What makes a bad ask (and how to make a good one) 08:00 The "Quick question" subject-line hack 09:00 Why the "why" matters more than the "how" 11:00 Curiosity is a skill — and you already have it 13:00 The bamboo plant story 17:00 How to stay motivated when nobody's replying 19:00 What high earners do differently when they network 22:00 "What's your biggest pain point?" — the email that lands interviews 26:00 Mid-episode: free goal-setting worksheet 27:00 Where women network in ways that get them liked but not paid 33:00 The networking habit to stop immediately 35:00 Role play: how to follow up in 4 real scenarios 42:00 Getting into rooms where decisions and dollars are made 44:00 The #1 shift to make this year: throw the event Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've been checking every box, hitting every goal, and somehow feeling further away from yourself than ever, this episode is for you. Our guest today is Michelle Razavi, and she’s back with an important message. Since she was last on the show, she and her co-founder Nikki have grown their business Elavi into a multimillion-dollar business now in Costco, Whole Foods, H-E-B, and Thrive Market. Michelle is one of the rare founders who builds with absolute tenacity and protects her peace. In this episode we get into the neuroscience of why hustle mode is working against you, the tech boundaries that actually hold, the real psychology of why you won't delegate, and what it takes to build as a woman of color when the odds are stacked against you.  MIchelle’s links: Website: https://elavi.co/  Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ to grab a copy of our free Side Hustle Skill Finder to figure out exactly which of your existing skills can make you money!   00:00 Intro  03:30 Energy management vs. time management 05:00 Executive function vs fight-or-flight  09:30 Getting comfortable being uncomfortable 14:00 "Why isn't it happening for me?"  19:00 Urgent vs. important 24:00 "Can it wait?" and "Is this serving me?" 27:00 The physical first signs of burnout  36:00 When online harassment becomes a panic response 40:00 You can't go from chaos to calm in two minutes 42:00 The five senses checklist + sitting on the ground 44:00 Redefining relationships and "balance" across seasons 47:00 Technology boundaries that actually hold 54:00 Let's rebrand delegation: accepting 80% 59:00 Building as a woman of color when people doubt you 1:05:00 Envy as information 1:09:00 One small shift this week: put your phone away Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices