*Content warning, this episode takes on the complex topic of consent in the context of recent viral content, like Dr. Joanna and James Howe's comments "[we] don't do consent … we do marriage," The Netflix Docuseries "The Death of the Pastor's Wife," and the Cornell Seven. We talk about marital rape, consent education, sexual agency, purity culture and much more. The last twenty minutes of this episode is exclusive to Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/wheredowegopod From viral claims about doing marriage rather than consent, to the history of marital rape laws, we examine how cultural and religious messages about sex can reinforce male entitlement, female duty, and the idea that commitment overrides bodily autonomy. We also discuss the role of pornography and media in shaping sexual expectations, and why healthy sexual relationships require ongoing consent, communication, trust, and attunement. We further explore what marriage has to do with consent, unpacking the harmful idea that marriage creates an automatic sexual obligation, exploring how purity culture and religious teachings can distort our understanding of consent, sexuality, and healthy relationships. We discuss how to educate children and teens to construct their own boundaries and respect the boundaries of others. We explore practical ways to teach bodily agency from an early age, model consent in everyday interactions, and have open, age-appropriate conversations about sex and relationships. We also consider how churches and faith communities can challenge harmful teachings and help foster a culture of consent, mutual respect, and sexual well-being. In this episode, we discuss: Consent versus sexual obligation in marriage How purity culture distorts our understanding of sex, consent, and gender roles Marital rape laws and changing societal attitudes toward sexual violence The influence of pornography and media on sexual expectations Why consent must be ongoing, enthusiastic, and freely given Bodily agency, boundaries, and consent education for children and teens Practical parenting strategies for modeling consent and respecting boundaries The importance of trust, communication, and attunement in sexual relationships How religious teachings and hierarchical power structures can undermine consent The role of churches and faith communities in promoting healthy sexuality and preventing sexual violence Key takeaways: Marriage is not blanket consent. Commitment never removes a person's right to say no. Consent is ongoing. It can be withdrawn at any time, including within marriage or an established relationship. Purity culture can cause lasting harm. Teachings about male entitlement, female sexual duty, and sexual shame can leave people unprepared for healthy relationships. Consent education starts in childhood. Teaching children that their bodies belong to them helps establish the foundations of bodily autonomy and respect. Healthy relationships require more than a yes. Trust, communication, mutual respect, and attunement help partners recognize and respond to one another's needs and boundaries. Faith communities can make a difference. Churches can challenge harmful sexual teachings and make consent a central part of conversations about love, relationships, and human dignity. Consent Can't Wait: www.consent.gov.au particularly https://www.consent.gov.au/infographic