Today, Lou looks into the pervasive issue of self-sabotage, a challenge that many face when striving for personal goals, whether related to fitness, business, or life events. She explores the psychological mechanisms behind self-sabotage, including fear of failure, imposter syndrome, and all-or-nothing thinking. KEY TAKEAWAYS Self-sabotage occurs when individuals act against their best interests and goals, often due to fear of failure, fear of success, or imposter syndrome. Recognising these patterns is the first step in overcoming them. Practising self-compassion can help individuals recover from setbacks more quickly and maintain consistency in their efforts. It allows for a more forgiving mindset, reducing the likelihood of self-sabotage. Focusing on process goals (e.g., completing training sessions) rather than solely on outcome goals (e.g., achieving a specific time) can reduce anxiety and increase motivation, making it easier to stay on track. Visualising potential triggers for self-sabotage and preparing helpful responses can help individuals manage stress and anxiety. Having a bare minimum plan for tough days can also keep progress moving forward. Sharing intentions and goals with friends, coaches, or support groups can significantly increase accountability and follow-through. Social support plays a crucial role in maintaining motivation and commitment to goals. BEST MOMENTS "Self-sabotage is when you get in your own way, acting against your best interests and goals." "When something matters to us, the stakes feel really high, and if we fall short, it feels like a reflection of our worth." "Self-compassion isn't about making excuses; it helps people recover from lapses faster and stay more consistent over time." "One slip is not a failure; it's just data that we can then use to learn from or do something better next time." "Every small action is a vote for the person you want to become." VALUABLE RESOURCES https://linktr.ee/theexerciseengineer lou@theexerciseengineer.com ATHENA Nutrition for Females: https://t.cfjump.com/90866/t/89892 Apply to be coached by me here: https://tr.ee/TFsv2VpeG4 HOST BIO Lou's personal journey with body confidence and food struggles began at the age of 15, where overeating and guilt around food consumed her. But everything changed during the lockdown in March 2020. Determined to regain control, Lou immersed herself in research, found joy in working out in her garden, and started tracking her nutrition and steps. Surprisingly, she lost a stone in less than three months and discovered a newfound love for fitness. Fuelling her passion, Lou pursued personal training qualifications and launched her Instagram page in September 2020. After months of building a solid foundation, branding, and gaining relevant expertise, she started helping others achieve what once felt impossible—losing fat, feeling empowered, and loving the journey without restrictions. With numerous success stories, digital products, and a thriving membership program called Train with Lou, Lou now coaches, teaches, and learns about food, exercise, and mindset. This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/